mortensorchid Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 I am not having a good feeling about this man I was supposed to have an Internet date with on Tuesday of this week. We had been communicating for about two weeks, then he said he wanted to meet. I said ok. As last weekend was Easter, he said that since that was a holiday weekend that was out. Insidentally we have not talked on the phone either, all communication has been through emails on the site and text messages. So I did not communicate with him Friday, Saturday or Sunday. On Monday I sent a text asking if we were still on for Tuesday. He texted back almost immediately and said yes we were, he hadn't heard from me in a while and was still interested. Early Tuesday morning he sent a text saying that he had to cancel, his daughter was going to be with him that night when she was supposed to be at his ex wife's house. I responded with "Ok, I know things happen when you have kids. Talk soon!". Nothing since then. Granted it's only been a day since the cancelation, but I think the ball is in his court and he has to reschedule. I will not attempt to contact him again. Someone said I am being too harsh, but what do others think? If he has not called/texted in another day then I'm going to forget him.
gaius Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Granted it's only been a day since the cancelation, but I think the ball is in his court and he has to reschedule. I will not attempt to contact him again. Someone said I am being too harsh, but what do others think? If he has not called/texted in another day then I'm going to forget him. It's his responsibility to reschedule since he canceled. You've already put in more effort than you should have to by texting and asking if you were on for Tuesday after not hearing from him.
Imajerk17 Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 (edited) I am not having a good feeling about this man I was supposed to have an Internet date with on Tuesday of this week. We had been communicating for about two weeks, then he said he wanted to meet. I said ok. As last weekend was Easter, he said that since that was a holiday weekend that was out. Insidentally we have not talked on the phone either, all communication has been through emails on the site and text messages. So I did not communicate with him Friday, Saturday or Sunday. On Monday I sent a text asking if we were still on for Tuesday. He texted back almost immediately and said yes we were, he hadn't heard from me in a while and was still interested. Early Tuesday morning he sent a text saying that he had to cancel, his daughter was going to be with him that night when she was supposed to be at his ex wife's house. I responded with "Ok, I know things happen when you have kids. Talk soon!". Nothing since then. Granted it's only been a day since the cancelation, but I think the ball is in his court and he has to reschedule. I will not attempt to contact him again. Someone said I am being too harsh, but what do others think? If he has not called/texted in another day then I'm going to forget him. I get that things come up and his daughter has to take priority, but I think the way he handled things was poor. The right thing for him to do was to let you know ASAP that he couldn't make it Tuesday night due to events. I mean, you had set aside your time for him from your busy schedule. He didn't do that. You had to contact *him* about whether the two of you were on. Not cool on his part. And then after that, it was on him to reschedule. Forget this guy. Hopefully the next one has more manners. EDIT: I reread this, and I see that the guy actually did take the initiative to text you Tuesday morning. I still don't like how he handled it and I still say to next him. It still would have been nice of him (manners) to not keep you hanging about the reschedule. But alas, this sort of thing comes up in OLD a lot... Edited April 12, 2012 by Imajerk17
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