robkris8079 Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 well here is my story if anyone cares to read http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/276332-says-she-doesnt-know-what-she-wants It's long as the thread was started last year because of a break that I made a breakup, then her running back saying all the right things, eventually her moving in and life being what seemed to be grand then it happened again. But the point of this thread is I have read online, here, people telling me that it takes two to make a relationship and two to break one. That you should find out what you did wrong and take responsibility for 50% of the breakup. I'm having a very hard time with this. I can't really see where, what I did wrong? My breakup seems that one person just changed their mind. I was not unemotional, stale, hurtful, deceitful, unloving, overly clingy, or anything. It truly just seems that she just didn't love me anymore, if ever at all and she dragged us on until she just couldn't do it anymore and went cold and distant so that I had to end it. I don't hate my ex, I don't wish ill things or harm on her. I actually hope she does find the happiness she couldn't find with me one day. Though secretly I hope I find it first . I am disappointed in her actions at the end as after 5 years I deserved better treatment instead of just forcing me into breaking up with her. anyone want to give me some hard tough truths here and find out where I am to blame. I grew so much from the relationship and truly love who I have become. Only thing I wish I did differently is more of my own thing. I mean I went out with the guys all the time without her and I was fine and encouraged her going out by herself. But I use to do alot of car stuff, like working on them, car meets, etc. I sort of drifted off of that but not because of her it's just I got rid of my sporty car for a more economical one as my sporty one was getting really old and needed work.
january2011 Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Rather than look for where you are to blame for the relationship break-up, this is the more valuable lesson worth taking from the relationship: I grew so much from the relationship and truly love who I have become. Only thing I wish I did differently is more of my own thing. I mean I went out with the guys all the time without her and I was fine and encouraged her going out by herself. But I use to do alot of car stuff, like working on them, car meets, etc. I sort of drifted off of that but not because of her it's just I got rid of my sporty car for a more economical one as my sporty one was getting really old and needed work.
Author robkris8079 Posted April 12, 2012 Author Posted April 12, 2012 I changed so much from before the relationship and throughout. I learned so much about myself and absolutely LOVE the man I am. Love how I treat others, treat myself and treated my partner. Like stated that was the only thing I can think of that I want to change and have been is just doing my own thing. I think this may have been a part of our demise. I will never truly know and your right it doesn't really matter at this point. I should have kept on with my own interests and hobbies. I did on some of them but others I sort of gave up on. Not because of my ex at all but other reasons. The car thing was due to my normal car buddies were not really having meets or hanging out for whatever reason. I even tried hosting one but everyone backed out. I also use to do karaoke with buddies but the place I was going to decided to stop due to an issue with the dj. I was meeting up with buddies for monday night football and other sporting events but again they all started flaking. But these are just excuses, I should have just made more effort or found something else. I really need more interest and hobbies . Hopefully getting my motorcycle license soon will start up a whole new thing for just me. Going on rides, meeting new people and again will be one more thing all my own.
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