folex29 Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 (edited) I'd been with my ex-boyfriend for 6 mos and we had a very passionate and intimate relationship...we called one another our best friends, and it was true. I ended up staying at his apartment most of the time and we did everything together and loved one another's company. We argued sometimes over petty things but we're both very emotional people. At night, every night, he would hold me in his arms until I fell asleep and whisper how beautiful I am and how much he loves me etc... Went to all my doctor visits with me, held my hand, texted me all day every day, called me the love of his life... Well, we had a fight last week where I said I wanted certain things to change and he got defensive and felt like I was attacking him. I ended up breaking up with him in that conversation. The next day I tried to talk with him but he said he "just couldn't do it", that he doesn't think he's capable of making me happy and that I need more than he thinks he can give. He has continued to text me every day and has said he is in love with me, will always love me, misses me and feels lonely and sad without me...that he hates doing it, that he's lost and confused and just trying to do what's right. I told him it's unfair of him to act like he's not what's best for me...when really what he's saying is that I'm not what's best for him. He responded that wasn't it at all, that he wasn't really what I needed or was looking for...I just couldn't see it. This morning he says, "I hope you never forget how beautiful and amazing you are. You're a catch, and it's just yourself playing tricks on you when a voice in your head or anyone else says you're anything less than that." I responded that his continued contact just made moving on worse and hurt me more. He said: "I'm sorry, I thought about it, but I wanted to tell you that at least once and have you remember that's what I thought of you. I'm sorry, I love you so much, and I feel so alone too. I know you'll be fine...I'm sorry." I said, "I just wish I could've been different somehow...so I could've made you happy." He replied, "Please don't say things like that, I miss you every day, I'm trying to do what's best." So I answered: "Only you can say what's best for you, but you can't ever tell me what's best for me, and I'm telling you this was not what I wanted or needed...you really did break my heart." He responded with, "So you'd prefer we not talk? Yesterday you said it was nice." He asked me to keep him as a Facebook friend so he can look out for me and to build trust between us...yet he told me that if he ever broke up with me I'd "know it" because he'd cut me out of his life completely. He sends me cute pictures on my cell to make me smile, he calls me pet names... What is going on?? I feel so confused and heartbroken. Edited April 9, 2012 by folex29
wilsonx Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 You want to stay away from him, hes in GIGS and will continue to string you along until he spits you out. He did pick a fight with you on purpose for you to break up with him so that he wouldnt be the bad guy. I know you are in love with this guy but he's trouble and will not love you like you love him.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 You want to stay away from him, hes in GIGS and will continue to string you along until he spits you out. He did pick a fight with you on purpose for you to break up with him so that he wouldnt be the bad guy. I know you are in love with this guy but he's trouble and will not love you like you love him. Completely and utterly agree with Wilson. I love that he said you were 'attacking' him when all you did was ask that things change in certain situations. I, too was one who 'attacked'--what he did was intentional. Now he is playing with your heartstrings. If you are broken up, be done with him and block him. He need not see your Facebook, either. Also, if he breaks up with you, you'd know it?? He would simply cut you off just like that? I would be waiting for the other shoe to drop; you be the one to cut ties. Sounds like he is playing games.
flitzanu Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 yup. classic line. "it's not you, it's me" = "i'm not what you need, you can find someone better" he doesn't want to be with you anymore.
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