silicis n volvo Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Ok. Ive never really been an expert with girls. usually if i really like i girl i play it rong and nothing happens. Its the girls who im not too keen on that always seem interested. I was in a relationship for close to a year wen it ended a month ago. For me this girl was perfect and i still very much love her. This was our problem. I put a lot more feelings and effort and emotion into our relationship than she did. altho she insisted she wanted to be with me she often didnt act like it and didnt say it bk when i told her i loved her after 6 months. It caused many arguments and eventually it came to boiling point when we broke up. I actually ended things but weve tried to sort things out since then and failed with her finishing with me last. We havnt spoken since but looking back i see it was no different than any other girl ive liked. I chased and put effort in giving her anything she wanted which made me too needy and available and she was just never interested. Over our time together ive kinda forgot how to flirt or talk to other girls or get on the dating scene. So this past weekend i bump into a girl ive had a bit of a crush on for a while and without really trying i got her number. I text her yesturday got a conversation going and asked her out for a drink one night this week. She said yes that sounds good but she'd have to go to work that night and see when shes working this week and let me know. Now what do i do? Do i wait to hear from her as i feel theres a good chance i wont. Or do i keep conversation going without mentioning a date? Or what? Do i text her? If so what do i say or talk about? I dont want to be too keen this time but not sure what to do
Author silicis n volvo Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 Should i text her today just askin how her days been? I xont want to lose any momentum there may be but i dont know how to handle this. Im vry nervous as i feel new to it again and am barely over my ex. But i feel i dont want to pass on tbis chance with this new girl
cerridwen Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 (edited) Should i text her today just askin how her days been? I xont want to lose any momentum there may be but i dont know how to handle this. Im vry nervous as i feel new to it again and am barely over my ex. But i feel i dont want to pass on tbis chance with this new girl I know you like this girl but don't put so much pressure on yourself/her/it. Second-guessing, over-analyzing, fear of a misstep not only takes the fun out of everything, it increases your chances of manifesting the very thing you're fearing. So, lighten up. This girl is nice I'm sure, but she's not the be-all end-all. Send her a cute text today, yes. Keep the connection going. Don't mention the date. Just drop her a simple line and give her the entire day to respond. Don't worry if she isn't back to you with a quick answer. Not everyone sits on their phone. Edited April 10, 2012 by cerridwen
sid3 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I know you like this girl but don't put so much pressure on yourself/her/it. Second-guessing, over-analyzing, fear of a misstep not only takes the fun out of everything, it increases your chances of manifesting the very thing you're fearing. So, lighten up. This girl is nice I'm sure, but she's not the be-all end-all. Send her a cute text today, yes. Keep the connection going. Don't mention the date. Just drop her a simple line and give her the entire day to respond. Don't worry if she isn't back to you with a quick answer. Not everyone sits on their phone. That's great advice. OP, you're more likely to screw it up if you over think it. Keep it fun, you'll be more attractive.
Author silicis n volvo Posted April 11, 2012 Author Posted April 11, 2012 (edited) Ur both right...its good advice. Harder to follow than to say though lol cant really help the way i think but tbh im not sure i want the date. Im still in a huge battle with my temptation to contact my ex. Ive been in NC for a week now. But if im honest shes all i think about and im still kinda hoping for another go. Im struggling to put any kind of interest or effort into any other aspect of my life including other dates so maybe i shouldnt waste her time. I need to get through this current issue first i think Edited April 11, 2012 by silicis n volvo
rocketman122 Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 she said she'd get back to you. so be patient and wait. if she doesnt within a week, she might have lost interest. you need to also be a challenge. hang on and wait. if she doesnt contact you within 3-5 days, send her a fun text to see how's she doing but not a "hey you said you'd call, what about the date?" good luck.
cerridwen Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Im struggling to put any kind of interest or effort into any other aspect of my life including other dates so maybe i shouldnt waste her time. I need to get through this current issue first i think This. Heal your heart first so you can be wholly available for a new person. Good luck.
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