RachR Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 (edited) I had a second date planned with a guy today. When we made plans, we didn't set a specific time, but we did set an activity, place and time-frame (he said he was usually busy until early afternoon, so at my suggestion I said I'd call around that time). It was something outdoors so that = before sunset. Today I gave him a call, and there was no answer. But he did respond with a flirty text (he was in class), and I responded in kind. I assumed he would return my call later. Very late afternoon (almost evening) rolls around, it was going to get dark in an hour, so I sent him a message asking if he wanted to still do that. He responded shortly after saying he does, but it doesn't look like we will be able to (insert :/ smiley) because it's already so late and he's hasn't even finished his homework due for tomorrow. I didn't respond to him. I wasn't even really sure what to say. It's been a couple of hours now since he sent that text. Should I respond? I just wanted to note that he seems like a generally unorganized, fly-by-the-seat-of-his-pants person. I witnessed it before he even ever asked me out. But for all I know, he may have been blowing me off. Input? Edited April 12, 2012 by RachR
dasein Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 No, wait for him to get back in touch with you. You were polite and proactive, now it's on him to set things right or not at all. 1
Lobouspo Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Do not text him...Major red flag to be that inconsiderate this early on. I would move on to someone else 1
zanesfan Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 I literally just went through this today. If he does it once-- he will do it again. I dont necessarily like how he took his time to respond. Personally, if I was interested in someone I would feel horrible if I couldnt meet them in a timely fashion and I would make sure I kept my dated informed of what I was doing. Sounds like he is only considering his feelings. 2
SJC2008 Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Ok you asked him by text and he answered by text so what's the problem? If he was considerate though and knew odds were that he was not going to be able to make it he should of let you know sooner and then offer an alternative at a later date and time. I'd be more disappointed by that then him responding to a text by text.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 That's not being proactive... you taking what he's willing to dish out and that's limited communication at your expense. He didn't even apologize sincerely. The least he could've done was take a break from studying and dropping you a call to reschedule. Why is his time mpre important than yours? You only get so and so hours a day... you could be doing your own stuff instead of waiting on him.
Author RachR Posted April 12, 2012 Author Posted April 12, 2012 Ok you asked him by text and he answered by text so what's the problem? If he was considerate though and knew odds were that he was not going to be able to make it he should of let you know sooner and then offer an alternative at a later date and time. I'd be more disappointed by that then him responding to a text by text. Oh I didn't actually have an issue with the fact he answered through text, but now that I reread my Title I see why you thought that; I don't know why I titled it that way - my fault! Yes the issue was the other thing you talked about.
goldengirl11 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 (edited) Sorry to sound negative, but could there possibly be another girl in the picture? I went through a similar situation to yourself, which led to it sadly fizzling out due to him not making time to see me anymore (but still managed to text). Edited April 13, 2012 by goldengirl11
Author RachR Posted April 13, 2012 Author Posted April 13, 2012 Sorry to sound negative, but could there possibly be another girl in the picture? I went through a similar situation to yourself, which led to it sadly fizzling out due to him not making time to see me anymore (but still managed to text). Yes, that could have been a possibility.
goldengirl11 Posted April 13, 2012 Posted April 13, 2012 Yes, that could have been a possibility. Has there been any progress since?
Author RachR Posted April 13, 2012 Author Posted April 13, 2012 Has there been any progress since? Nope, haven't heard from him. =/ It's unfortunate because I was really liking this one so far.
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