xxSRMxx Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 My loss of appetite is worrying.... I have not touched a thing today and have no desire too, I feel like forcing myself and ive tried but each mouthful of food i have, i swallow it and then discard the rest. Feel like im cracking up, lost, empty and cant see a way out of this. I seem to be pacing alot?? did anyone else do this....I just spent half an hour pacing round my living room. cant get comfortable.
Mr Scorpio Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Pacing? No. Shaking immediately after being dumped? Yeah. I also got really thirsty for some reason. But if you have so much pent up energy, you really should be at the gym.
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Yea my appetite has gone out the window, I think that is a common side effect. For whatever reason. The pacing sounds like just not knowing what to do with yourself. The Gym suggestion is a good one. Or just go run!
Author xxSRMxx Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 Im going to the gym first thing in the morning..... Eating today has gone out the window, its nearly bedtime and i too, am very thirsty, I can drink lots of juice but just the eating part im finding pretty tough right now. The pacing I do feel is just a case of not knowing what to do with myself, Ive always lived at home with my parents, while i was with my boyfriend i kind of spent more time at his, Being back at home on a full time basis is weird, I feel horrible here and ive lived here nearly all my life.
Mr Scorpio Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 The headlines tell the truth my dear: more 20-somethings -- and even 30-somethings -- are living with their parents, some by choice and some due to the economy. It could be worse! After I got dumped, I was sleeping at a friends house is a tiny spare room. There was no bed, just a sectional-type piece of couch. I set a chair facing toward it so I could stretch my legs out. I had a few days clothes in a gym-bag because I hadn't yet moved my stuff out of what used to be "our place". But the loss of appetite is totally normal. The second time my ex left me, I went three days without eating anything. Then on the fourth day I ate a few bites of sandwich. Come to think of it, if you haven't been eating, going to the gym might not be such a good idea. Try to eat some "simple" things (applesauce, bananas, bread w/ peanut butter, yogurt, V8-splash, etc).
Author xxSRMxx Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 The headlines tell the truth my dear: more 20-somethings -- and even 30-somethings -- are living with their parents, some by choice and some due to the economy. It could be worse! After I got dumped, I was sleeping at a friends house is a tiny spare room. There was no bed, just a sectional-type piece of couch. I set a chair facing toward it so I could stretch my legs out. I had a few days clothes in a gym-bag because I hadn't yet moved my stuff out of what used to be "our place". But the loss of appetite is totally normal. The second time my ex left me, I went three days without eating anything. Then on the fourth day I ate a few bites of sandwich. Come to think of it, if you haven't been eating, going to the gym might not be such a good idea. Try to eat some "simple" things (applesauce, bananas, bread w/ peanut butter, yogurt, V8-splash, etc). Thanks for your advice WOW at sleeping in your friends tiny spare room, mustve been soul destroying, are u keeping okay?
Mr Scorpio Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Thanks for your advice WOW at sleeping in your friends tiny spare room, mustve been soul destroying, are u keeping okay? Thank you for your concern, but that was four years ago. I've since gotten back together with the ex and gotten dumped again. The second time around I got to sleep in my nice, comfy sleep-number bed! 2
NewYorker2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I think the loss of appetite isn't at all unusual. I can't remember being this messed up during previous break-ups, but this time I definitely lost my appetite for quite some time. There were full days that went by where I ate nothing at all (though I think I stepped up my smoking habit to a professional level). It happens. It will come back. Take some of these previous suggestions...try to take a vitamin and drink a protein shake or something. Eventually you'll have an "ok" day in there where you can stomach something. Or invite a friend out to a casual dinner and just the normal conversation revolving around catching up with them might take your mind off things enough to eat. Good luck and hang in there.
perryb13 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Different people respond to stress differently. I am in the exact same boat my friend. When it comes to school, I'll actually gain appetite under stress and I don't lose the ability to buckle down and study amidst a million things to do. However, when it comes to girl stress, I lose the ability to calm my thoughts, eat, work, do ANYTHING focused, really... it sucks, but I've found that eating with friends helps a lot if you can I agree with NewYorker2012, having someone there to distract can really bring back your appetite. My parents helped me out by drinking a gin martini with me on Easter! I got so hungry, I scarfed my leftovers down.
BurntBroski Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 (edited) I pace all the time, too, especially when I'm deep in thought or something is plaguing my thoughts. I find it useful, but sometimes annoying because I can't sit still enough to sit down for very long. Lifting weights, or any kind of resistance training, really helps. The feeling of lactic acid building up in the torn muscle fibers feels good. Edited April 10, 2012 by BurntBroski
Greekman Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I did the pacing as well. I think that might be do to anxiety (me anyway). I would pace and pace, it was maddening. I agree with the gym but also go for a walk outside. A good long walk to help wear you out. Also gives you a chance to be out and about from parents home. The appetite will come back. Just give it time. Be sure and drink a lot. You can survive without food for a while but not water. So drink lots. Btw, I ended up losing ~40 lbs after my last BU. Not good! Hang in there!
robkris8079 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I always lose weight after a breakup. I do not eat enough. Key is to eat as much as you can but the right stuff. Fresh vegatables, chicken, shrimp, olive oil. I'm currently down to my goal weight but I'm scared I'm going to lose more. I'm need to get my calories back up but can't stand the thought of eating more then 3 times a day. So I'm going to add some protein shakes to my diet. Trying to find one that has some calories in it.
Sophie99 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 When my boyfriend broke up with me, I couldn't eat for like.. on evening. Then, I would eat EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING! I stuffed myself all day and I felt terrible about myself for it :/ I guess everybody reacts differently 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 When my boyfriend broke up with me, I couldn't eat for like.. on evening. Then, I would eat EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING! I stuffed myself all day and I felt terrible about myself for it :/ I guess everybody reacts differently I took an antidepressant and ate myself into an oblivion. It was all mindless eating. I have since lost weight and still working on health--this is an ongoing project, LOL!!! But look at the destruction we do as a result of being hurt.
SerenityNow930 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I'm with you with the pacing. I paced at my parents house the other night waiting for them to get home for an hour. I've been doing it all day at work. I pace when I think. Hoping a gym sesh tonight will help. If squats and deadlifts don't do help then nothing will. 1
TaintedHeart Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I didn't eat either, the sight and smell of food made me want to puke. I lost a stone in just two months and was very weak! I was making myself ill. Then one day I thought 'I'm pretty sure he isnt having this problem with food' Honestly, is he worth that? I done the whole pacing thing too, that turned out to be anxiety and was put on medication to calm me down and to and de-clutter my mind. I wasn't a zombie or anything! They did help a lot though!
Author xxSRMxx Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 Well its been 5 days since the break up and id say ive ate a bowl of curry, two salads and thats about it. yesterday not a thing touched my lips and today nothing either. Ive been drinking water though, I worked tonight which was tough, Had to go to the toilet a couple of times for a cry. Nice to know im not the only one doing the pacing, I honestly thought i was going beserk.... I cant listen to music either, Ive done the sad music for a few days. Now I dont wish to listen to anything.
TaintedHeart Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Well its been 5 days since the break up and id say ive ate a bowl of curry, two salads and thats about it. yesterday not a thing touched my lips and today nothing either. Ive been drinking water though, I worked tonight which was tough, Had to go to the toilet a couple of times for a cry. Nice to know im not the only one doing the pacing, I honestly thought i was going beserk.... I cant listen to music either, Ive done the sad music for a few days. Now I dont wish to listen to anything. You need to keep your energy up chick. I hated it when people told me that but it's true. You can't run on empty. Try some toast tomorrow, that's all I could stomach but it was something. Your stomach will shrink and you will start having hunger pains! They're horrible so please eat something.
Author xxSRMxx Posted April 11, 2012 Author Posted April 11, 2012 Just tried to eat and nothing come of it.......i guess my appetite will return hopefully. I just had to leave the house and go for a walk...its 2:40am english time and im just completely lost. If this house was empty....i'd scream at the top of my lungs...
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Just tried to eat and nothing come of it.......i guess my appetite will return hopefully. I just had to leave the house and go for a walk...its 2:40am english time and im just completely lost. If this house was empty....i'd scream at the top of my lungs... Scream into a pillow if you have to and then hurl it across the room. But this not eating is unhealthy---just as my over-eating was. There comes a time when you have to look at yourself and say "hey, this is my body, my temple and look at what I am doing to it". The body needs nourishment. Eat fruits and veggies---these can make you feel so much better when you have the blues. A nice, juicy orange, some strawberries. Don't allow yourself to waste away. I am happy you are able to take a walk, but you are robbing yourself of nutrients you desperately need.
Author xxSRMxx Posted April 11, 2012 Author Posted April 11, 2012 will try an orange before i start work tommorow.... Just screamed into a pillow, nice tip but then hugged it and prayed to whoever is upstairs to make the pain stop.... I know only I can make the pain stop but my heart aches so bad I can feel all the peices of it falling apart and theres nothing I can do...I have no control over this..
Mr Scorpio Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Just tried to eat and nothing come of it.......i guess my appetite will return hopefully B&B is right. You need to eat. I know it's difficult -- I'm having issues with it right now just from stress -- but not eating is going to make you feel worse. Your blender is your best friend right now. Milk, a banana, some fruit. I like to use chocolate milk and add some peanut butter. 1
nowwhatnow Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 when he dumped me i literally did not eat for a week. i lost about 10 pounds in less than two weeks. my parents finally convinced me to see a therapist to help me start eating as it was verging on unhealthy. it actually worked and i slowly began eating when my mother mailed me protein bars. if you cant do it on your own, that is totally fine. go to someone who can help! 1
Author xxSRMxx Posted April 12, 2012 Author Posted April 12, 2012 when he dumped me i literally did not eat for a week. i lost about 10 pounds in less than two weeks. my parents finally convinced me to see a therapist to help me start eating as it was verging on unhealthy. it actually worked and i slowly began eating when my mother mailed me protein bars. if you cant do it on your own, that is totally fine. go to someone who can help! I am going to sort out a therapist tommorow my moms coming with me.
Bradly Posted April 12, 2012 Posted April 12, 2012 I've lost 60 lbs... I still can't eat without feeling sick.
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