Author Jambalaya Posted April 16, 2012 Author Posted April 16, 2012 "The problem is - I want to change. I don't like letting anyone down let alone you. Of course I want to spend time with you. You know yourself that whenever this happens I feel as bad as you. I just don't know how to manage this and make it happen and there is nobody to help me." "why can't two intelligent people who love each other as much as we do figure out something as simple as spending time together without hurting each other. It seems illogical. It's not some kind of unsolveable equation of trying to find Higgs Boson..." This is from him. I've done everything possible within my power to change this outcome. I don't know what to say.
Leigh 87 Posted April 16, 2012 Posted April 16, 2012 aww, if you both truly love each other, and it is a big love for both of you, perhaps it is worth investing in a therapost? Relationship councelling? Surely, any chance of saving things is worth trying? If you are otherwise great together, why not get a little help from a professional? From the outset, I thought your boyfriend was being a jerk, how he never spent his holidays with you. However, perhaps you both really do love one another, and he DOES want to change, in order to keep you? I would consider letting him try therapy, if he wants u badly enough and wants to change for you. He shoul dbe willing to try anything to be with you.
Author Jambalaya Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 The stupid thing is, I've recently found out that before he screwed up again, he'd actually made plans (secretly) with my friends, for my birthday, to go away together, lots of stuff. I didn't know. he slipped back into old stupid patterns and after it happening so many times, I'd decided I'd had enough and went mental. The last time we went through this, we both agreed it was the last chance saloon. If he screwed up again, he'd put his hands up and admit he failed after giving it his best shot. He now says that he didn't give it his best shot, which upsets me because I think of the pain and drama last time and wonder why wasn't that enough? If he knew that was his last chance, why didn't he give it his best shot?
Author Jambalaya Posted April 17, 2012 Author Posted April 17, 2012 Everyone one says give it a go, give it one more chance, but haven't I done that already? Even if I do, I'm stuck with the fear and bitterness of every other time it happens and I'll be on eggshells again, waiting for it to fall apart.
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