Itsonlyme66 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 As many of you on here know, my ex-fiance left me for the 14th and last time on 2/17. I haven't heard from him. Basically last words were "you'll be fine and find someone else....take care....if you need to talk again call me and i will try to answer but don't leave me anymore voice mails....oh and I refuse to discuss this further." (contradiction in terms).... Well, it's been 2 months. I do not know where he is living. He packed up his truck and left. Told me the town, and when he sends me the mortgage bill, I see it's post-stamped where he said he would be.... but I don't really know. The way he left was once again, over small things... I had no notice. He said he was leaving me, and within 3 days he was gone, leaving a mess in the garage of spilled nails and junk. So now I am at the point - after healing for a couple of months, where I need to address some other issues. The mortgage is in his name only. We are in FL. We are both on the deed. He is not paying any of the bills now that he left. We lived here together 6 years. Basically I'm struggling to pick up the utility bills and the food, things he helped with when he was here.... I'm short about $500 a month. He told me it was "my" house and if I didn't like it to get his name off of it. I can't because I don't have the credit to put it in my name and I don't know of anyone I could transfer it to. He said if I couldn't make it financially alone here that I needed to move. Well, my mother is 89 and lives across the street and I am her caregiver, not to mention that my daughter is attending school for the next 3 years 10 houses away from where we live. So she can walk there. We have lived here (kids and I) for 13 years. He came in, took over the mortgage, and lived here with us for 6. So he says it's "my" house. Basically in a nutshell he walked away from all financial responsibility, although he's the sole person on the mortgage and we're both on the deed. He always told me if I couldn't do it alone to just call him and inform him, and that then he would call the bank and tell them to take the house. I'm in a bad bind here. I'm debating whether or not I should contact exN just to tell him I'm struggling, but honestly he's such a prick I think he would call the bank and tell them to do a speedy foreclosure against the home. I'm paying over $1200 a month in mortgage and all it's doing is helping his credit. Also, he left his crap here - shoes, jeans, odds and ends. I don't want his things. He's been gone 2 months. I can't legally change the locks here (yet) but he won't come and get his things. Lastly, when he moved, since he's in "hiding" I'm sure he "checked out" of the relationship before I had a clue. I'm sure he was involved inappropriately, whether emotionally or physically, with another woman because that is how he rolls. Thing is, he always told me where he was before. This time he will not disclose his location. So it's a double-whammy on me. What to do? Advice?
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