8 years...I don't want it to end

[StevenR86]

I'm a 25 year old guy, me and my now...ex...fiance had been together for 8 years june this year.

Over the years things have been rough, but thats normal for a relationship. About a year or two ago I admit I had been flirty online with a few girls, but it was never going anywhere, she was understandable heart broken over it, and we nearly broke up then. We made it though and that leads to this time frame.

 

2 weeks ago, I had a feeling she was getting feelings for my friend/coworker, I confronted her about it and she admitted to it, we decided to take a break, and in those two weeks, she says she no longer loves me, her and him are always texting, he visits her at her job (which is in the same mall as our job). He says he feels bad but what can he do.

 

She says she had no idea things would get so serious so fast, and feels bad, but says they have to do what they want, and I need to understand that...but she seems so heartless over the fact that, :1 we were together for 8 years nearly...until 2 weeks ago!. and :2 He is my friend/co-worker!.

 

I feel stabbed in the back, and like my world is falling apart, I feel 100% alone...

[wilsonx]

shouldnt have played with those women online, thats emotional murder.

 

you have some work to do on yourself, time for a break/pause on this

[StevenR86]

I'm aware im guilty, I have no problem admitting to that.

But why is it my friend, and so fast, it doesnt feel right.

[wilsonx]

it was there for a long time, you just werent paying attention

 

if it were my friend, he would have had a serious beating after class for that middle school ****

[StevenR86]

She just met my friend 3 weeks ago pretty much.

If I lay a finger on him, I can get fired, and she'll hate me forever...

[Philosoraptor]

When you play with fire you will likely get burned. But you know that already.

 

She likely had this person on a pedestal in her head and is running with those feelings, combined with a bit of avoidance running from the breakup, and putting things in overdrive.

 

Right now you seem to be in a position where all you can do is lose, so take the easiest path for yourself and get away from this situation. Work on finding your own path to healing and acceptance.

[wilsonx]

You are already digging a hole, a few more feet wont matter at this point, at least it will be deep enough to bury the body.

 

You can do better then a job at the mall too. So in the end, you win on all 3 counts.

 

1) New job

2) Friend buried deep in the woods behind the mall

3) Girl hates you because she left you for a friend of yours that violated bro code that you punished.

 

Time to man up.

[StevenR86]

I pretty much have no chance of ever getting her back, do I?

[wilsonx]

acting like a bitch you dont. I gave you 3 good steps in moving in the right direction. Who knows maybe in a year she will see her mistakes, see you finally manned up and she will come back around begging

[StevenR86]

Your right, thanks.