FitChick Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Not at all. If there's something most men really don't give a f*ck about it's this. In fact, the opposite is often the case. That is what men have told me. That explains why a very rich man can date a cocktail waitress and no one bats an eye as long as she is good looking. Just ask George Clooney.
musemaj11 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 That is what men have told me. That explains why a very rich man can date a cocktail waitress and no one bats an eye as long as she is good looking. Just ask George Clooney. Well, as long as its only dating then its fair. Just consider it as him paying for spending her youth and beauty. But marriage is where the line is drawn because marriage means that he would still be obliged to keep paying even after her youth and beauty were all spent up. What a scam!
Feelsgoodman Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I'm surprise that OP commenter thinks this way? Guys won't care if you earn significantly less than them. In fact its kinda of a turn-on due to the age old evolutionary notion of a guy wanting to take care of a woman. I would be a little bothered if my female partner earns significantly more than me. There is a small caveat. For a casual relationship, it really doesn't matter and as you say, some guys even get a power trip out of playing "provider". But if we are talking about long-term commitment and marriage, a guy who's loaded has to be extremely careful and it's generally a very bad idea to marry a woman who is significantly below him on the socio-economic ladder. By doing so, he takes the risk of getting robbed by the divorce mafia. 1
dispatch3d Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Ahhh I may move into a pretty successful field, or at the very least I have a strong professional background from school. Anyhow I'd be more concerned with other personality based stuff than whether my house is nicer or not as nice as your house.
yongyong Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Men bring money and women bring beauty. In general, men would rather date a beautiful younger girl with less money than date an average looking girl with the same amount of money. I know if I say this some ladies with low-self esteem will say 'oh so you just want to date a hot dumb bixch??' No. She has to be attractive and carry a wisdom. There are plenty of ladies who are beautiful in & out. 2
joystickd Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Hell no! She can help me satisfy my addiction to Ralph Lauren and Calvin Klein. 1
LZ2000 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Ultimately the money that "she" earns, is the money that "she" has gained for trading her time to participate in the work force. I respect that. And I don't really care about the money issue, but what I do care is the sacrifices, hardships and destabilizing personal factors that "she" has to make and endure to earn money in the line of work.
FrustratedStandards Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I'd love to be a kept man but the reality is that while many men are OK with being the sole breadwinner, very few women are down with it. Not true. A lot of women prefer it, but they aren't going to go around saying so because automatically they will become "gold diggers".
FitChick Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 what I do care is the sacrifices, hardships and destabilizing personal factors that "she" has to make and endure to earn money in the line of work. That is a reason one of my exes gave for not wanting me to work. He didn't want to come home from a stressful day in the office only to hear me complaining about my own stressful day in the office. He wanted to be met at the door with a glass of wine and a smiling wife. I don't have a problem with that.
gibson Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 (edited) That is a reason one of my exes gave for not wanting me to work. He didn't want to come home from a stressful day in the office only to hear me complaining about my own stressful day in the office. He wanted to be met at the door with a glass of wine and a smiling wife. I don't have a problem with that. Fitchick is my kind of women! I make plenty of money and I would like my wife to work if she wants to, volunteer, charity work, pursue her hobbies and interests, etc. If my future wife and I were to have kids, I want one of us to stay home with the kids. I'm willing to go out on a limb and say that my future wife would much rather us live on my paycheck than hers. I loved that my mother was a stay home mom and would like our kids should we have them, to have the same experience. Every women I have ever dated also wanted this too. Edited April 24, 2012 by gibson
musemaj11 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Fitchick is my kind of women! I make plenty of money and I would like my wife to work if she wants to, volunteer, charity work, pursue her hobbies and interests, etc. If my future wife and I were to have kids, I want one of us to stay home with the kids. I'm willing to go out on a limb and say that my future wife would much rather us live on my paycheck than hers. I loved that my mother was a stay home mom and would like our kids should we have them, to have the same experience. Every women I have ever dated also wanted this too. Everybody wants a gravy train.
Woggle Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I actually like the fact that my wife and I are in the same boat when we get home. The key is to realize you are both on the same side instead of looking at each other as competition. Let it bring you closer instead of tearing each other apart. Both of us had to work hard to be where we are at and it is good to have that common ground.
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