Sophieb91 Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Where to even begin.. About a year ago i met a friend of a friend on a night out, we hit it off and had a good laugh with our group of friends. I briefly knew him as his ex girlfriend worked alongside me in a salon for a short while..before it closed about 2 years ago. However they split a good few months prior to me seeing him on this night out, and we started going on a couple of dates. Nothing serious as we just wanted to see how things went. She found out that we had been seeing each other and that we'd been out together and she has turned into a complete psycho. We have been together almost a year now, and she has a boyfriend (whom she cheated with in the first place) and she just won't give up and leave us alone. It started when she first found out and she was writing abuse on my Facebook saying i was disgusting and my boyfriend used to say i was fat and ugly. Since then all i have got is sneaky status' and comments on Facebook & twitter, really abusive saying things like 'plastic surgery could fix your face, but nothing can fix your ugly personality' 'fed up of that ugly little ferret cropping up all the time when i can't stand the thought of her..VOM' 'God if i had a gun, i know what id do' 'Your a pathetic, money grabbing b**ch' It has honestly just been horrendous, I've lost 12lbs due to stress and it been really tough for me. Me & my boyfriend live together and we are happy, the only time we argue is about her, i don't doubt his love or loyalty to me for a second as i know how much he hates her, and if ever she texts him he is just blunt and horrible to her. On top of all this, a close friend of mine revealed that she had been hacking into my boyfriends Facebook & email accounts...i honestly felt sick. This was at christmas so she had been spying on us for months and we do have private conversations to one another on there (as my boyfriend used to work away) We thought about contacting the police, but we didn't know the ways to go about it, as it would be hard to prove. I have tried everything to make this stop, deleting my Facebook, twitter...but a lot of my family and friends have told me i shouldn't have to do this as she's winning, and it makes her look stronger. It is such a hard situation to be in, its so childish its embarrassing boyfriend is 23 and I'm 20 and she's 21 and i just don't understand how somebody could be so horrible. I wasn't even friends when i worked with her..we said hi and that was about it, and she says I've been sneaky about it all, behind her back..but i genuinely haven't. I never slag her off to anyone, and we have a lot of mutual friends who are all on my side and see my point of view, i just don't know what i have done to deserve this, all i want to do it get on with my life without this horrible shadow constantly lurking over me. Im just looking for some advice, I've been wanting to post for so long, but i just haven't had the confidence to speak up about it. All help is appreciated, Thanks guys xox
baguette Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 You might also be able to get a restraining order.. in which case if she contacts you via facebook that could be grounds for coming near you/contacting you.
Lauriebell82 Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 You might also be able to get a restraining order.. in which case if she contacts you via facebook that could be grounds for coming near you/contacting you. Depends on what state. Most states issue what is called a "PFA" (protection from abuse) but that only qualifies for intimate partners (as in people in romantic/sexual relationships). Usually the grant a temporary PFA only for like 18 months and there needs to be a court case and testimony from witnesses. Emails and facebook messages probably aren't going to be enough for that. My advice would be to delete your facebook account, change your email, ect. No, you should NOT have to do these things because of her, however the alternative is that you need to just ignore her and don't let it bother you. Can you do that though? I don't think I could...
jorgie4 Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 I cannot stand idiots like THIS who give girls a bad name! She sounds very sad and jealous, and as an outsider looking the bigger picture, she has no reason to have any part in your life, let alone be making you ill. Definitely speak to the police. They will tell you if there is something they can do or not. If anything more serious happens in the future you will have at least filed an incident report about her already...and so you'll be in a much better position. Report everything she does that is violating your privacy, or could be classed as bullying. Ignore her. Much easier than it sounds, I know. But the minute she gets a reaction from you, it will act as amunition and it is what she wants. Personally, I would never have given her the time of day, and she wouldn't for one second be involved in my life, or be interfering with it for that matter. Not a chance. I understand it's much easier said than done, but you really have to rise above these idiots and leave them to play their silly games - alone. And finally, there is absolutely NO reason for you and your bf to be arguing about her. Do not let her win or give her the satisfaction! She is a nobody. In terms of facebook, etc, just keep blocking her and reporting her. Any nasty comments she makes....her opinion and words are worthless so it shouldn't mean a thing to you. As you might have guessed, I can't stand bullies, nor do I have ANY time for them. At all. Good luck.
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