budley12 Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 So I know that the answers to my question will most likely all be around the consensus of "stay NC", but I am wondering if my ex truly meant what he said when he told me "maybe a year down the road we will get back". He hasn't been with anyone else besides me (besides his new relationship) so maybe he is in GIGS? It has been 4.5months since BU, 2.5months since NC -we were together for around 3 years. I would like to break NC and see how he is, and if he is still having the thought of "maybe down the road" or if he has completely ended our chapter together. I realize that breaking NC would most likely be bad because I am still trying to heal and I know it wouldnt be beneficial for me nor him, but if he would tell me "there is no chance of US" then it may give me the push to finally move on. I also realize I shouldn't need his "permission" to move on because I dont owe him anything, but I am still in love.
darkmoon Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 (edited) u want "time to heal" ok, so please do not chase him but get your best mini-skirt on get some men on your arm and see him worry about u instead of the other way round u watch ...turn th tables and make him sorry he went by looking delicious and arouse jealousy and enjoy life/dates, he set u free let him do some work on u, chasing him will make u look desperate so keep your cards close to your chest your emotions are not his business atmo too clingy tbh think how the Duchess Kate got Prince William back study it well on YouTube he might have meant what he said, but u are unhappy and we can't have that on LShack Edited April 11, 2012 by darkmoon 1
Philosoraptor Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 All the "maybe" stuff is just softening the blow or keeping you as a second choice if the first doesn't work out. 1
geegirl Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 (edited) So I know that the answers to my question will most likely all be around the consensus of "stay NC", but I am wondering if my ex truly meant what he said when he told me "maybe a year down the road we will get back". He hasn't been with anyone else besides me (besides his new relationship) so maybe he is in GIGS? It has been 4.5months since BU, 2.5months since NC -we were together for around 3 years. I would like to break NC and see how he is, and if he is still having the thought of "maybe down the road" or if he has completely ended our chapter together. I realize that breaking NC would most likely be bad because I am still trying to heal and I know it wouldnt be beneficial for me nor him, but if he would tell me "there is no chance of US" then it may give me the push to finally move on. I also realize I shouldn't need his "permission" to move on because I dont owe him anything, but I am still in love. Understand that a lot can happen in a year. Infact he is in a new relationship. That phrase is a cushion that people use for a just in case situation in their life. I've heard it one too many times. And hopefully in a year, after giving yourself the gift of NC and healing, you'll see how moronic it was for him to even suggest that. You'll probably be repulsed at the thought because by that time you will have realized you were far too much of a prize to wait around for a jackass to choose you. You move on by accepting that he has chosen someone else and that it is a break-up. You don't hang around waiting for someone to predict in 12 months IF they may want to be with you. He probably doesn't even know what he's going to have for lunch tomorrow so the likelyhood of him knowing what his feelings will be for you months from now is just unrealistic. What if he says he is sure he wants to be with you in a year and you wait and he ends up changing his mind or finds someone else when the time comes? Think about it. Words are words. They hold no substance. They are never guarantees. You hold on to actions. He left you and is now with someone else. That is your ticket to move on. It's normal to be in love but it should not justify forgetting your dignity and the reality of what is at hand. Edited April 11, 2012 by geegirl 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 So I know that the answers to my question will most likely all be around the consensus of "stay NC", but I am wondering if my ex truly meant what he said when he told me "maybe a year down the road we will get back". He hasn't been with anyone else besides me (besides his new relationship) so maybe he is in GIGS? It has been 4.5months since BU, 2.5months since NC -we were together for around 3 years. I would like to break NC and see how he is, and if he is still having the thought of "maybe down the road" or if he has completely ended our chapter together. I realize that breaking NC would most likely be bad because I am still trying to heal and I know it wouldnt be beneficial for me nor him, but if he would tell me "there is no chance of US" then it may give me the push to finally move on. I also realize I shouldn't need his "permission" to move on because I dont owe him anything, but I am still in love. Let him call YOU and see how YOU are doing. My ex said the same thing 'maybe down the road....". He is with someone new since January. Move on, don't wait for someone who isn't making you a priority. You won't heal if you break NC; he won't tell you there is no chance of "us" because he doesn't want to be the one to hurt your feelings. Let this bird fly.
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