Is he playing around with my feelings AGAIN?

[Bella55]

kay, so about 5 years ago, I started talking to this guy online. We talked every now and then, but never thought of it as much. 2 years ago, however, we started talking a lot more, and I felt I started liking him. He started calling me often, and made it seem like he liked me too. Talking about us getting married, and me meeting his mom, and what not. However, randomly after 2 months of whatever that was, he started ignoring me. I was upset, and heartbroken, but I never asked him what all of that was about because this guy usually just joked around about everything, so I assumed all of that was a joke too, and I was silly for falling for it.

 

Anyways, we still had each other on facebook, and he would occasionally, say hi, like/comment on my pictures, and acted like nothing ever happened, so I didn't want to feel stupid for asking him either.

 

NOW, 2 years later, he initiated a conversation, and I finally asked him why he did what he did 2 years ago, and in his defense he said "I felt you were too good for me, I thought it would work out because you lived in a different country, I was jealous about the guys you talked to-and all that put me off, but I'm REALLY sorry for hurting you. I didn't mean it, and I'll make it up to you." Ever since he told me that, he has once again started talking to me like he used to. Making it seem like he likes me again. I told him I didn't want this to be a repeat of last time, but he said 'this time it's much stronger, and practical.' I just don't know whether to believe him or not again. He's a photographer, travels a lot around the world (and I'm bound to meet him one day or another), and knows A LOT of girls-so I fail to understand why he'd want to develop a relationship with me IF that's what he wants this time.

 

So, I guess I'm afraid of getting hurt again. I just don't know where to go from here. Help?

[Ghisop]

Usually when someone stops talking to you it's because they found something local. Be careful, often after a break up people want to feel wanted and desired. That's my read on it.

[CC12]

I just don't know where to go from here. Help?

 

First things first: Meet him in person.

 

Until then, you don't have much to go on and you shouldn't invest much effort at all into this flaky online relationship thing.

[cerridwen]

kay, so about 5 years ago, I started talking to this guy online. We talked every now and then, but never thought of it as much. 2 years ago, however, we started talking a lot more, and I felt I started liking him. He started calling me often, and made it seem like he liked me too. Talking about us getting married, and me meeting his mom, and what not. However, randomly after 2 months of whatever that was, he started ignoring me. I was upset, and heartbroken, but I never asked him what all of that was about because this guy usually just joked around about everything, so I assumed all of that was a joke too, and I was silly for falling for it.

 

Anyways, we still had each other on facebook, and he would occasionally, say hi, like/comment on my pictures, and acted like nothing ever happened, so I didn't want to feel stupid for asking him either.

 

NOW, 2 years later, he initiated a conversation, and I finally asked him why he did what he did 2 years ago, and in his defense he said "I felt you were too good for me, I thought it would work out because you lived in a different country, I was jealous about the guys you talked to-and all that put me off, but I'm REALLY sorry for hurting you. I didn't mean it, and I'll make it up to you." Ever since he told me that, he has once again started talking to me like he used to. Making it seem like he likes me again. I told him I didn't want this to be a repeat of last time, but he said 'this time it's much stronger, and practical.' I just don't know whether to believe him or not again. He's a photographer, travels a lot around the world (and I'm bound to meet him one day or another), and knows A LOT of girls-so I fail to understand why he'd want to develop a relationship with me IF that's what he wants this time.

 

So, I guess I'm afraid of getting hurt again. I just don't know where to go from here. Help?

 

Bear with me as I recap.

There's a guy on the Internet, you never meet, you talk about getting married, he ices you hard and disappears, you're heartbroken, he swings by some years later at a time most convenient to him, admits he's incredibly insecure and jealous but baby I've grown, there's STILL no plan to meet, and you're wondering if you should go for it?

 

Is this April Fool's?

[creighton0123]

You won't truly know how you feel unless you meet in person and are able to spend more than a short time together.