PsykkoPrincess Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 I met this guy in January, and we have grown close since then. He was in my math class, and we hit it off. We have so much fun together, and have SOOOO much in common. We want the same things out of relationships. Now his gf dumped him around the time I met him. They were only together for about 4 months, but he was very sad, and depressed. So he said he wanted to take things slow, and day by day and just get to know each other. His folks actually want to meet me too. He has told me that I have become more important to him, and special. That he thinks about me more, and worries about me. We recently had spring break from school, and we spent it apart but spent everyday talking to each other. He said he missed me while we were apart, and couldn't wait to see me again. Also after two weeks of not seeing me, when he finally did and we hugged, he was shaking, very nervous, and I felt how fast his heart was racing, and he let out a hard breath. started to hold hands more, and he his very attentive to me, and loving. We recently had sex for the first time ( I am not his gf ) but I feel like because of how we are moving forward and getting closer that this was good. Afterwards I told him he meant a lot to me, and he told me the same thing. We has told me many times I am his preference of the type of girl he would go after. also he is white and I am from the Caribbean. He loves it by the way! He gets the food we cook, he ask me about my culture, and wants to go there. I have already told him how much he means to me, and he has told me that he is on the uphill from getting over his ex, that he doesn't think about her anymore unless I bring her up. That I am important to him, I mean a lot to him, and that I mean more to him that his ex did. He is just confused and doesn't know when he would be ready. That he would know when he knows. The subject of us sometimes comes up and sometimes we do get into little arguments, or discussions. can someone help me? Thank you.
insertnamehere Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 The world "class" in your post suggests you're fairly young. So, let me pass along you one of the better pieces of advice you'll hear. Presume a guy means exactly what he says to you unless he has done something egregious enough to deserve suspicion. If he says you've become "important to him", then that's what he means. Give the kid some space as long as he isn't doing anything to indicate he's not going your way.
Author PsykkoPrincess Posted April 12, 2012 Author Posted April 12, 2012 Yeah we are 25 and 26. College. Thank you very much. Everything does point in my way, but he says things like " I can't promise you anything either way. " To take it all back, and he gets so caught up in his head, and confuses himself.
snug.bunny Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 My interpretation of his comments are: he is not open to a relationship at this time. his gf dumped him around the time I met him he said he wanted to take things slow he has told me that he is on the uphill from getting over his ex He is just confused and doesn't know when he would be ready. That he would know when he knows. I can't promise you anything either way He needs the freedom to heal from his last relationship. So, it would be wise not to become overly invested in him emotionally and to establish some boundaries for yourself.
NeverDated Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Yeah we are 25 and 26. College. Thank you very much. Everything does point in my way, but he says things like " I can't promise you anything either way. " To take it all back, and he gets so caught up in his head, and confuses himself. No, he doesn't. he has told me that he is on the uphill from getting over his ex, that he doesn't think about her anymore unless I bring her up. That I am important to him, I mean a lot to him, and that I mean more to him that his ex did. He is just confused and doesn't know when he would be ready. That he would know when he knows. The subject of us sometimes comes up and sometimes we do get into little arguments, or discussions. He is telling you, "You mean a lot to me. We're very good friends. And I would like to continue having sex with you." I doubt you will ever get a relationship out of this, only a big headache and a potentially broken heart.
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