Ali b Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 So I had been dating a boy for 9 years, I moved away and we decided to see other people but we were still very much in love spoke all the time and new that i would eventually move back. I started seeing someone and accidentally feel in love. when i moved back I broke up with my first boyfriend but we remained best friends and still have so much fun together and I still love him very much. I also stayed in contact with the accidental guy and feel as though I love him too. He recently came to visit me and we had a wonderful week in Pittsburgh together. Soon after he left I slept with my ex who is perfect for me but who I'm not really sexual attracted to anymore. Obviously the guy who had come to visit me was quite upset even though we're technically not together. Should i try to fix my sexual relationship with my ex who's great for me/ or move onto someone new who makes me happy (when he's around, although we do live very far away)?
Philosoraptor Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 You need to figure out what you want out of a partner, a relationship, and out of life. You'll find the answers when you take some time alone and get to know yourself rather than jumping from one person to another. I'd say split from both and figure yourself out first. If you find that once you've matured some and figured yourself out, that you want one of them back, then you can take it from there. But right now you're very lost because you're asking strangers to make an important decision for you. It shows a lack of self realization and that is something you need in order to truly commit to another. 2
leoc1973 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 By sexually attracted to. You mean he's bad in bed or just not very good looking? Are you confusing love with lust with the second guy?
Author Ali b Posted April 15, 2012 Author Posted April 15, 2012 Philosoraptor, thanks for your advice I know your right because I already new this before you said it. I was just looking for an excuse to do what I wanted rather than what was right! Leoc1973 Neither he is great in bed and super handsome. It's more of an emotional thing I think because I used to be attracted to him in that way. Love for Lust - I think there's both there, he told me that he loved first so I think he feels more than lust too. I'm so lucky to have two such incredibly amazing men in my life so I think I am gonna take some time for their sake and mine and hope I don't lose them both as friends. I want so much happiness for them both and don't want to hurt them any more than I already have.
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