gotye Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 like what kind of girl bases her wanting to date on that? like sure, a pic of your bod not as your main profile pic makes sense but really? ew, makes me think you think of yourself as a sexy player 1
Professor X Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 (edited) Who cares, to each his own and I am sure it does attract who they want to attract. It's better than those people who Photoshop themselves, of the girls who do Myspace angle. And even if you think he's a player, most women still go after players in hope to change him, the threads here can show you that much. Edited April 12, 2012 by Professor X
Negative Nancy Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 they probably assume what gets them hot about women (naked pics of women's bodies) is the same thing that gets women worked up over them. it's not, we're more evolved than that and are not as easily swayed as men are. it takes more to impress us - i suggest men should be posting a couple pics of their wallet, their gold credit cards and statements of their bank accounts.
FitChick Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 A less sleazy way of showing the same amount of skin would be doing something active, i.e. throwing a frisbee to your dog in a park, walking out of the water carrying a surf board, hiking but with your shirt tied around your waist, cycling by the beach, fishing on a boat.
phineas Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Who cares, to each his own and I am sure it does attract who they want to attract. It's better than those people who Photoshop themselves, of the girls who do Myspace angle. And even if you think he's a player, most women still go after players in hope to change him, the threads here can show you that much. Pretty much this. If you see multiple guys showing off their body on a dating site, their doing it because it works. I don't care how ripped I get, I wouldn't even put a pic up on facebook shirtless.
january2011 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 If your OLD strategy involves looking for negatives to reject potential candidates, you might wish to consider this a useful way for you to next someone. Horses for courses.
kaylan Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 (edited) OKCupid did an analysis on this, and despite what people say, provacative and sexy pics increase responses. Some women may say they dont like it, but showing off the goods def does help. I got more responses when I used to have a shirtless pic up a couple years back. If you look good, women will respond...simple. If you show off and you dont look so hot, then it will hurt you. And like FitChick said, its better to have pics up where being shirtless or half naked makes sense. Like at the beach, or hiking, or something else like that. Maybe at the swimming hole in the mountains? Those are better than mirror shots and what not. I know I roll my eyes when girls take obvious cleavage pics and half naked mirror shots. Its screams "im trying really hard" Edited April 13, 2012 by kaylan 1
zengirl Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Because they think women will like it. (And some do.) Not for me -- a shirtless pic was always a guaranteed, "Never going to go out with you response," even if it wasn't their main picture unless context justified the shirtlessness --- i.e. they were in their bathing suit on a boat or it was a really cool picture of them snorkeling in Hawaii or something and had no whiff of douchery. Generally these are more "unposed" or group shots. Him, alone, at the beach, flexing, is just as weird as him in front of his mirror. But the same reason women post cleavage shots, I guess. To each their own. I always appreciated when a guy gave me an easy way to know I shouldn't go out with him. *shrugs* 2
Jane2011 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 like what kind of girl bases her wanting to date on that? like sure, a pic of your bod not as your main profile pic makes sense but really? ew, makes me think you think of yourself as a sexy player I agree. I actually did have a fling with a guy who did these types of pics on his social networking profiles, etc. But I didn't meet him in that capacity. I met him out in public at a restaurant where he worked. I had no idea that he was the sort who did posed naked chest pics. I'm not saying I couldn't possibly like a guy who does that sort of thing (obviously, I did like one guy who did). But if that's my first impression of him, I'm likely not going to react positively to him. 1
Jane2011 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 I agree. I actually did have a fling with a guy who did these types of pics on his social networking profiles, etc. But I didn't meet him in that capacity. I met him out in public at a restaurant where he worked. I had no idea that he was the sort who did posed naked chest pics. I'm not saying I couldn't possibly like a guy who does that sort of thing (obviously, I did like one guy who did). But if that's my first impression of him, I'm likely not going to react positively to him. Also, that was kinda why he was fling-material and nothing more.
kaylan Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 (edited) No matter what people say in this thread, sex appeal works. And if you find someone damn attractive, you will give them a shot. And body shot pictures are not indicative of who a person is. People are complex. I can put up a "douchey" body shot picture, but it doesnt have any bearing on the type of friends or boyfriend I can be. I dont mind if someone is fit, sexy, and wants to flaunt it. The only people hating on it are the people who dont look like that themselves based on my experiences. Or the people who think the person is out of their league. Cast and point; I put up a pic on myspace years back. I think I was 19 or 20 at the time (basically a dumb kid)...I had just gotten out of the shower and was in a towel. I looked in the mirror and thought "hey I look pretty good". And not to gas up my own head, but I was pretty cut up back then. Im the same size 5 years later, but not as cut. Anyways I decided to put up a pic, and got compliments galore. A few of my chick friends were legit stunned because people cant really tell much about my body when I wear clothing. The only negative comments I got were from chicks who I were out of my weight class so to speak. And a couple of guys were hating too, prolly because of the girl comments I got. Was it a douchey thing to put that pic up? Was it conceited? Perhaps. But why not flaunt if you look good? Let the haters hate. The people who look good themselves wont care to rain on your parade. Edited April 13, 2012 by kaylan 1
gaius Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 It takes a lot of work to get a nice chest. Might as well show it off. 2
prune juice Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 it works if you have a nice chest. if gals didn't respond, guys wouldn't do it.
MrNate 2.0 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Why show off my chest? I have a much better picture in mind.
mesmerized Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 it works if you have a nice chest. if gals didn't respond, guys wouldn't do it. exactly. I don't mind shirtless pictures, it all depends on how he is posing. A good body for me is a plus.
Jane2011 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 (edited) No matter what people say in this thread, sex appeal works. And if you find someone damn attractive, you will give them a shot. And body shot pictures are not indicative of who a person is. People are complex. I can put up a "douchey" body shot picture, but it doesnt have any bearing on the type of friends or boyfriend I can be. If a guy on an OLD site had naked chest pics up but he also wrote me a thoughtful email and his profile itself showed some depth and substance, I'd not as likely think anything negative about him. (It still wouldn't be a thing I liked, though). That's just so rare, in my experience. I more often (when I was on OLD sites) got just the plain "what up" or "wanna talk" type of email if it was from a guy with a shirtless naked chest pic. And his profile was usually, likewise, devoid of substance. (I'm not saying one's OLD profile defines a person, but when other people have nothing else to go on, they take it as an indicator). I dont mind if someone is fit, sexy, and wants to flaunt it. The only people hating on it are the people who dont look like that themselves based on my experiences. Or the people who think the person is out of their league. I actually agree with that in general. I think it's great when women show a lot of cleavage and just show off their bodies in general. For instance, one of my friends has a perfect yoga body; she's always running around town in skin tight spandexy outfits. I think it's fantastic 'cause she looks good. I wear skinny jeans because I like showing off curves a little bit. I don't hate on people for looking good. Same for men if they have good bodies. I'm just more biased against it in online pics, for some reason. I guess because it appears so much less natural in online pics that are posed than when you're just running around town or hanging out at places. Maybe that's an unfair distinction, but in any case, I'm not a hater of people having good bodies and showing it off. Edited April 13, 2012 by Jane2011
Imajerk17 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Showing off a picture of you shirtless is great if you are at the beach with a surfboard under your arm, and you actually surf! If it is a picture of you holding up a cell-phone camera at the mirror in the bathroom then well.... 1
Jane2011 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Showing off a picture of you shirtless is great if you are at the beach with a surfboard under your arm, and you actually surf! If it is a picture of you holding up a cell-phone camera at the mirror in the bathroom then well.... That's what I'm saying... I don't like that bathroom pic with the guy holding up a cell phone camera in the mirror. That's what the guy I had a fling with did. I would rather he just look good when I see him in person. And just look good out in public, be shirtless, whatever. The bathroom cell phone pic just makes me cringe.
El Brujo Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 like what kind of girl bases her wanting to date on that? like sure, a pic of your bod not as your main profile pic makes sense but really? ew, makes me think you think of yourself as a sexy player Erm... because we want women to see where we got shot?
dasein Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 OKCupid did an analysis on this, and despite what people say, provacative and sexy pics increase responses. Was just about to post this, but forgot the name of which dating site. It's worth digging up and looking at for those doing OLD. Agree with others who say shirtless is OK when doing natural activities, not so much a posed pic.
oaks Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 like what kind of girl bases her wanting to date on that? The kind of girl who is wearing a bikini, taken in her bathroom mirror, as her main photo. She's probably doing a duck-face, too. 1
Jasra Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 I don't care how ripped I get, I wouldn't even put a pic up on facebook shirtless. That's because you're not ripped. I didn't think I would do this either. But I've recently lost some weight and built a decent amount of muscle. Plenty happy to show my results, haha. I look good in that pic. And it took me putting in LOTS of hours of work to achieve it. It takes a lot of work to get a nice chest. Might as well show it off. Indeed. Though I still wouldn't make it my 'main' pic. they probably assume what gets them hot about women (naked pics of women's bodies) is the same thing that gets women worked up over them. it's not, we're more evolved than that and are not as easily swayed as men are. Lies. Lies. Lies. Deny and joke all you want. Women get plenty turned on by a well built guy. Though I will agree that it shouldn't be 'obvious' that you are trying to show off your body. Just pretend like you're not, but still show it. Why not ? I don't begrudge people who do, because it takes WORK to look good physically (well, physically fit anyway ;P) Like I said, I've posted pictures of my results on Facebook. And I'll post more once I lose even more weight and gain more muscle. Why ? Because I want to showcase my hard work, both for my friends, and the ladies. No reason to be cheesy about it. Like one of the posters above said, it can be done with a little class.
zengirl Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 (edited) No matter what people say in this thread, sex appeal works. And if you find someone damn attractive, you will give them a shot. I suppose this is true, to a degree. For me, shirtless pictures were instantly repellent to attraction. If I found someone attractive (holistically) from their pics and profile, of course I'd give them a shot. The idea that everyone goes for a singular "attractive" physical feature is wrong, though. Overt sex appeal never worked on me. That's not to say I never responded to something I actually considered "sexy." To me, sexy was quoting Douglas Adams in your profile and being a nerdy sort of handsome or something, though. There are many people who consider these in-your-face SEX type things blatantly unsexy. I know men who feel that way as well. It's a personality thing. And body shot pictures are not indicative of who a person is. People are complex. I can put up a "douchey" body shot picture, but it doesnt have any bearing on the type of friends or boyfriend I can be. It's an aspect of who they are for sure. They're someone who thinks something is sexy that I find blatantly unsexy. Incompatibility immediately. I dont mind if someone is fit, sexy, and wants to flaunt it. The only people hating on it are the people who dont look like that themselves based on my experiences. Or the people who think the person is out of their league. Tons of those guys messaged me when I was single. Not surprising because the reason I asked guys out so frequently and got assertive about that was I was a freakin douchebag magnet. Seriously. Those guys approached me all the time. I am out of their leagues (I turned them down when they expressed interest), IME, not the other way around. *shrug* I'm plenty hot. I just don't like being over-sexualized, certainly not by myself. I don't know why that's hard to understand. Hubby is hot, too, but he'd never have messaged or written back a girl with mirror cleavage shots. I've got nothing against looking good, mind you. The issue is -- that is NOT looking good to me. It's looking douchey. Just as the people on Jersey Shore look legitimately hideous to me, even before they open their mouths and do whatever ridiculous **** it is they do. I think those people are being douchey. I don't think that means they're bad, horrible people who will never have relationships. I just think that they have a more Jersey Shore type aesthetic and mindset than I do, and the idea of ever going out with any of those people repelled me instantly. That doesn't need to be jealousy, and IME, rarely is. Most people I know don't find that aesthetic appealing. We're nerds. We have a different idea of sexy. Edited April 13, 2012 by zengirl
Radu Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 like what kind of girl bases her wanting to date on that? like sure, a pic of your bod not as your main profile pic makes sense but really? ew, makes me think you think of yourself as a sexy player I'll show you mine, you show me yours ?
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