hemrone Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 we've recently just had a row over the phone and then over text. She wanted me to come to some big meal party to meet some of her friends but i bailed out because I was genuniely not feeling up to it after having bad stomach pains through out the day. My response from her was upsetting; instead of saying it's okay which I would of done for her (i said this) she had a tantrum on the phone about me always letting her down when it comes to doing things with her friends or family and she told me to man up and come to the meal. 'unless your throwing up i dont see why you cant come' she said which just annoyed me even more and i just said no, i can't i really dont feel up to it, have a good time, good bye. then the arguement continued over text and now she said she's not going to talk to me over the phone unless it's important and shes not busy. Last time i checked i was in this relationship to be with her not her friends and i do see her family often... it's not the first time she's flipped out or got angry with me over silly things she gets very stressed and is always busy and tries to be busy even when she is not. i am however the direct opposite and taking care of my body and mind is a priority to me so if i need to rest or have the time to relax, i will. she can't rest or relax, she also has OCD and is very controlling at times. Life is a constant battle for her and it's stressing me out let alone her. so now i'm at a crossroads i'm sure that we will make contact again after her meal but she's going to be massively annoyed to say the least. i'm getting tired of trying to find solutions to difficult situations like these and this time i'm not sure what to do. I feel really guilty I couldn't go to this meal too Any kind words of advice would be much appreciated, Thank you
thatone Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 She's playing you because of that guilt, get rid of it. Then when your mind is clear you'll be more apt to respond how you need to,which is to ignore her until you feel motivated to put her in her place, and when you've had enough, leave her.
Professor X Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 I am finding it hard to believe you didn't go due to some stomach ache, since you mentioned she said you ALWAYS bail on her when she's trying to introduce you to her friends. Why is that? You shy? Social anxiety? She wanna show you off, you should be proud of it. Besides, while you are in a RS with her, it doesn't mean you need to box yourself - she wants to make you a part of more aspects of her life, as should you. Sorry, but if you flake on her a lot, than you're to be blamed.
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