redrose Posted June 17, 2004 Posted June 17, 2004 The guy I'm seeing is getting divorced, the issue i've got is with this couple, the guy is his best friend and the wife is his ex's best friend. Which means I'll never be welcomed so should he not go to functions that they have etc... he's separated from his wife has been for a year... the wife of his best friend of course is his soon to be x's best friend. So I'm not welcome at there functions....
Fayebelle Posted June 17, 2004 Posted June 17, 2004 I'm terribly confused- You are dating a married man and worry that his wife won't want you at functions?????? PLEASE clarify
thecake Posted June 17, 2004 Posted June 17, 2004 You're saying that the best friend of your boyfriend is married the best friend of your boyfriends soon to be ex-wife? So, you've been having an affair with a married man...did his wife find out about you or does she not know about you yet?
Author redrose Posted June 17, 2004 Author Posted June 17, 2004 she nows about me... but the question was should he still be hanging with those same friends..... and yes I guess you can say I'm seeing a married man, if that's the what you want to keep pointing out ... the rules of waiting a year, quite a long time to have NO contact with the opposite sex, so I guess go ahead and judge....
FreeMe Posted June 17, 2004 Posted June 17, 2004 People - she said he's SEPARATED and has been for a year. Are separated people not allowed to date now?? If he's serious about you then he shouldn't attend most functions without you. If it's something major, like a wedding or something, and he was really expected to go, then that may be different. In general, if they invite him and not you, he shouldn't go.
Fayebelle Posted June 17, 2004 Posted June 17, 2004 Originally posted by redrose The guy I'm seeing is getting divorced, the issue i've got is with this couple, the guy is his best friend and the wife is his ex's best friend. Which means I'll never be welcomed so should he not go to functions that they have etc... I'm sorry Redrose- for some reason this was the only portion of your post that showed the first time I saw it. I wasn't passing judgement-I just couldn't figure out what the deal was. I thought he was still married and you wanted to go to functions w/ him and his wife. Whatever-I'm a dork:) This is tricky but if they've been seperated a year and she knows about you she can't expect you to be invisable. Small private functions could be alternated until everyone is a bit more comfortable but a wedding should be a social enough situation for you all to attend. Is it a large wedding? You probally wouldn't even see each other that often. Eventually you'll all run into each other so why not have it planned at a party where everyone can focus on the happiness of the new couple AND be surrounded by their friends to relieve some of the tension? What does your BF think you should do?
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