rejected_lost Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 (edited) hi, This girl is in my college... I've known her for abt 2 months... inspite of being in the same college we got in touch via facebook and I don't know how, but I seemed to have created some interest in her... she asked for my number and then we used to text a lot... followed by calls and we met a few times too... I had a bad breakup before I met her and to be very honest I was just looking to find someone to make me feel better after the breakup... I never intended to take her seriously but she used to text me a lot... after sometime, she started showing genuine interest in me by calling me 7-8 times a day and texts throughout the day... I still was certain I won't get serious about her... but eventually... after meeting her a couple of times and talking so much on phone and given that she showed so much interest... I fell for her... This might sound stupid but when I had asked her about her relationship status she said she's committed but doesn't know where it's heading... she said her bf works 12 hrs a day and she hardly gets to talk for 15 mins with him in a day... that came as something which took me aback... I started to distance myself from her... but she still kept on calling and texting me... she has a very close friend in college with whom she spends a lot of time... we have a hostel in our college campus and she eats, studies and like I said, spends all her time with him... but at the same time she made sure she kept in touch with me throughout the day through texts and calls... she makes it a point to speak to me before going to bed each night... I'm a possessive guy and we are different. While she doesn't mind having a few male best friends, I don't interact with girls that much... I do not like her spending too much time with her best friend in college and her staying in his room till late in the night... I do not like him touching her a lot and from what I know of him, he's a jerk who I think is just looking for a reason to get physical with her... call me stupid, immature or orthodox... the thing is I'm not comfortable with her spending so much time with her friend... why would she want to speak to me every night and many a times throughout the day inspite of being committed to a guy who stays in a different city and inspite of being so close to her friend who was the reason why she once decided to end friendship with me as he didn't like her talking so much with me... she did apologize later and I accepted her apology... but the thing is she doesn't mind people linking her with her friend but she refrains from meeting me in the campus cause she fears people will link her with me! maybe her friend will not like that? Well, at times she shows a lot of interest but at times she hardly calls me once or twice a day... this was getting too much for me and I expressed my liking for her...she replied saying nothing will change between us unless I expected something similar from her side... I told her I need to stay away from you for a while so that things don't get ugly between us...I knew she was committed and I respected that... but she's like dare you stop talking to me and all... I continued talking... but everytime I saw her with that friend of hers who is a jerk, I felt terrible... how could she spend so much time with hi in person and at the same time keep me hooked up over the phone? Why doesn't she have the courage to meet me in public? My college life is ****ed and I haven't been able to concentrate on my studies... I have a big backlog and my family has a lot of hope on me... Tonight... I finally decided to msg her about all that I feel once and for all and telling her clearly that I do not wish to be contacted for a while... I told her honestly what she does affects me in a way it shouldn't and that I need to get out of her life for the time being and if she wants, we can be back as friends again in the future... I like her a lot no doubt... but she gives me mixed reactions and given the fact she's still committed and spends too much time with her friend in college it had started to affect me real bad... I'm thinking of going no contact after this... Please tell me what you make up of this? Have I made the right decision? I know I can't take back my decision now... and it was really making me uncomfortable... and given that I need to concentrate on my studies now and being distracted by someone who makes me feel uncomfortable by her mixed reactions is the last thing I want... Edited April 10, 2012 by rejected_lost
Philosoraptor Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Do you feel you made the right decision? No one else can validate it. If you were unhappy enough with the situation that getting away was better than staying, yes you made the right decision for you. You didn't seem to trust her very much because the other guy is not your problem. If you trust someone then you can let them spend as much time with someone else as they want without having to worry. He may have wanted to get into her pants, but she'd have to be willing to let him in. Was your lack of trust warranted? I dunno. If you feel you made the best decision for you, then great. I hope everything works out for you in the future and that your healing is quick.
Author rejected_lost Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 thanks for your reply... I feel I had to do this... I could have waited and see how things go... but since it was affecting me so much I thought ending it was the right thing to do... I might have lost a good friend but I was getting too serious about her and to see her spending so much time with a jerk made me feel miserable...
EgoJoe Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 It's cool to be the player but it sucks to be the played...and all you need is bucks to be the man. Comfy and roomy in the sticks. Instead they threw me in the mix with all these loony lunaticks.
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