BewitchedandBothered Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 (edited) After the clouds have cleared and healing has been good to me, I am now wondering about 20/20 hindsight....My ex is a computer whiz/techie. I was warned by someone I never met in the beginning about him, that he was a jerk and would hurt me, etc. She said, "Do NOT let him NEAR your computer!" Back then, I was in love and ignored her; he had me block her because she was 'psycho and on drugs'. Once, during a chat between me and him, my notebook kept freezing up. He works for a company who does trouble shooting on computers and such and suggest I remotely hook up to him at his job so he can 'clean up' my computer. I was hesitant at first, but then gave in. He seemed angry that he could not get in because of a 'stubborn firewall' and one of the very first questions he had ever asked me, when we started talking on the phone was 'how many computers do you have in the house?"===odd, right? Anyway, around the time he started becoming majorly abusive, I started noticing things...all the interaction between the two of us was deleted from my Facebook inbox-I had saved it all from the beginning when he said "hi", etc. (I was able to retrieve it by seeing my 'sent' stuff). He also got angry with me for 'stuff I found out'=stuff he could only have seen if he was in my email or computer in general. I was talking to a male friend for advice and this friend told me that my ex was nothing but a piece of garbage and to keep running in the other direction. I started to go into panic mode and have no clue what he did, if he did anything---should I have notified his job? The fact that I was warned by someone in the beginning about this really makes my skin crawl. Also, when a woman he had block me in August, unblocked me and said she finally saw what an 'epic temper' he has, she told me he may have used 'keyboard recognition'==but can that be used remotely? I let him 'fix' my computer back in March of 2010; he said there was a stubborn firewall and that was that. Seemed extremely frustrated about it. Can anything be traced thought it's been that time? Also, he went through and deleted all the nice things he said under my pictures==that was May of that year when an object of his obsession friended him again--he was still saying he loves me and I thought all was well. Sorry if I am all over the place, but I cannot help but wonder...I am creeped out the more I think of it. Edited April 10, 2012 by BewitchedandBothered
EgoJoe Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Download and use these two programs, they are either free or free full version trial. Malwarebytes is worth buying. Ad-Aware Free Antivirus + - Download.com Malwarebytes : Malwarebytes Anti-Malware PRO removes malware including viruses, spyware, worms and trojans, plus it protects your computer
hellodearest Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 i would do a full re-install. also, change your router/wireless password. for example, just youtube: firesheep.
jaymz Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Depending on what he has installed, you may never get rid of it using anti-malware or anti-virus programs. To be 100% certain you need to: 1) Reset all your passwords from another PC - local library, friend etc 2) Change your router password - this can normally be talked through by your ISP technical support 3) Format and reinstall your computer - If you have a fairly modern pc/laptop then it normally comes with an recovery program. You need to copy off your personal data (photos, documents, videos etc), then run the recovery program (or dvd) and choose factory reset - this should wipe everything off your pc/laptop and restore it to the day you bought it. 1
NeverDated Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Yes, keyboard recognition can be used remotely. You can follow the above advice, but if you really want answers you should have your computer checked out. Let someone see what they can track down. If there is anything on there, you may even be able to press charges (if you're so inclined). 1
tears_in_rain Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 (edited) Malwarebytes Anti-Malware PRO is a good way to start. A fresh reinstall of your operation system also good. (after you back stuff up !) Make a note on paper of all you passwords & login usernames etc and after flushing your computer go about changing all passwords from another pc at a library or friends (as mentioned above) You know someone can also remote monitor you sms messages too. Wish I could do that, could get some answers to things but regardless it needs to be installed on someones phone directly. Beware of emails / texts with attachments ! Edited April 10, 2012 by tears_in_rain grrrrr spelling again
esteem-jam Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Reinstall all, and change your FB password. Maybe he just stole your browsers cookies, copied them to his PC and thus having full access to your facebook. 1
Author BewitchedandBothered Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 Reinstall all, and change your FB password. Maybe he just stole your browsers cookies, copied them to his PC and thus having full access to your facebook. I should have listened to that woman when she told me to not let him near my computer. He was so suave about it and his job is to troubleshoot and solve problems. I wonder how many other people he has done this to. And it was at the beginning of our relationship, too. Wanted to 'clean' my computer for me. He used his job to do this or attempt to do this. But, one of the very first questions he asked me when we talked over the phone for the first time was 'how many computers do you have in the house'...has anyone been asked this? I really hope whatever he is doing, he gets caught because I doubt he would stop at me.
esteem-jam Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I would take precautions, but would not be quickly to make "conclusions". Being somewhat socially anxious + being computers friendly sometimes I get jokes as if Im probably gonna hack somebodys PC or something. Its unfair, cause I would not do it, or attempt. Some older ladies get nervous and suspicious without a doubt And I dont like to deal with other peoples installations, cause they are full of cr*p, laggy, mouse/keyboard dirty, monitor too bright... blah, so repulsive, it all. 1
NeverDated Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I would take precautions, but would not be quickly to make "conclusions". Being somewhat socially anxious + being computers friendly sometimes I get jokes as if Im probably gonna hack somebodys PC or something. Its unfair, cause I would not do it, or attempt. Some older ladies get nervous and suspicious without a doubt And I dont like to deal with other peoples installations, cause they are full of cr*p, laggy, mouse/keyboard dirty, monitor too bright... blah, so repulsive, it all. I'm a web developer, and have gotten the same crap about "hacking into websites" or what not. But considering what she's posted about her ex in the past, I don't think she's jumping to conclusions. Seems like she's putting two and two together. 1
Author BewitchedandBothered Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 I would take precautions, but would not be quickly to make "conclusions". Being somewhat socially anxious + being computers friendly sometimes I get jokes as if Im probably gonna hack somebodys PC or something. Its unfair, cause I would not do it, or attempt. Some older ladies get nervous and suspicious without a doubt And I dont like to deal with other peoples installations, cause they are full of cr*p, laggy, mouse/keyboard dirty, monitor too bright... blah, so repulsive, it all. I hope you're right. He accessed me remotely from his place of employment and I have that warning to go on==everything else that woman said about him was right on the money. I was too blinded to see it at that time. Now my eyes are wide open. Why ask a person how many computers they own?
firemanq Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 if you are running Window 7, Microsoft Defender works very well. Not as good a Malwaremalbytes. You can download the trial Malware for free. They keep asking you to update to a paid subscription, but will keep updating the free verson for free. MS Defender and Malware work very well together. 1
EgoJoe Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Keep it simple. Start with those two programs I suggested. They are very good and free. If MWB or AA detect something that doesn't get removed after a few reboots then go for a reinstall. 1
Author BewitchedandBothered Posted April 11, 2012 Author Posted April 11, 2012 Keep it simple. Start with those two programs I suggested. They are very good and free. If MWB or AA detect something that doesn't get removed after a few reboots then go for a reinstall. Thanks so much; it really gives me the willies that there is a possibility that he was all in my personal stuff for whatever reason. A little extra info...Right after my senior year in high school, he dated a childhood friend of mine. He became so possessive that he would climb up her trellis early in the morning into her bedroom and read her diary----across her back as she lay sleeping. He would wake her up when he found something he didn't like. He would often sneak into her room like that and go through her dresser to find anything 'incriminating'. She left town to get away from him; he later would mail letters to her with insults all over the outside of the envelopes; called her awful names.--I found all this out during my dark time when I was crying over the louse. Fast Forward...there were rumors that he hacked into 2 women's computers and then the lady who warned me. I wonder how long he will keep getting away with such things... Will give that a whirl and I pray that he can't get back into my computer. He is trash.
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