geegirl Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 You always hit the nail on the head geegirl,i think its sad to see a relationship failing after everything thats happened because 1 partner cant find the time for her bf to help this RS work. Its not alot to ask,if she wants it to work then she will find the time,ive always been honest with her and told her when things are on my mind so its time for her to be honest with me. Ive heard from her today,she asked if i was excited about looking after the kids tonight,she was being sarcastic in a joking manner,i did reply and just said ye i cant wait,then she said she was calling tonight after work to drop some money off. So really she has acted as though nothing is wrong,i wont say anything tonight as the kids will be here so it will have to wait because i want to sort this out in person. Keep us updated. It's good to hash this out in person. Keeping fingers crossed for you. Hope it goes well.
Author headsashed Posted April 11, 2012 Author Posted April 11, 2012 I will do geegirl,i can see it ending tbh but who knows,ive got a funny feeling she will not even come in the house tonight after work and just park outside so i have to run out and get the money off her. I know she has ignored my txt from 6 hours ago when i asked how work was,typical lol.
gibson Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 (edited) Quit giving YOUR power and happiness to someone else and stop settling for less than you want / deserve. She is going through that "phase" (G.I.G.S.) that a lot of people her age go through. They are fun to date when you go with the flow and just want to have fun. Pursuing, trying or being in a relationship with them is a total nightmare. She is going to be selfish, self-absorbed, flaky, fickle and has zero attachment or commitment to you. This isn't a reflection of you, just "how the cookie crumbles" when you date in this age group. Let her go be single (which is what she really wants), sow her wild oats and get it out of her system which will take a while (months / years). Typical Phase 4 G.I.G.S. behaviour... She had a string of bad "single" days and thought being back with you was best. After a short amount of time and still having G.I.G.S. she realizes she made a mistake. She is begging and pleading with you to break up with her (through her words / actions). Problem is, you have no boundaries, self-respect or dignity and you are not receiving the message. She feels bad about coming back to you and she is acting the way she is now to get you to break up with her so she doesn't have to be the bad guy again. If you don't dump her soon, she will "escalate" things by treating you even worse in hopes that you break up. If that doesn't work, she will self-destruct it by cheating on you and make sure find out about it. Stop being a chump and set her free. Please don't wait until she "escalates" and the two of you allow this to become a horrible mess. Just tell her you aren't happy and this isn't what you were looking for. She knows she is jacking around and that you are not happy. She also knows what you want and what you are looking for. Problem is, she isn't ready for that yet and won't be for a long while. I bet when you dump her, she will agree, respect and thank you for doing so. Note: Don't fall for the "No, you are what I want" or "I will get better" crap. She is talking months / years down the road and not in the present tense. She is also trying to be nice and make you feel better for giving her a second chance although it was premature. Edited April 11, 2012 by gibson
Author headsashed Posted April 14, 2012 Author Posted April 14, 2012 Looks like im gonna have to dump her .Last night she called after work and we had a take away and things seemed fine,today she called to mine and said she was going shopping with her friend then coming to mine and we can do something,she has just been and told me she is going out in town with her friend now,i told her that she had already made plans with me and she just twisted it right back at me,i asked if i actually mattered to her and she said yes, but she is going out and if i dont like it then i know what to do. That was the final straw for me,im fuming,she went out last weekend with her friend and we had plans for this weekend,god im mad lol. She just txt me askin if i was goin to argue as i went to do but didnt because her friend was in car,i wasnt,i was about to dump her but she had already shut the car door lol,sorry for the rant,im just extremely mad.
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