irc333 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I saw this dating profile of a woman, late 30's, she actually looked young for her age. There had been women I'd see occasionally, and would make mention of that in my email to them. This one woman said in her profile, "If I had a dime for every time I was told I like 25, I'd be rich!" Isn't it getting bad, when women receive compliments, that actually have a PROBLEM with it? Friend of me that women (well the attractive ones) get complimented so much by men, they honestly get SICK of it. Is that the kind of woman you should even date? Do they have issues? Remember back in the good ol days where saying a woman is beautiful would get blushes and giggles from her? My have times changed. You know what's ironic, once these women have been married X amount of years, and their husband stops paying attention to them, they ABSORB the attention when they go out in public.
yongyong Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I usually give them funny insult instead of complimenting them. you should really look at from their standpoint. they get these fake compliment all the time. they know it's not because they are really pretty. they all know guys throw it out to get their attention which can lead to a bang.
gaius Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 It's not hard to get sick of compliments when nobody actually means what they say anymore. She could just be saying she wants someone a little more clever than the average guy too. I'm sure if the best the guy can come up with is "wow you look 10 years younger!" she's probably falling asleep the rest of the date too. There are very few witty and interesting men around. 2
Author irc333 Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 It's not hard to get sick of compliments when nobody actually means what they say anymore. She could just be saying she wants someone a little more clever than the average guy too. I'm sure if the best the guy can come up with is "wow you look 10 years younger!" she's probably falling asleep the rest of the date too. There are very few witty and interesting men around. That's because women tend to bore easily, which is a shame. And what kind of a guy wants a woman with a short attention span and bores easily, right?
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I usually give them funny insult instead of complimenting them. you should really look at from their standpoint. they get these fake compliment all the time. they know it's not because they are really pretty. they all know guys throw it out to get their attention which can lead to a bang. Yes, that's the way to a healthy woman's heart. Abuse them instead of being kind to them. (FYI, if you are insulting them, even if it' self termed 'funny', you are actually verbally abusive.)
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 That's because women tend to bore easily, which is a shame. And what kind of a guy wants a woman with a short attention span and bores easily, right? Gauis is on target with this. And it's not becaue women bore easily. It's because alot of men today do not put effort into treating women nicely or being sincere toward them. It's because alot of guys don't want to put the effort into learning how women want them to treat them instead of just wanting to treat women anyway they choose and expect women to fall at their feet. Ain't gonna work that way. And instead of trying to understand women, they get angry or bitter or feel more comfortable themselves giving women little "funny jabs" as one poster here talked about. They don't feel comfortable even treating women with kindness. Compliments are nice. But when you don't really know a man, they are cheap. Women are use to men saying all kinds of things to them to get what a guy wants, while his intentions might not be kind or sincere. Now a mature woman will thank a man for a compliment and take it worth a grain a salt in most cases. Getting compliments from husbands and boyfriends is a completely different matter because there is already a strong foundation for your relationship if you are at that stage. I think you want to go back to the 18th century when women blushed and giggled from a compliment because it would be easier for *you*. Not because you really care to get to know women, undrestand them or work with them.
prune juice Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 i run from gals who can't appreciate compliments. they're not worth my time. when i compliment a gal i mean it
xxoo Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I saw this dating profile of a woman, late 30's, she actually looked young for her age. There had been women I'd see occasionally, and would make mention of that in my email to them. This one woman said in her profile, "If I had a dime for every time I was told I like 25, I'd be rich!" Isn't it getting bad, when women receive compliments, that actually have a PROBLEM with it? Friend of me that women (well the attractive ones) get complimented so much by men, they honestly get SICK of it. Is that the kind of woman you should even date? Do they have issues? Remember back in the good ol days where saying a woman is beautiful would get blushes and giggles from her? My have times changed. You know what's ironic, once these women have been married X amount of years, and their husband stops paying attention to them, they ABSORB the attention when they go out in public. Is the bolded statement what you took as a woman having a problem with compliments? Sounds to me like she loves it, and was bragging. Or was trying to say "other people think I look young" instead of "I think I look young". 1
ditzchic Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 When you pick the most obvious thing to compliment them on you should realize that they've heard it a million times and are a little desensitized to it. It comes across like you aren't trying very hard.
zengirl Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Is the bolded statement what you took as a woman having a problem with compliments? Sounds to me like she loves it, and was bragging. Or was trying to say "other people think I look young" instead of "I think I look young". That's what I took away. Personally, I have no problem with compliments, but I know I was always turned off if a man emphasized my beauty or physical features too heavily with his compliments. There's an old saying that the smart ones want to be told they're pretty and the pretty ones want to be told they're smart (obviously women can be smart and pretty, but they're going to identify with one or the other, based on what they usually get complimented on, and almost all women prefer the unusual -- but still flattering -- compliment to the usual one). But I don't think that's the case here. This lady seems to love compliments, including giving them to herself.
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