Motor35 Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 wow! i just don't get it. i have seen so many posts about threesomes, open relationships and oral sex from the OP. and really....you are out of shape and lack passionate sex?! huh?! really? (wth?!)
Yare Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Um, I have let myself go, while I know full well what to do... ***I have been in better shape than probably u have been for 6 years now....because of my proffessionalism, and my knowledge.*** ...I have let myself go for a few months. No big deal. I will be in top shape within a month or two:). I have the qualifications and experience to know how tio get myself back into shape, thanks:) I am a personal trainer; not a robbot; I am not immune to lifes problems. Some issues in life caused me to hide inside and not exercise. Really? I doubt it.. I am a trainer through The American Council of Exercise..again which certficate do you hold? Of course you should know one cannot be a PT without one..but of course you don't know that...forget exercise, you need therapy.ciao
Author Leigh 87 Posted April 13, 2012 Author Posted April 13, 2012 Really? I doubt it.. I am a trainer through The American Council of Exercise..again which certficate do you hold? Of course you should know one cannot be a PT without one..but of course you don't know that...forget exercise, you need therapy.ciao eff off, u loser. NOthing I have said indicates I am not qualified.... Being out of shape, for the first time in about 6 years, is normal, even for the BESt trainers... I KNOW u need QUALIFICATIONS. DUH. When did I say that I did nto KNOW that u need to be qualified?!?! YOu grossly misread me. And I am AUSTRALIAN. I have my cert 3 and 4... WHAT makes u think, that because I let myself go a bit, that I have no qualifications? LOL. Lastly, I am 5 ' 6 and 130 lbs.. with huge boobs and a big butt and curves. So, this for ME is " letting myself go".... most people " let themselves go" far more than I have mann... Get with it.
mesmerized Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 ROCKET MAN - your AWESOME !!!!! Yes yes and yes I will definately take your advice, man! I DO MUCH PREFER being thin and fit, but I will take being unfit and showing off my body tp a guy who still wants to see it, over waiting until I am " fit" to show him. I am very lucky to have found a guy who loves my body so much even when I am unfit. U love your outlook towards your girlfriend:) Does she work out? Or, when she ets herself go, do u just love her body the same? My boyfriend prefers me to be in shape, for health reasons too... but he still loves my body when unfit. He never ever mentions when Iam unfit, or tells me to lose weight. He just agrees with me when i say that while I am ok now, being extra fit is sexier than being unfit. Actually, I think my boyfriend mostly wants me to be fitter, because it makes me feel better, and in turn, more confident, up beat, and willing to strip off for him. It is about 30% because it looks " hotter". No offence but it seems like you are overly obsessed with your looks and just yourself in general. In almost every post that you make you mention your body or your hair or how you were before and how you are now. I almost skip most of your posts now because I feel like I know what is written in them. You need to chill out and stop obsessing over trivial things. I'd honestly have gotten bored with you by now if I were your boyfriend. And no, you're not that lucky, most guys don't care nearly as much as you do! They don't even realize when their girl gains a few pounds. If you have a nice body shape which it sounds like you do, some pounds here and there isn't going to affect most guys attraction level.
Author Leigh 87 Posted April 13, 2012 Author Posted April 13, 2012 wow! i just don't get it. i have seen so many posts about threesomes, open relationships and oral sex from the OP. and really....you are out of shape and lack passionate sex?! huh?! really? (wth?!) Hey, you seam a little ignorantregarding relationships.... My boyfriend had never given oral much before, only with one girl in 24 years before me, and rarely with her ( and he LIKED her a a whole lot). SO, I had to teach him. No big deal. It was not me - it was him who was not accustomed to it. He now loves it... He must like me a whole lot, to learn to love an act he never previously thought to do much at all. Guys im his " group" ar enot fans of oral, and only tend to do it to very beautiful women who make them exeptionally horny, or girls they love. Not something guys he knows do for " fun" in a hook up. WHat's more, we do not HAVE an open relationship. We had a couple of 3 somes, because I wanted to try it out. I like it for many reasons, however, we have dor of forrgotten about 3 somes but are open to them if we have a very drunken night, and an awesome girl comes about and it feels right. Again. no big deal. It is HIM that is open to it; not because he loves me less than enough, and would NOT be open to a 3 some with the " right" girl. It is who he is, and he would always be open to 3 somes, no matter HOW much he loved a girl. How happy is YOUR relationship? I feel very happy. I have a guy who sticks by me when I have these stupid issues with weight, being unfit, and I feel very loved. We have the best time together. How about you? Are you constantly happy with your relationship? I am, besides small moments where being out of shape gets in the way of the passion. Again, no big deal. It can be fixed. Really man... You DO sound like u have no grounds to judge the fact we have had a couple of 3 somes, that I TALKED about what an open relationship entails, and the fact my boyfriend comes from a back ground that is not crazy about oral sex... AGAIN - what is the big deal, about me mentioning any of those topics? I never SAID he wanted an open relationship. I do not want a man who " needs" to be with other women. Yuck. Not for me thanks.
Author Leigh 87 Posted April 13, 2012 Author Posted April 13, 2012 No offence but it seems like you are overly obsessed with your looks and just yourself in general. In almost every post that you make you mention your body or your hair or how you were before and how you are now. I almost skip most of your posts now because I feel like I know what is written in them. You need to chill out and stop obsessing over trivial things. I'd honestly have gotten bored with you by now if I were your boyfriend. And no, you're not that lucky, most guys don't care nearly as much as you do! They don't even realize when their girl gains a few pounds. If you have a nice body shape which it sounds like you do, some pounds here and there isn't going to affect most guys attraction level. I am not obsessed. I have far more meaning in my life besides looks. Looks play a very, very small part in dictating my mood and self worth, in general. I have gained from 120 to 130 lbs, it is not a big deal, really:) Why aren't I lucky for having a guy who does not get turned off when I gain weight? Yes, I do have a sexy shape, thank goodness. An hour glass with boobs and a butt, with a tiny bit of a stomach, is better than an apple with no shape, asthetically speaking. I am HAPPIER now, than I was when I weighed less than 120, because I was too thin for my body type, and derived NO joy from being thin. I do, however, get much more joy out of life, when I am over my prime ( whhich is 122 -127) and HAPPY, than when I was at my prime or BELOW a healthy weight, and miserable. I know that it is more important to value weight v ery low on the list of things that make you happy.
Yare Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 She is also obsessed about oral sex..and her boyfriend performing it with others...weird!
mesmerized Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 I am not obsessed. I have far more meaning in my life besides looks. Looks play a very, very small part in dictating my mood and self worth, in general. I have gained from 120 to 130 lbs, it is not a big deal, really:) Why aren't I lucky for having a guy who does not get turned off when I gain weight? Yes, I do have a sexy shape, thank goodness. An hour glass with boobs and a butt, with a tiny bit of a stomach, is better than an apple with no shape, asthetically speaking. I am HAPPIER now, than I was when I weighed less than 120, because I was too thin for my body type, and derived NO joy from being thin. I do, however, get much more joy out of life, when I am over my prime ( whhich is 122 -127) and HAPPY, than when I was at my prime or BELOW a healthy weight, and miserable. I know that it is more important to value weight v ery low on the list of things that make you happy. How are you not obsessed? you have talked about your boobs and ass in almost every post you make, I bet most of us are tired of reading it lol I can only imagine how many times your boyfriend has had to hear all of this. Actually I think your boyfriend is very lucky because whatever he does makes you feel lucky lol Maybe you should raise your standards? Like I said, most (if not all) men would not give a damn if their woman gained 10 pounds, it's a non issue really. Also the fact that your boyfriend gives you oral isn't necessarily a sign of his true love for you. I require oral with my partners and most of them try to learn and do it even if it's not their thing and even if they don't have any feelings for me. I really do think you have self confidence/worth issues. A lot of your posts to me sound like you talking to yourself and trying to convince yourself of your worth, whether it is about your looks or your education etc.
xxoo Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 I am not obsessed. I have far more meaning in my life besides looks. Looks play a very, very small part in dictating my mood and self worth, in general. I have gained from 120 to 130 lbs, it is not a big deal, really:) Why aren't I lucky for having a guy who does not get turned off when I gain weight? Yes, I do have a sexy shape, thank goodness. An hour glass with boobs and a butt, with a tiny bit of a stomach, is better than an apple with no shape, asthetically speaking. I am HAPPIER now, than I was when I weighed less than 120, because I was too thin for my body type, and derived NO joy from being thin. I do, however, get much more joy out of life, when I am over my prime ( whhich is 122 -127) and HAPPY, than when I was at my prime or BELOW a healthy weight, and miserable. I know that it is more important to value weight v ery low on the list of things that make you happy. All this angst about being 3 pounds over your "prime"? 3 pounds over, and you don't want him seeing and touching you?!
Els Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 My boyfriend does have a slight stomach, despite being in a heavy labour job and being built up and very fit elsewhere. He does no ab work. Yet, I love him and find his body to be the most attractive one to ME. I absolutely love touching his stomach, in spite of its less than 6 pack state. He is very, very sexy to me. This is what I meaaaaannnn. Why can't you apply this thinking to your own body?!?!?!
Author Leigh 87 Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 How are you not obsessed? you have talked about your boobs and ass in almost every post you make, I bet most of us are tired of reading it lol I can only imagine how many times your boyfriend has had to hear all of this. Actually I think your boyfriend is very lucky because whatever he does makes you feel lucky lol Maybe you should raise your standards? Like I said, most (if not all) men would not give a damn if their woman gained 10 pounds, it's a non issue really. Also the fact that your boyfriend gives you oral isn't necessarily a sign of his true love for you. I require oral with my partners and most of them try to learn and do it even if it's not their thing and even if they don't have any feelings for me. I really do think you have self confidence/worth issues. A lot of your posts to me sound like you talking to yourself and trying to convince yourself of your worth, whether it is about your looks or your education etc. I come tot his site, to talk about specific problems regarding my looks, oral sex, and etc... um, I do not talk about this in my daily life..... I would be an incredibly unhappy person, if MYSELF, and my looks were my main topic of conversation:sick: WHat I talk about on HERE, is not at all reflective of what I choose to talk about with people in my daily life - that is why I come here to do it.. I would NEVER bore my friends, with self image issues over gaining a few kilos... How boring. YOur right - If I had no interesting things to say, I would get very bored of me if I were my b/f.... The thing is, I talk about the meaningful things in life, with people outside of the internet... I do not discuss the things I talk about in my daily life the most, on here. Lastly - I am the person who listens the most to people. I am the person who knows and actually enjoys asking questions about others. I love people, and prefer to ask about their day, and how their life is going. Of course, when they want to know about me, I am more than happy to share, but I mostly prefer to stick to sharing experiences that will help them, with their current issues.
Author Leigh 87 Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 And I know my boyfriend giving my oral does not make it true love; what makes it true love, is the way he treats me, and the way he acts towards me. His daily actions and the way he is towards me, shows he truly loves me. The oral sex thing is resolving - I never gave him head jobs either, but now we both love doing it to each other.
Negative Nancy Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 No offence but it seems like you are overly obsessed with your looks and just yourself in general. In almost every post that you make you mention your body or your hair or how you were before and how you are now. I almost skip most of your posts now because I feel like I know what is written in them. You need to chill out and stop obsessing over trivial things. I'd honestly have gotten bored with you by now if I were your boyfriend. yeah seriously, it's f'n annoying
Author Leigh 87 Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 WHat is annoying, is how people here assume I go on and on to my b/f about my body and looks and appearance!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously? I do the right thing; come to the INTERNET to do so, where people can choose to IGNORE me. I do not subject people in real life, to my woes about gaining weight........ it is easy to ignore me on here, but not to easy if I were to blab in peoples ears; they would have to politely listen/make excuses to get away, pretent to be interested. It is must easier for me to talk about letting my body go on HERE, with strangers, because i do not WANT to bug my friends and partner about such trivial issues. Ever thought of THAT? What people come and talk about on LS is NOT necessarily what they enjoy talking about with people in their lives...
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 14, 2012 Posted April 14, 2012 Whether you reveal it to other people in your life or only here on LS, what and how you post really does show that you still have some issues that might hurt you. So, I'm so glad to hear you will be starting therapy.
Els Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 I don't think the issue is you talking to your bf about it, Leigh. The issue is how much you think about it and how much it affects you personally. It doesn't matter whether you talk about it a lot IRL or not. Your LS posts do reveal extremely obsessive thoughts about your body - even if your posts on LS are equivalent to the number of body-related thoughts that run through your mind (ie you ONLY talk about it on LS and you don't think/talk about it anytime other than that), those thoughts are still way, way, way, way, way, way, way more harshly judgmental of your own body, and persistent, than the normal person has. 1
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