tigressA Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 This apartment is MINE. Talked to the building manager since I've been having trouble finding a place; she herself suggested having me take over the lease when I was going there to beg if I had to. I just need to fill out a formal application and submit a security deposit. I'm going to be put on a 3-month lease and then do a month-to-month. I sent Ex an email just now saying he can still have his friends come move his stuff out if he wants. I might just put it into storage myself so I can do my own nesting. Since, you know, it is my place in 19 days.
zengirl Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Wait? How can you stay in his apartment? Doesn't he still want it and plan to pay for it? I'm confused.
Author tigressA Posted April 12, 2012 Author Posted April 12, 2012 Nope. A couple days ago he emailed me saying I need to be out by the end of the month and he's not keeping the apartment, blah blah blah. He sounded very cold and unfeeling about it. So I took matters into my own hands because no one's taken my bait so far in the roommate search.
veggirl Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Err is this a privately owned (by a single landlord) apt or something? He needs to sign a release for all of this, I assume he has done so or been in contact with the landlord?
O'Malley Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Nope. A couple days ago he emailed me saying I need to be out by the end of the month and he's not keeping the apartment, blah blah blah. Keep a copy of that email, in case he changes his mind. Maybe someone on here understands the myriad of tenancy laws. Make certain that he has notified building management that he's ending his lease, without any mention of your personal issues, so that everything goes smoothly. Arguments about who did what are really non productive and irrelevant at this point, just see if he agrees and you both can move on.
veggirl Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Keep a copy of that email, in case he changes his mind. Maybe someone on here understands the myriad of tenancy laws. Make certain that he has notified building management that he's ending his lease, without any mention of your personal issues, so that everything goes smoothly. Arguments about who did what are really non productive and irrelevant at this point, just see if he agrees and you both can move on. I work in prop mgmt and I'm assuming TA is leaving pertinent details of her Ex being removed from the lease and her taking it over out of her post. Which is fine, as long as she is sure it's all being done properly.
JohnnyCage Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 So are you going to wait till its officially yours or did you already get your crush to bang you there?
zengirl Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Can you afford it? That was my next question. I was under the impression the place was out of your individual price range, T. It's good you have a place for now. You might want to keep looking for after that 3 month lease, though. You might find a place with less memories better long-term. But everyone is different.
Els Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Can you afford it? This was my first thought. I'm happy for you, TA, I really am, but I hope you won't be jeopardizing your finances for the sake of vengeance towards your ex (just a niggly feeling, I hope I'm wrong here). 1
LexiB Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 (edited) I work in prop mgmt and I'm assuming TA is leaving pertinent details of her Ex being removed from the lease and her taking it over out of her post. Which is fine, as long as she is sure it's all being done properly. I thought she had mentioned before that the lease was naturally up at the end of this month. In which case, there shouldn't be any legal issue with her taking it over. Or moral, if he was planning to move anyway. Can you afford it? My first question as well. Edited April 12, 2012 by LexiB
carhill Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 IMO, as long as you're comfortable with the emotional aspects of remaining in the space, and of course can swing it financially, elegant and efficient solution. Good luck
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 I hope it's all good for you. It does sound very revenge-fueled. Such things often turn out to be self-defeating.
Author tigressA Posted April 12, 2012 Author Posted April 12, 2012 (edited) Yes, I can definitely afford it. I wouldn't have even thought of it as an option if I couldn't. Yes, the building manager is aware that he is relinquishing his rights. She told me she got an email from him a couple of days ago stating this. Also, the lease is up at the end of this month anyway. No, this is not vengeance-fueled. I have been having a lot of trouble finding a place; I met with someone yesterday to see a space and it was incredibly disappointing. I just had all sorts of wrong feelings about it and I began to despair over finding a new place in time, as I had answered over 2 dozen ads in a matter of days and only one person had responded favorably. I'm just really happy that this all worked out so smoothly. It is a HUGE burden off my shoulders. I do have the option of finding a whole new apartment in the building itself. I may decide to take that option. That way, getting Ex's stuff out of this apartment won't be on my shoulders. He still hasn't responded to the email I sent him updating him on the situation. Edited April 12, 2012 by tigressA 1
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