WildWildWest Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 I have been dealing with this man for over 2 years now.. off and on.. mostly off.. Nothing serious, always said we were just friends but he always tells me he isnt or nor has he been with anybody else since me.. I find that hard to believe but ok.. I have told him several times now that I am looking for a boyfriend, no more fwb, I have told him that I have feelings for him and would really like to be with him but if he doesnt feel the same way then its time I move on.. HE WONT LET ME GO!!! he will hint and hint and hint that he wants a relationship but wont come out and say it! GRRR... makes me angry! He finally came out and told me he has feelings for me.. I didnt ask him, he just came out and said it (via txt message that is) and it read "yes I do have feelings for you, dont seem like it but I do, last time I say it" was it really that hard for him to say that after all this time? I kno he has been burned in the past really bad and has trust issues, I knew that prior to getting involved but I thought maybe I could make him overcome his fear.. IDK.. but I'm still confused.. what is this supposed to mean? Anybody been in a situation like this? can I get some advice PLEASE?!?!?
january2011 Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Let him go. You want to be with someone who wants to be with you and isn't afraid to show it or say it. Someone who is wishy washy like that is either intentionally leading you on or doesn't know his own mind - either way, he's likely to confuse and hurt you more than love you.
Yare Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 If you care about your emotional health then move on
wwwjd Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Not that confusing.... if he lies about having SOME feelings, he can keep you on the hook for the occasional FWB good times. Best to cut ties, set sail for nicer coves, before the cliff of insanity wreck your attitude.
Quiet Storm Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 He's tossing you crumbs so that you will remain available to him. Giving you just enough...to keep you on the hook. This behavior is also very typcial of men in affairs. The other woman will hang around waiting for him to leave his wife, get tired of it and threaten to end the relationship. The married man will throw her some crumbs (lots of "feelings" talk and empty promises) to keep her where he wants her as long as he can, because he has no intentions of leaving his wife and wants to get as much out of the other woman as possible. If he wanted to be with you, after two years, you'd have been together by now. He'll take whatever you are willing to give him (sex, companionship), but does not want to offer anything in return.
dasein Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 You know how when you want to keep something warm on the stove how you turn the gas way down so just little tips of blue light are coming out?
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