Steven T Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 I have been single now for nearly a year. I recently looked at a picture of my ex and I don't find her attractive! When I was in the relationship she was the most gorgeous girl I had laid eyes on. I don't understand this. What does this mean?
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Beauty is often more than what we see with our eyes, maybe while you were with her you were blinded to other things and you can see clearly now? Either way it means that you are over her, so that's a good thing right? 2
The Great Gazoo Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Beauty is often more than what we see with our eyes, That is so true...
KathyM Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Since you have no feelings for that ex anymore, you are viewing her only based on her physical appearance now, rather than any emotional or personality aspects, and her physical appearance alone may not appeal to you so much without those other factors involved. You're basically seeing her as others might who have no emotional attachment to her. People in a relationship tend to see their partner through rose colored glasses when they have romantic feelings for that person, and the person may seem more attractive than they would to others. I think that's what's going on. You are no longer looking at her through those rose colored glasses, since you no longer have feelings for her. 1
yessy21 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 As you grow older... your taste in things change, not only that but you grow as a person. Maybe before she was what you were looking for in someone and now shes the opposite. Oh yeah... and your defenitley over her.
Author Steven T Posted April 13, 2012 Author Posted April 13, 2012 Wow thanks for your replies they make perfect sense. It's certainly means I am over her as I didn't feel a thing when I looked at the picture. It just goes to show that we are all capable of moving on from someone who we thought was our true love. 2
Frank13 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 I read somewhere that this is actually part of the physiology of the brain and love. When you fall in love with someone, their beauty is magnified. We are designed this way, just as jealousy is designed to keep people together to reproduce.
sweetheart5381 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 I read somewhere that this is actually part of the physiology of the brain and love. When you fall in love with someone, their beauty is magnified. We are designed this way, just as jealousy is designed to keep people together to reproduce. Yes, this sounds so very true. When I first met my ex, I didn't find him terribly attractive, although we shared an undefined connection. Over time as we dated, he became much more attractive, til I eventually found him to be the most attractive man in the world - forget Johnny Depp, George Clooney, I would rather look at him hands down!! We see each other everyday at work now and what helps me to heal is to remind myself of that time before the romantic relationship when I paid him no mind, my heart didnt skip a beat when I saw him, etc. In fact, for quite a time while he was courting me I didn't even notice him. He was just another guy out "fishing". I'm looking forward to looking at him one day and thinking, "meh, he's ok, but he's no Johnny Depp." 1
yessy21 Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 I read somewhere that this is actually part of the physiology of the brain and love. When you fall in love with someone, their beauty is magnified. We are designed this way, just as jealousy is designed to keep people together to reproduce. I learn something new everyday.
yessy21 Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 It takes time and a great deal of dissapointment for some people to fall out of "Love".
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 17, 2012 Posted April 17, 2012 I was NOT physically attracted to my ex AT ALL. PERIOD at first. He was grossly overweight, and did not take care of his health with real exercise, was lazy and ate ALL the freaking time, but........in the beginning he was so damned charming, said all the right things; the conversations were such that we clicked on every level and a chemistry was there. Suddenly this Shrek-looking guy looked like Prince Charming. He became beautiful to me just by the personality he showed me.....Then came his true colors. He became repulsive to me after each insult, after everything he was doing to me. Fast forward to that time about a month or so ago when I found a picture of him online---I took one look and said to myself "OMG, what was I on????What was I thinking"; he gained even MORE weight since I saw him last and looked tired, washed out, very pale/unhealthy looking. And he was sitting with his attractive new g/f. He has the gift of gab.
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