Bizzbon3 Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 So I ended up seeing my ex girlfriend at a party this past friday night. Believe it or not, changing her mood and not her mind really works. I walk into the party and say hi to all my friends, then I finally see her and say hi to her friends that she is with and she steps to the side to say hi and give me a hug and i give her a kiss on the cheek and she then asks me how I have been, I said good! really good actually then she gets like a sad face asking me really? then I just said yeah and continued walking and saying hi to other people. I was being myself having a great time and continously caught her staring at while while I was speaking with friends and other women. So I ended up going to the restroom and as I was waiting for the person to get out, I am suprised to realize she was in the bathroom and she told me Hi and smiled and then asked if I had a few minutes to talk to her. So I told her hold on as I went to the bathroom. Then I came out and we began to talk. We did the whole catching up thing and told me how she missed me and would think about me. She then asked If I did the same and I said, I did at the begining, then I just kept myself busy to get over her. She then looked sad again and was like im not used to this loneliness, then I just changed the subject and she asked if I got my tattoo (she knew I was going to get one as I told her while we were together) I said yeah and showed her and she loved it, then I cut the conversation and told her I was going to go back to the party. So I went back in and she followed behind me. Then I was being social again talking to a bunch of friends and these new girls I met that night. Again I felt her stare and I held eye contact with my ex a few times and just smiled and laughed at each other. I then kept talking and something like 30 minutes go by and I was in the mood to dance and I see her kind of by herself and go up to her and ask to dance, she says yes and we go to the dance floor and begin to dance, as we were dancing things get heated and we begin to make out and all that. So then she starts thinking sort of logiucally and saying we shouldnt do this cuz she doesnt want me to get hurt and I said trust me im over it and begin touching her the way I know she likes it and we continue to dance and make out. It happened like 3 times where she would say this and I changed her mood. Then at one point she was like you know I don't get back with my ex's. I said who is trying to get back with you? she then asked what are you doing and I said having a good time and smile and she does too. Then it's time for me to leave the party and she leaves with me. Long story short we ended up hooking up and having sex that night. Before we did that she said its only physical. The only reason I'm doing this is because I really like the sex we have, its the best she ever had (I like to think I am really good in bed as every woman I have been with has complimented me on this) SO we had a crazy session and it was honestly one of the best we have ever had! I then lay down and dont cuddle with her and she lifts my arm up so she can cuddle with me (when I was being an AFC I would sort of initiate the cuddling). I was surprised to realize she initiated it. Then we talked for a little and fell asleep. Next morning I had work so I took her to her house and she began telling me how she misses me and my family. She has dogs at her house that I would always mess with and she tells me that they miss me and what not. Finally we arrive at her house and she tells me to txt her and I blatantly said no, and she says why? I said because I made the first move last night and she looked at me and smiled and said ok. We hugged and said bye and she got out my car and went home. I really like this girl and care for her. I have hooked up with other women who are prettier and better looking then her, but there is something about this woman that draws me to her and I feel as if she is something I feel like I am missing. Now my question is, am I in a good position to get back together with this girl, despite what she told me about not getting back with her ex's? What should my next move be?
sid3 Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 What's an AFC... Your next move, what are you playing chess. Man up!
flitzanu Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 not sure what you're asking, she told you she doesn't get back with exes, and told you it's only physical. those two things should clue you in that she's not trying to date you.
wilsonx Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 From your first post on the forum So I met this girl on October 31 at a halloween party and I thought she was the most beautiful girl I have ever met in the world. I began to talk to her and we began dating. She told me she had got out an almost 2 year relationship and she was single for 3 months. So then I immediately said I didn't want to be a rebound and I sort of backed out a little and she kept pursuing me and told me that I wasn't a rebound and that she had genuine feelings for me and really did like me. So I said ok here we go. You got played, you were a rebound, her behavior now is also a key indicator of it
coltsfan1 Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 I say keep doing what you are doing. You got what you wanted, my suggestion is the next party you both are at spend sometime chasing one of the new gals.
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