bbgm1443 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Hey Everyone, My Ex GF (20) and I (23) dated for 2 months. The first month was absolutely perfect and she really was the girl of my dreams, however things started to go downhill as she seemed to lose interest, distrust me, and became very unpredictable. She ended it and we went about a month NC (as much as possible anyway, we work together). Last week she asked me out for coffee and told me she would like to work things out (in a very round about way). She insists that the reason why she ended it was because she was frightened about how fast she was falling for me and thought I would leave her considering my last girlfriend of 5 years is now coming back in town after a year overseas. I has speculations that she was seeing her ex again, but she insists this is not true (to make things more interesting... he works with us too). She said she took me for granted and she didn't realize what she had until it was gone. I do still have feelings for her, but I question whether I can trust her again. I am suspicious whether her feelings are genuine or if she just wants to pull me back in for attention, comfort, or any other ill purpose. Any advice here would be greatly appreciated.
Livin Lrge Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Hey Everyone, My Ex GF (20) and I (23) dated for 2 months. The first month was absolutely perfect and she really was the girl of my dreams, however things started to go downhill as she seemed to lose interest, distrust me, and became very unpredictable. She ended it and we went about a month NC (as much as possible anyway, we work together). Last week she asked me out for coffee and told me she would like to work things out (in a very round about way). She insists that the reason why she ended it was because she was frightened about how fast she was falling for me and thought I would leave her considering my last girlfriend of 5 years is now coming back in town after a year overseas. I has speculations that she was seeing her ex again, but she insists this is not true (to make things more interesting... he works with us too). She said she took me for granted and she didn't realize what she had until it was gone. I do still have feelings for her, but I question whether I can trust her again. I am suspicious whether her feelings are genuine or if she just wants to pull me back in for attention, comfort, or any other ill purpose. Any advice here would be greatly appreciated. What ever you do.... Make her work for you again....don't give your heart to her again until she proves her self to you for at least two months if not longer. She wont respect you if you give it up easy.... LL
LasVegasGuy Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 (edited) What ever you do.... Make her work for you again....don't give your heart to her again until she proves her self to you for at least two months if not longer. She wont respect you if you give it up easy.... LL Definitely agreed. If it's too easy she will just drop it again, just like kids, make them work for it and they appreciate it much more. Edited April 13, 2012 by LasVegasGuy
sweetheart5381 Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Definitely agreed. If it's too easy she will just drop it again, just like kids, make them work for it and they appreciate it much more. Exactly! My ex pursued me for 7 months before we even went out on a date. He continued to pursue/court/show love and affection for the first 5 months or so of the relationship til I fell madly in love with him, then he bailed when he knew he had me "wrapped". Silly game.
OptimisticChiq Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 What ever you do.... Make her work for you again....don't give your heart to her again until she proves her self to you for at least two months if not longer. She wont respect you if you give it up easy.... LL "Make her work for you again". Hmm, so does this mean it's okay for guys to have a girl work for their heart again? how can a girl do the pursuing? Are not other men turned off by the reverse chase? I don't really know because usually it's guys who "work hard"/"pursue" a girl. I'm asking because I might need it in my situation.
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