xztjohn Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 Been almost 7 months now and I still check her facebook from time to time. I blocked her and her new boyfriend, yet I still find a way to check. Before some of the stuff she posts hurt me, but now when I look at it its like whatever. I haven't spoken to her in almost 4 months, I just straight up ignored all of her texts and calls to contact me. We had a pretty nasty break up btw. Her last attempt to contact me was the day before spring break where she called me at night on one day and the next day she called and texted "can you help me with a bio question, I don't want to fail ." I think this was an attempt to talk to me cause she did this before and I felt guilty, but her questions were really irrevalant which anyone in the class can help her. I took this class like a year ago lol. I haven't heard from her since. I haven't dated anyone else yet, but me and this one girl may have potential. I'm not really that physically attracted her, but she has a pretty cool personality. So how do I know if I am over my ex? Also, do you think my ex still checks out my facebook? Its the feeling of being wanted I guess.
Philosoraptor Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 Well you're not. But one who is wishes the ex the best, but no longer concerns themselves with their life unless they have decided to be mutual friends. And at that, their feelings are nothing more than of mutual friends. The test I apply is to think about this ex doing the same things you did, or things you wanted to do, but with someone else. If that turns your stomach then you still have work to do. 2
Author xztjohn Posted April 9, 2012 Author Posted April 9, 2012 Yeah you are probably right, I do not wish her the best however. She did some really messed up things to me and I forgive her, but am indifferent to her. I do not wish her bad luck nor wish her the best. I do however would like to catch up with her one day, I don't know why either. It would probably not be a good idea cause it would bring back emotions. But I feel like have been ignoring her hard for 4 months now and maybe open up to her a bit. Next time she contacts me, I'll open up a bit. 1
ThatDudeXO Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 Are you happy? Do you wake up with a smile? Do you still have frequent dreams about your ex? I'm close to getting over my ex, I still have the odd nightmare here and there but to me, being and waking up happy first thing in the morning on a regular basis is the most important thing. As long as those days of constant heart ache and waking up depressed are behind you, you are fine in my opinion! 1
Phanpooh Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 Why you r sad? You lost someone who don't love you But she lost someone who truly loved her indeed... You will never find someone like her, there is more better one for you! think it twice! you lost a love you never have last forever but she lost a love she might has day by day...
Author xztjohn Posted April 9, 2012 Author Posted April 9, 2012 I have been waking up with a smile for a long time now, before it was bad where I had trouble sleeping and stuff. But now its normal. I remember one time i saw her awhile back It felt like someone punched me in the chest, but not too long ago when I saw her didn't feel anything. I don't feel like I must speak to her or anything, I just would like to talk to her one day and catch up.
budley12 Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 I just would like to talk to her one day and catch up. I feel you... its sort of scary thinking we may never talk or hear from our ex's again especially if they were such a big part of our lives for a long time. My ex and I were together 3years and lived together in the dorms. Slept over every night, traveled the country, did many amazing and exciting things that some people don't see in a lifetime. It has been 4.5months since BU now for me (he started dating the day after he broke it off). We are both studying abroad next semester, so I am hoping that after being apart from each other for a good time and him being away from his new relationship he may start really rethinking things. God brings and takes people into our lives for a reason. We need to take all of our experiences with our ex and cherish them, learn from them, and move on. We need to learn to live in the present. The reason we are hurting so much is that we are living in the past, and hoping for the future.
mike588 Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 You'll know when you wake up and your ex. isn't the 1st thing on your mind...or when you just don't think about her during the day or for days...when it doesn't hurt anymore....when you don't care anymore or wonder what your ex. is doing or you don't miss the ex. I'm 8 months into the breakup and have been over her for a month or more...it's such a GREAT feeling!!
Author xztjohn Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 im starting to miss the comfort zone where i can talk to someone when life gets hard. my classes r hard this quarter and im getting stressed out with everything. i miss having my ex there to comfort me. i feel kinda weak right now and want to contact her........
lizardking8610 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 when your best friends dating them and you don't care at all.... it happened to me... Dated a girl then dumped her, she went after my best friend, he asked me what I thought about it, I said "go for it" Then I dated her sister two years later. The first sister dated my friend for 8 years, they just broke up and I dated her sister for 3 years that sounds kind of complicated but anyways if you don't care who they're with, what they're doing and where they're doing it you are officially over them to the fullest extent of relationship law.
69ways Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 when your best friends dating them and you don't care at all.... it happened to me... Dated a girl then dumped her, she went after my best friend, he asked me what I thought about it, I said "go for it" Then I dated her sister two years later. The first sister dated my friend for 8 years, they just broke up and I dated her sister for 3 years that sounds kind of complicated but anyways if you don't care who they're with, what they're doing and where they're doing it you are officially over them to the fullest extent of relationship law. sounds messed up but heh, friends who care share but its a really bad example, at least for me,I would hate to know my best friend was f...... the woman I love......but hei, thats me I guess
HollyBolly Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I have this Zippo, which she had engraved and given to me a couple of years ago. When I can use that lighter again without feeling a wave of sadness, I'll know I'm over her. For now, I can only refill it.
robkris8079 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I have this Zippo, which she had engraved and given to me a couple of years ago. When I can use that lighter again without feeling a wave of sadness, I'll know I'm over her. For now, I can only refill it. or you can throw it away. I had a metal cased photo album she gave me. Had picture in front and our names and anniversary engraved in it. I set that and all the card and everything else she had given me over the past 5 years on fire. Even a vday card talking about our future that she gave me a week or so before she pulled a 180. Burn it all or throw it out. That person you knew doesn't exist anymore.
HollyBolly Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 or you can throw it away. I had a metal cased photo album she gave me. Had picture in front and our names and anniversary engraved in it. I set that and all the card and everything else she had given me over the past 5 years on fire. Even a vday card talking about our future that she gave me a week or so before she pulled a 180. Burn it all or throw it out. That person you knew doesn't exist anymore. Thanks for your advice but I think I'll keep it to remind myself that words are cheap, especially hers. I look forward to the day when I can use it again without feeling a thing. Also, I collect Zippos.
Author xztjohn Posted April 10, 2012 Author Posted April 10, 2012 is it just me or facebook makes it really hard to move on from your ex
HollyBolly Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 is it just me or facebook makes it really hard to move on from your ex No, it's not just you. You have to dig into your will power stop checking.
SerenityNow930 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 You will know you are over your ex when you aren't in a LS forum asking if you are over your ex. 1
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 You will know you are over your ex when you aren't in a LS forum asking if you are over your ex. I am laughing because I believe this to be true.
69ways Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 yea I definitely did not love that girl talking about your m8.....
Chi townD Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 Because you check on your Ex's Facebook page, you never fully let go. You still have a connection to her. So, I saw your other thread stating that you're not going to do that anymore. Good! That's when you start healing from this.
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