witchychick Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 I am depressed and I honestly don't want to do anything. I just want this to stop. I started seeing a guy, and he ignored me for a few weeks. I thought it was because of something I said. Then on Sunday,he started replying to me again. He told me a story about why he had been ignoring me,and I gave him the benefit of the doubt because of my feelings for him, I didnt know that it wasnt true, and I just wanted to be happy and I missed him. In the same email, he told me he missed me and wanted me to be his, to be his girlfriend. I told him to come see me and he did but he couldn't stay long. Things seemed fine and he said again that he missed me. He wanted me to call him and I had offered to as well Monday morning to wake him up as he said he had something important that day. He didnt answer and ended up emailing me telling me he was up and sorry he couldnt talk, he was at the place he was going to. And that was the last I heard from him and he is ignoring me again. Why would a guy act this way? And ladies, have any of you reading this had this happen and why if you ever found out for sure. I just cant take this. My bday is in a few weeks,too and he said he had a surprise for me after my bday. I also saw that he had been on facebook-he liked a app and added a girl on there. Dont know of course who she is to him. She goes to the college he goes to. His facebook says he is attending college anyway, he and I met last month and he's never told me he goes to college. Anyway, he had relationships before, so I dont know if he is unsure about me, a relationship now or wanting to be a player atm but he isnt telling me and I cant read minds. This isn't right.
geegirl Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Words don't match the actions. Maybe I'm just old but if a guy played these games with me, I would soon enough chalk it up as disinterest. But, but, he said he missed me and wants me to be his gf. When someone misses you they reach out. When someone wants you to be his gf, they show you. Anything other is just talk.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 I am depressed and I honestly don't want to do anything. I just want this to stop. I started seeing a guy, and he ignored me for a few weeks. I thought it was because of something I said. Then on Sunday,he started replying to me again. He told me a story about why he had been ignoring me,and I gave him the benefit of the doubt because of my feelings for him, I didnt know that it wasnt true, and I just wanted to be happy and I missed him. In the same email, he told me he missed me and wanted me to be his, to be his girlfriend. I told him to come see me and he did but he couldn't stay long. Things seemed fine and he said again that he missed me. He wanted me to call him and I had offered to as well Monday morning to wake him up as he said he had something important that day. He didnt answer and ended up emailing me telling me he was up and sorry he couldnt talk, he was at the place he was going to. And that was the last I heard from him and he is ignoring me again. Why would a guy act this way? And ladies, have any of you reading this had this happen and why if you ever found out for sure. I just cant take this. My bday is in a few weeks,too and he said he had a surprise for me after my bday. I also saw that he had been on facebook-he liked a app and added a girl on there. Dont know of course who she is to him. She goes to the college he goes to. His facebook says he is attending college anyway, he and I met last month and he's never told me he goes to college. Anyway, he had relationships before, so I dont know if he is unsure about me, a relationship now or wanting to be a player atm but he isnt telling me and I cant read minds. This isn't right. I went through this...turned out the dude was married with 4 kids. 1
witchychick Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 to 'geegirl' : Obviously his words dont match his actions. I know and agree. I just dont know why a guy would do this. Why bother to tell me he wants me to be his gf if it's not true? See what I am saying? And why come over at all? To string me along as a just in case? Or because he is a player. And to 'BewitchedandBothered': I doubt he is married but I don't know what is going on but if he thinks I will be there still after he ignores me,he is nuts.
witchychick Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 and I also only wanted to be friends with him at first but he supposedly wanted me to date him. I gave him a chance and now here we are.
witchychick Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 I went through this...turned out the dude was married with 4 kids. how did u find out he was married?
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 to 'geegirl' : Obviously his words dont match his actions. I know and agree. I just dont know why a guy would do this. Why bother to tell me he wants me to be his gf if it's not true? See what I am saying? And why come over at all? To string me along as a just in case? Or because he is a player. And to 'BewitchedandBothered': I doubt he is married but I don't know what is going on but if he thinks I will be there still after he ignores me,he is nuts. Empower yourself. He is being very secretive; you don't need that.
witchychick Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Empower yourself. He is being very secretive; you don't need that. I know I dont need this. I just wanna know why and I do not get why a guy would do this. Do you? Other than if they aren't single that is.
geegirl Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 to 'geegirl' : Obviously his words dont match his actions. I know and agree. I just dont know why a guy would do this. Why bother to tell me he wants me to be his gf if it's not true? See what I am saying? And why come over at all? To string me along as a just in case? Or because he is a player. And to 'BewitchedandBothered': I doubt he is married but I don't know what is going on but if he thinks I will be there still after he ignores me,he is nuts. Well, when words don't match action, then it's a clear sign to call it a day. Why they do it? Who knows? Game playing. Player. Recruiting a harem. Ego boost. These types say the right things to get you where they want you to be. He said he wants you to be his gf, doesn't show you that but there you are still waiting around for him. Mission accomplished.
witchychick Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 Well, when words don't match action, then it's a clear sign to call it a day. Why they do it? Who knows? Game playing. Player. Recruiting a harem. Ego boost. These types say the right things to get you where they want you to be. He said he wants you to be his gf, doesn't show you that but there you are still waiting around for him. Mission accomplished. its sick and why do as**oles keep finding me. I have dated jerks for over 2 years!! It should be time I found the right one. He once told me he is a liar,then tried to act like he was joking. Guess he wasn't. Maybe he likes being a liar. I dont know how someone could like being this way.
witchychick Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 he also spent 2 nights with me before so I doubt he's married
geegirl Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 its sick and why do as**oles keep finding me. I have dated jerks for over 2 years!! It should be time I found the right one. He once told me he is a liar,then tried to act like he was joking. Guess he wasn't. Maybe he likes being a liar. I dont know how someone could like being this way. I've had a few *******s in my life. You are not alone. You need to adjust your picker or in a sense re-evaluate the way in how you choose your men and why and the process in how you get to know them through the dating process. When a man tells you what you don't want to hear, listen. People's nature is not something you need to understand. They are who they are. Walk away when it does not sync with your needs. 1
gibson Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 or better yet... When someone shows you who / what they are... BELIEVE THEM! 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 how did u find out he was married? The cock knock gave me his house number; said it was his sister's house where he was living, but it turned out it was his wife. He doesn't have a sister. I remember saying to the 'sister': "I am looking forward to meeting the family; I have heard so many wonderful stories:)" I could tell she was trying to keep it together, then told me the truth. He was furious with me--he didn't think I would call the number---which he gave me but said "I'm not home a lot". I had called to hear his voice one day and surprise him. I got the surprise. And I could hear the kids in the background.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 its sick and why do as**oles keep finding me. I have dated jerks for over 2 years!! It should be time I found the right one. He once told me he is a liar,then tried to act like he was joking. Guess he wasn't. Maybe he likes being a liar. I dont know how someone could like being this way. I used to watch a show called "Tool Academy" where ladies bring their boyfriends on the show to get reformed. One guy said "I'm a liar! And that's the God's honest truth!!" LOL
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 he also spent 2 nights with me before so I doubt he's married If he were married, he could have told the wife or g/f he is going on a fishing trip or has meetings, or tests, etc.
lilyblue Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 I am depressed and I honestly don't want to do anything. I just want this to stop. I started seeing a guy, and he ignored me for a few weeks. I thought it was because of something I said. Then on Sunday,he started replying to me again. He told me a story about why he had been ignoring me,and I gave him the benefit of the doubt because of my feelings for him, I didnt know that it wasnt true, and I just wanted to be happy and I missed him. In the same email, he told me he missed me and wanted me to be his, to be his girlfriend. I told him to come see me and he did but he couldn't stay long. Things seemed fine and he said again that he missed me. He wanted me to call him and I had offered to as well Monday morning to wake him up as he said he had something important that day. He didnt answer and ended up emailing me telling me he was up and sorry he couldnt talk, he was at the place he was going to. And that was the last I heard from him and he is ignoring me again. Why would a guy act this way? And ladies, have any of you reading this had this happen and why if you ever found out for sure. I just cant take this. My bday is in a few weeks,too and he said he had a surprise for me after my bday. I also saw that he had been on facebook-he liked a app and added a girl on there. Dont know of course who she is to him. She goes to the college he goes to. His facebook says he is attending college anyway, he and I met last month and he's never told me he goes to college. Anyway, he had relationships before, so I dont know if he is unsure about me, a relationship now or wanting to be a player atm but he isnt telling me and I cant read minds. This isn't right. I had this happen, only I was dating a guy who had been one of my really good friends for years. One day he was texting me and calling me, telling me how much he missed me (he was on a business trip), the next he was ignoring me. He never replied to me again. There was someone else, I later found out.
witchychick Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 I had this happen, only I was dating a guy who had been one of my really good friends for years. One day he was texting me and calling me, telling me how much he missed me (he was on a business trip), the next he was ignoring me. He never replied to me again. There was someone else, I later found out. How did u find out there was someone else? His facebook profile says he is single. All I know. And he replied to a musicians ad I placed, and supposedly wanted to date me and I only wanted to be his friend and work on music but I decided to give him a chance around the 19th of last month. Yeah I know it didnt last long but you cant help how u feel,and what he is doing to me is confusing and horrible. He seemed to back off as I started showing interest and deciding to give him a chance. I told him that and he said it wasnt like that,that it was things in his life basically. And the next nite,we hung out all nite-he spent the nite with me. We didn't have sex that nite but honestly we did two nights later. A few nights after that, he told me he believed he could fall for me and started ignoring me a few nights later. Then after a few weeks after ignoring me he replied to me and gave me a story about why he had been ignoring me and now he is already ignoring me again. I wonder about the way he acted now when he was here sunday nite and I asked when I would see him again. I don't remember what he said at first but I asked him about it-maybe he didnt finish his sentence. And he said I could see him when I wanted,and he wasnt working. He asked what I was doing that day and maybe tuesday and said he was busy Monday. I kissed him before he left and he kissed me back and told me he missed me. Now he is ignoring me again and its killing me. I have wondered if he could be trying to get rid of me or not really interested and doesnt know how to tell me. But by his actions,would that make sense?
witchychick Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 If he were married, he could have told the wife or g/f he is going on a fishing trip or has meetings, or tests, etc. he's only 21 but of course that doesnt mean anything and I got married when I was 22. He spent one nite with me and then didnt the next,and did the next. He said he is living with his Mom and siblings right now. I have hoped he is just mental or something and will turn out to be a decent guy who does care but I really dont knw.
lilyblue Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 How did u find out there was someone else? His facebook profile says he is single. All I know. And he replied to a musicians ad I placed, and supposedly wanted to date me and I only wanted to be his friend and work on music but I decided to give him a chance around the 19th of last month. Yeah I know it didnt last long but you cant help how u feel,and what he is doing to me is confusing and horrible. He seemed to back off as I started showing interest and deciding to give him a chance. I told him that and he said it wasnt like that,that it was things in his life basically. And the next nite,we hung out all nite-he spent the nite with me. We didn't have sex that nite but honestly we did two nights later. A few nights after that, he told me he believed he could fall for me and started ignoring me a few nights later. Then after a few weeks after ignoring me he replied to me and gave me a story about why he had been ignoring me and now he is already ignoring me again. I wonder about the way he acted now when he was here sunday nite and I asked when I would see him again. I don't remember what he said at first but I asked him about it-maybe he didnt finish his sentence. And he said I could see him when I wanted,and he wasnt working. He asked what I was doing that day and maybe tuesday and said he was busy Monday. I kissed him before he left and he kissed me back and told me he missed me. Now he is ignoring me again and its killing me. I have wondered if he could be trying to get rid of me or not really interested and doesnt know how to tell me. But by his actions,would that make sense? After what happened to me, I wouldn't put anything past anyone. It doesn't necessarily have to make sense. I found out by putting little pieces together and finally figured it out.
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