Surfer203 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 So, I have been seeing this woman for about a month and half... had 3 really great dates (dinner dates), amazing conversation, very good energy and the third date we kissed for the first time. Had a date, well... we went to a concert together, she invited her girlfriend and another buddy met up there. Anyway, she was weird the whole time.. didn't talk to me much, I didn't even get a hug as a greeting. She did admit that she was a bit high however. The night went on and we weren't communicating she was talking to her friend a lot. At one point I touched her back when we were joking around and she said "I don't like being touched". So the concert ends and I say to her... "so maybe next time we hang out we can actually talk" "are we going to hang out again or?" and she says "totally". I sent her a text after about how I'm sorry if things seemed weird during the date, blah blah blah. No response from her at all. What do you make of this? We were getting along so well and were having a great time and now it seems that's not the case. Should I give her space or try to contact her again?
Author Surfer203 Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 Haha... but what's with getting along so well and now acting weird to me? I don't get it.. if she wasn't into me she could have just not agreed to come out last night. And no, she didn't share anything with me, haha
Author Surfer203 Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 Paid for the 3 dates but not the show. However, I did demand to pay for the dates. But I don't think I will be paying for anything for her ever again. The weed thing, hahaha uhhh she was already baked when she got there so.. nothing to share.
Fondue Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Pretty sure you're a free meal ticket, man. She seemed completely put off by you and your slight advances, but then tells you she's open to hang out again? I would just get rid of her. Don't even attempt to contact her again, or reply to her if she tries to get in contact with you. Don't waste throw your time and money away so freely.
Author Surfer203 Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 Yeah, very uncool - I want to talk to her to get the final word but that might not be a good idea.
Author Surfer203 Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 Yah... when we kissed we hugged eachother and she squeezed my arm. Weird stuff... I don't get it, I don't think she was using me necessarily but who knows. I have been fooled before.
Pierre Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Don't date drug users, they are strange and can show erratic behavior. 1
oaks Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 At one point I touched her back when we were joking around and she said "I don't like being touched". That sounds like an unguarded comment that reveals how she really feels about you.
Feelsgoodman Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 So the concert ends and I say to her... "so maybe next time we hang out we can actually talk" "are we going to hang out again or?" and she says "totally". I sent her a text after about how I'm sorry if things seemed weird during the date, blah blah blah. No response from her at all. Why would you apologize for something that was her fault? It sounds like she's the one who made it weird, not you. I suggest that you a) get your balls back and b) quit dating stoners. 1
Author Surfer203 Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 Yeah, I agree with you all. I think I might just be blinded by her looks... she is beautiful. Stupid me.
Author Surfer203 Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 Sent her a text asking if she has a minute to talk later... she said "uh suuure bout what?" and I told her briefly that last night was weird and I am not sure what was going on. That was 3 hours ago, no response. I think I should just give up. Still confused as to how things went wrong so quickly after it was seemingly a good thing developing.
RachR Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I'm sorry this happened to you, how she acted was really rude and lame. I would forget about her.
Feelsgoodman Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Sent her a text asking if she has a minute to talk later... she said "uh suuure bout what?" and I told her briefly that last night was weird and I am not sure what was going on. That was 3 hours ago, no response. I think I should just give up. Still confused as to how things went wrong so quickly after it was seemingly a good thing developing. It happens quite often actually. Things seem to be going great and then bam, she does a complete 180. No need to wreck your head trying to figure out what happened. On to the next one. 1
Author Surfer203 Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 Yeah.. well, I obsess over women. It sucks. Anyway, I have a date with another woman on Thursday anyway, so I guess - clear the mental slate and move on. Delete her from FB and stuff, you think?
RachR Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Delete her from FB and stuff, you think? I would. And don't add anymore people to FB that you hardly know and just started going out with! lol
dispatch3d Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Sent her a text asking if she has a minute to talk later... she said "uh suuure bout what?" and I told her briefly that last night was weird and I am not sure what was going on. That was 3 hours ago, no response. I think I should just give up. Still confused as to how things went wrong so quickly after it was seemingly a good thing developing. dude don't do this next time. Just wait and see if a date 4 happens is a much better option than sending that text.
kaylan Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 A kiss at the end of one date but then on the next she says she doesnt like to be touched? I wouldnt have even asked her to hang out after that. I would have simply texted her and said its been fun but Im not really feeling it anymore.
prune juice Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 So, I have been seeing this woman for about a month and half... had 3 really great dates (dinner dates), amazing conversation, very good energy and the third date we kissed for the first time. Had a date, well... we went to a concert together, she invited her girlfriend and another buddy met up there. Anyway, she was weird the whole time.. didn't talk to me much, I didn't even get a hug as a greeting. She did admit that she was a bit high however. The night went on and we weren't communicating she was talking to her friend a lot. At one point I touched her back when we were joking around and she said "I don't like being touched". So the concert ends and I say to her... "so maybe next time we hang out we can actually talk" "are we going to hang out again or?" and she says "totally". I sent her a text after about how I'm sorry if things seemed weird during the date, blah blah blah. No response from her at all. What do you make of this? We were getting along so well and were having a great time and now it seems that's not the case. Should I give her space or try to contact her again? she's a drama queen. i can't stand them and am so put off that now i'm just going for sex.
daphne Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 You can't allow her physical attractiveness to dictate the kind of behavior you'll put up with. It's a sure fire way to get more bad behavior. I don't think you have to delete her from fb, but I wouldn't pursue it again. It makes you look like a weak guy with no integrity. WIth her or any woman you don't have to go in full guns blazing, but you do need to know how to stand up for yourself in a timely manner or a woman will lose respect. You can still get it back by not pursuing. But do it for yourself. This girl doesn't seem to know that she's not the end of the earth.
prune juice Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 You can't allow her physical attractiveness to dictate the kind of behavior you'll put up with. It's a sure fire way to get more bad behavior. I don't think you have to delete her from fb, but I wouldn't pursue it again. It makes you look like a weak guy with no integrity. WIth her or any woman you don't have to go in full guns blazing, but you do need to know how to stand up for yourself in a timely manner or a woman will lose respect. You can still get it back by not pursuing. But do it for yourself. This girl doesn't seem to know that she's not the end of the earth. why does it matter if she's lost respect. she's not respectable. she showed her hand and hes lucky it was on the 4th date rather than the 20th.
Chicago_Guy Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 You probably should not have taken her on dinner dates for your first three dates. That was a waste of money and probably did little to improve your chances with that girl. I used to make the same mistake myself. You should meet for drinks or something else other than a drink or a movie for the first date and then maybe you can take her to dinner for the second date, but if you don't get a kiss by the end of the second date, there is a strong chance that the girl is not interested. 1
Author Surfer203 Posted April 11, 2012 Author Posted April 11, 2012 Thanks all! I like Daphne's optimism but honestly, I think it's probably a done deal. Going to just lay off of this woman and see if she gets in touch, if not that's fine. Have a date with another woman on Thursday anyway. Have to stop getting hung up on women but I fall hard for them and when things go bad I always take it poorly. Story of my life, since I was a teenager. haha
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 It happens quite often actually. Things seem to be going great and then bam, she does a complete 180. No need to wreck your head trying to figure out what happened. On to the next one. Yes. Women flake alot. They'll show complete interest and then turn around and act like you're some stranger who bothers her. Guys need to start getting smart. Start multi-dating and pay less for dinner dates. Don't let people try to shame you by calling you "cheap" or a "player". These people try to act as if there aren't many woman who waste men's time and money.
Author Surfer203 Posted April 11, 2012 Author Posted April 11, 2012 I guess so.. sickening though. This one has no clue who she is missing out on. I am confident in that.
daphne Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 why does it matter if she's lost respect. she's not respectable. she showed her hand and hes lucky it was on the 4th date rather than the 20th. It's human nature within us all, unfortunately, to treat people the way we allow them or demand. Only a fortunate few are able to treat people based on their own personal integrity, regardless of the messages sent. Surfer, I didn't mean to suggest that she's actually worth trying to get back. But you can learn to be confident regardless of the outcome. It's practice for someone else. Someone better.
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