lospantalonsfancie Posted April 15, 2012 Posted April 15, 2012 (edited) That's a tough one. A couple of ideas: - Perhaps you appear too easy, or too eager? Have you tried being distant/aloof and make the girl work for it? - Project confidence. This is related to the previous point; don't make the girl feel that you are desperate or in a hurry. - Unfortunately, these days young women who are even a bit attractive expect a man with something that stands out (even if nothing about them does; I know it isn't fair). Do you have any competitive advantages? Like maybe a fancy degree, high-paying or creative job, or athletic credentials? If so, try to play those up without being too obvious about it. For example, if you went to Harvard try sounding really intellectual and thoughtful; if you are a creative type, try appearing tortured and passionate; if you are an athlete, make casual references to your competitive drive. - Ask your female friends for honest advice. Pick one or two that you trust, and have a long powwow with them about your ordeal, and have them give you advice about how you come off in light of their existing familiarity with you. You have to take everything they say with a grain of salt, because women do not say what women want, but sometimes good information can be gotten this way about how attractive you come off. Just some thoughts. Wouldn't hurt to experiment at this point. I know some people on this board, girls mainly, will say something about how you should just be yourself and that my advice is terrible. Don't listen to them. Your priority now is to get laid, and not to find the love of your life. Moreover, in early dating all is fair game; the honest mushy mushy stuff comes later. Edited April 15, 2012 by lospantalonsfancie
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