wwwjd Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 I think GH is just OHIO DUDE, or TRUMP or the next fake name. Report his trolling and lets get it shutdown yet again. Why do these guys even persist? I have more respect for actual HACKERS than boring trollers 1
wwwjd Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 You need to visit a political forum. You don't fit here at all. Like talking dolphin training in a golf forum. Leave or join the actual topic. You sound random and pointless. AND giving religious folk mroe bad names. But since you probably are not even real, that is probably your goal.
nofool4u Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 Would you be happy being with a woman taller than you? I just got on online dating, and am corresponding with this guy who seems really cool and who has a lot in common with me - he even runs his own biz, like me - but is 3 inches shorter. (I'm pretty tall.) I've had such a hard time finding a suitable partner that at this point I don't really care if he's shorter. Right there is the reason a man would have a problem with a taller woman. You said it yourself, BECAUSE you have had a hard time trying to find a "suitable" partner, you'll relax your standards a bit. Men know this. They know women want TALL dark and handsome. And when I say tall, I mean taller than the woman. As long as he's confident in who he is and cool with being with a taller woman, it's not a problem for me. But it seemed to be a little bit of a problem for you. You really don't mind a shorter guy because of unsuccessfully finding a suitable partner.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted April 9, 2012 Author Posted April 9, 2012 Right there is the reason a man would have a problem with a taller woman. You said it yourself, BECAUSE you have had a hard time trying to find a "suitable" partner, you'll relax your standards a bit. Well, I have NEVER approached men. And the ONLY men who have approached me are 5'9" or taller. If a cool short guy approached me, ever, I would have considered him. For the first time ever, a guy shorter than 5'9" approached me - on a dating site. Believe me, I realize that most men want a small, petite woman because that is considered feminine. Well, I'm feminine, and tall - just the way I was born. I accept that some men will rule me out simply because I'm tall (or for a dozen other perceived flaws). I can feel bad about it, or just accept it. I accept it.
ascendotum Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 It's true. But they rarely take it any further. This usually happens when I'm walking down the road, running errands, on the go - not sitting down somewhere. And I'm not to the point where I'm flirting back all that much, beyond a smile and a thank you. I'm shy, but working on it. Also, what does it mean when a guy rates you 5 stars but doesn't message you? Is he expecting me to message him? I NEVER initiate. I'm old-fashioned. And I think if he liked me enough, he'd message me. Right? I thought you have had a number of relationships with good looking guys and are in your mid 30s and run your own business. Your shyness should not be so limiting, especially given that guys are flirting with you so there's no ambiguity + they initiated, so all you have to do is go with the flow. I realise shyness is not something that people can just turn off, but if you still find it hard, imagine how hard it is for the guys with minimal history + who never get any initiation by girls + when they do it the girls ignore them, but its like a mantra here for them to get over it and keep hitting on women. (I'm not saying thats the wrong thing to do). I'm not sure if you are one who gives them this advice. Anyway want prompted me to post, was guys rating you but not messaging you. Two things come to mind. A) He is not a paid up member and cant initiate emails, but is waiting to get a 'rating' response back from a woman that he likes first before he lashes out on $. B) By rating you he is putting the feelers out, showing you he is interested in you, but is probably tired of sending out unanswered emails, so wants you to reciprocate by rating him, so then he knows you kind of fancey him too, and then he will proceed, without wasting his time.
ascendotum Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 Oh, also as to your original post...I'd be happy dating a woman taller than me, but she would have to have ectomorph body type to match me + 2" would be the limit. (I'm a bit over 5'9")
Author Ruby Slippers Posted April 9, 2012 Author Posted April 9, 2012 I thought you have had a number of relationships with good looking guys and are in your mid 30s and run your own business. Your shyness should not be so limiting, especially given that guys are flirting with you so there's no ambiguity + they initiated, so all you have to do is go with the flow. Yeah, but all the guys I've had serious relationships had some issue that got in the way of the relationship lasting. Two of them seemed to have the grass is greener syndrome, always looking for something better; one of them was just a self-centered jerk (not at first, though); and the other had a smothering, crazy family that he could not keep from interfering in our lives. So I'm thinking I need to expand my horizons and meet some different kinds of guys than I'm used to. I realise shyness is not something that people can just turn off, but if you still find it hard, imagine how hard it is for the guys with minimal history + who never get any initiation by girls + when they do it the girls ignore them, but its like a mantra here for them to get over it and keep hitting on women. (I'm not saying thats the wrong thing to do). I'm not sure if you are one who gives them this advice. Absolutely. I've been working hard to build my confidence, and making a lot of progress. I'm at the point where I just want to throw myself out there, have some fun, meet new people. I have no concrete expectations at this point, other than mutual respect and a good time. If I meet a great guy, awesome. If not, I'm learning a lot by mixing with new people. Anyway want prompted me to post, was guys rating you but not messaging you. Two things come to mind. A) He is not a paid up member and cant initiate emails, but is waiting to get a 'rating' response back from a woman that he likes first before he lashes out on $. B) By rating you he is putting the feelers out, showing you he is interested in you, but is probably tired of sending out unanswered emails, so wants you to reciprocate by rating him, so then he knows you kind of fancey him too, and then he will proceed, without wasting his time. OK, thanks. This is a free site, so I think anyone can message anyone. The guys who give me 5 stars seem to fall into two categories: shy and mousy, and sexy but dumb. Neither interests me much.
ScreamingTrees Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 5'8" here and a woman being taller than me is a deal breaker. Even same height is pushing it. I love petite woman who are cute... I'd also wanna pick them up and all that too. I doubt you wouldn't be able to lift her up just because she's the same height or slightly taller.. Chances are you'd be able to carry her no problemo.
Woggle Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 I am 5/11 so I am no midget and my wife is 5/10 but if she were taller I would have no problem being with her. Who cares what people think. The only thing that would bother is that you are considering him now that you have had not such good luck with taller men. Men hate being settled for and there will always be that fear of what will happen if you come across a tall alpha that tickles your fancy. Not saying you would do it but that fear is in men's minds.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted April 9, 2012 Author Posted April 9, 2012 Men hate being settled for and there will always be that fear of what will happen if you come across a tall alpha that tickles your fancy. Not saying you would do it but that fear is in men's minds. Well, I wouldn't be surprised if this guy's ideal is a shorter woman. It's possible he's dated many of them before. But the way I look at it, if he's interested now and I'm interested now, and we want a relationship for compatible reasons, that's all that matters.
dasein Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Just under 5'11", have dated up to 6'4" women, and many in the 5'10-6' range. Have not had a relationship with anyone that much taller, but wouldn't be a problem on my end. 1
Jane2011 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 My old roommie was 5'11 and regularly had guys shorter than her chasing her. She was very pretty, she didn't care and neither did they. She didn't wear heels at all, but was still regularly 3in taller than the men she dated. Actually I never even saw her with a guy her height, def not taller. I had a female friend who was 6' tall. Her long-term boyfriend was something like 5'6". They never gave it a second thought. 1
counterman Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 No, I wouldn't care. But it's usually the woman who's taller than me who would have a problem with it, sooner or later, especially if she cares what others think.
Cracker Jack Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I'm 5'10 and this guy is 5'7. The shortest I've ever dated before was 5'9, but this guy looks pretty stout/fit, so that helps. I have never cheated and never will, and height has nothing to do with it. I dated a guy last year who was 5'9, but he walked around like he was 7 feet tall, so I never even thought about it. She told us. 1
mtber75 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I know a woman who married her husband who is 4 inches shorter than her. She married him because he have a confident personality that seem to overcome his short comiing. I notice that short men and women often seem to have stronger qualities because of their short height.
Imajerk17 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 A polite "thank you" when we approach is taken as a brush-off. At the least you have to show enthusiasm when we come over or most of us assume you're not interested. I mean, we have no other way to diffetentiate between girls interested and those who aten't... I wrote an email to a girl 3" taller than I. She wrote back! It really depends on the guy. Just as you'll see a lot of 5'6" women who would gladly date a guy no taller than they are, and a lot of 5'6" women who insist on a guy 4" taller.
Pierre Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Would you be happy being with a woman taller than you? I just got on online dating, and am corresponding with this guy who seems really cool and who has a lot in common with me - he even runs his own biz, like me - but is 3 inches shorter. (I'm pretty tall.) I've had such a hard time finding a suitable partner that at this point I don't really care if he's shorter. As long as he's confident in who he is and cool with being with a taller woman, it's not a problem for me. Obviously it's not a big problem for him or he wouldn't have messaged me - just wondering what the shorter guys think about this. I am tall so I never had a date with a woman taller than me. I prefer tall women over short women, but the ones that are taller than me are far few in between and somehow lose proportion. I once dated a woman 5'11 and with her high heels she was my height, I liked that quite a bit. She was what i would call statuesque and model quality. Height difference is probably not a big deal and there are no obstacles to a healthy relationship. You may not be able to wear high heel shoes next to him or he would look like your little kid next to you. However, if you wear flats and he wears cowboy boots with a 2.5 inch heel the two of you would look about the same in height. Height differences in bed make no difference. If you decide to wear high heels and you are dancing with him a slow number his face will be buried in your chest which is not necessarily a bad thing:p. If the two of you are making out standing up there may be a height difference at the level of the pelvis and you may have to crouch a bit. I have done the crouching all my life since most women are way shorter than me, so I am sure a female can do it:laugh:. Watch out for the Napoleon complex.
Feelsgoodman Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Believe me, I realize that most men want a small, petite woman because that is considered feminine. Well, I'm feminine, and tall - just the way I was born. I accept that some men will rule me out simply because I'm tall (or for a dozen other perceived flaws). I can feel bad about it, or just accept it. I accept it. Men don't prefer 'petite' women. We prefer women who are slim and have a delicate bone structure. Some tall women fall in that category as well. It's the elephant leg, college basketball types that are seen as unfeminine. Personally, I've never dated a woman who was taller than me, but that's because I'm 6'2. If a met a taller woman and was attracted to her body type, her height would not be a problem.
Pierre Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Men don't prefer 'petite' women. We prefer women who are slim and have a delicate bone structure. Some tall women fall in that category as well. It's the elephant leg, college basketball types that are seen as unfeminine. Personally, I've never dated a woman who was taller than me, but that's because I'm 6'2. If a met a taller woman and was attracted to her body type, her height would not be a problem. I agree. If the tall woman has proportion being tall is not a problem at all. Bubba Watson who one the Msters is 6'3, his wife is a former basketball player and is 6'4. http://golfweek.media.clients.ellingtoncms.com/img/photos/2011/01/22/108207585_t620.jpg?fbf2daa044e08a86b24c9c38cd7501865a0e2373 http://nimg.sulekha.com/sports/original700/bubba-watson-angie-watson-2011-1-30-19-30-42.jpg
zengirl Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Did you tick off height preferences online, Ruby? What are they?
Pierre Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I agree. If the tall woman has proportion being tall is not a problem at all. Bubba Watson who won* the Msters is 6'3, his wife is a former basketball player and is 6'4. http://golfweek.media.clients.ellingtoncms.com/img/photos/2011/01/22/108207585_t620.jpg?fbf2daa044e08a86b24c9c38cd7501865a0e2373 http://nimg.sulekha.com/sports/original700/bubba-watson-angie-watson-2011-1-30-19-30-42.jpg *word recognition software is a pain:p
ponsettia Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 QR Would you be happy being with a woman taller than you? I just got on online dating, and am corresponding with this guy who seems really cool and who has a lot in common with me - he even runs his own biz, like me - but is 3 inches shorter. (I'm pretty tall.) I've had such a hard time finding a suitable partner that at this point I don't really care if he's shorter. As long as he's confident in who he is and cool with being with a taller woman, it's not a problem for me. Obviously it's not a big problem for him or he wouldn't have messaged me - just wondering what the shorter guys think about this. Just from my own experiences (being a tall woman who's constantly being hit on by shorter me) not all of them, but a lot of short[er] men seem to see a tall woman as the ultimate status symbol - and IME treat you as such, and not in a good way - you're there to make him look cool. Then there are the short men who are looking for a tall woman who's capable of picking them up and carrying them around like a child, or a tall woman who can wrestle them to the ground and pin them down. O-kaay...
rocketman122 Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 no way, under any circumstances would I date someone shorter than me if I was a woman. no way in hell. in fact I wont date woman who are even quite tall. no way. Im 6'2" and the tallest i'd be willing to date is 5' 7". I have to take into consideration high heels (nothing sexier on a woman)..SHE BETTER WEAR HEELS!! HAHA! weird how short men dont have an issue with dating taller woman. I would be embarrassed. especially for the woman. it actually makes them look shorter to be standing next to a tall woman. I laugh inside when I see couples like that. when I was on an online dating site the number 1 most requested thing by woman was height. sensitivity, warm blah blah was also there, but height was easily number 1. and specific numbers as well like, no shorter than 1.80m
rocketman122 Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 Just as you'll see a lot of 5'6" women who would gladly date a guy no taller than they are, and a lot of 5'6" women who insist on a guy 4" taller. gladly? im sure if given the opportunity she will clearly choose the taller guy without hesitation. I would say the mass majority would prefer a man taller than than they are. some want much taller. I dont want to feel like she's hugging me and woman dont either. it wouldnt do anything for my ego to go out with a woman taller for me. in fact it would feel emasculating. I feel a man should be taller than the woman he's dating and I follow that rule religiously. but in todays world rules are thrown out the window.
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