Leigh 87 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Dear Men, I need to hear the experiences of the people who HAVE find a person they fell in love with. Be it past pr present partners; I just need to know a couple of things you noticed about how your life changed, after meeting a person you TRULY loved; NOT just a girl you fell in love with by spending time with them. A girl you had that " feeling" with, TRUE love, not the type of mediocore love people " settle" for, because they are " happy" together. My question: - Do these girls make your life BETTER than it ever previously was? My boyfriend had a great life before me, so apart from giving him the gift of love, and the chance for him to get to be around a girl he finds intriguing/interesting.... I have not improved his life in general. In fact, the best time of his life, was when he was travelling and partying around the world; not a care in the world, no job, no committments.... On the other hand, I was unhappy before I met my boyfriend. My bf did NOT give me my hobbies, interests; it is not JUST HIM alone that I have on life, to be happy about; if he left tomorrow, I still have my own very distinct personality, interests, hobbies, career aspirations, etc... I had an eating disorder and could not be truly happy with it; I was anti social due to the disorder, also. Meeting my b/f helped me over come my eating disorder after many years. In turn, I now know what true joy and happiness is. I am my OWN person, but he was the catalyst in pushing me out of my unhappy situation. I wonder: is it a bad sign, that I have not changed his life or made is better, in the sense of him having what he WANTS in life ( to travel, and do all the things u save up to do). He was HAPPIER when he was doing what he most enjoyed in life; save, travel, explore new countries by day and party at night. Where as I was very unhappy before meeting him. I am not recovered from my mental disorder, and am a happy person. Now, I am always positive, happy, and smiling. He "taught me" how to be happy.... he MADE me want to be a very positive person,.,,, and when I put my mind to it, I became that way. It is an attribute I plan on keeping no matter where he goes.
Author Leigh 87 Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 Another thing, My boyfriend had his mother alive, who was the closest person to him, before he met me... She died almost a year before we met. Also, he saved a lot of money and was travelling; his passion. Having his mother, and living his dream, of COURSE he has seen happier times in his life, than when he has a boring job he dislikes BUT, has me. I can see he loves me, and on the weekends I am a person who he pursues the most fun things with, so it is not as though he would have a better time with anyone else, in terms of the activities we enjoy doing; we both enjoy the same things. We just came from SUCH different places; him, having the time of his life, having his mother still alive. Then there was me, I was ready to be happy, but had YET to be happy in life much, and he was the push and person that helped inact this.
Author Leigh 87 Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 LOL - and last night in bed, before sleeping, I told him for the first time, about how in high school, I was chubby with terrible skin, and had no friends at one stage..... I told him that I even ate lunch in the toilets, because i was embarrassed to be seen alone, as a " loner" that I was. He was like " awwww omg my heart melted hearing that, that is so horrible :(:(:(" Now, I mingle with popular people, quiet people, all sorts of people. That deaply unhappy stage of my life is long gone, thanks god.... BUT, can you see how he was always a happy boy, where as I was NOT happy, until after meeting him?
Author Leigh 87 Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 (edited) Bump... So, is it bad that I met a guy who was having more fun in life before meeting me? Or, is falling in love supposed to make your entire life better than it ever was? Does that make any sense? That he travelled, had his mother alive, and had the time of his life BEFORE meeting me; and being broke, no travelling, working a boring job? Does being in love mean u are automatically having a happier time in life, despite your circumstances? Edited April 10, 2012 by Leigh 87
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