SVDecode Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 Ok I'm writing this because I need to get it off my chest because I'm getting anxiety from the break-up and need some people to share it to. My Ex and I never we friends, we met as strangers and started to date here and there as soon as we laid eyes on each other. Call it love at first sight but I dont want to delve into whether or not that exists or not. But anyways when we met she was a sophomore in College and I was attending community college. She was timid, shy and very obedient to her father and such. She was very afraid to go outside of her comfort zone and didn't really have a childhood because her father was so suffocating. Her first year of college she didn't really enjoy life yet because she was so scared to upset the family. We started dating and I somehow made her come out of her shell, and let her experience the world in a new perspective. I helped her and her father understand that she was growing up and that he had to give her some room. Her father and I are really close and we've always had a good relationship. Heres the breakup situation. She told me she wants to experience life without having the feeling of being attached to someone. She wants to feel as though she doesn't have to worry about someone saying something about when she hangs out with friends and goes out. I completely agree that she should, and therefore let her make her decision. The reason I support her so much is because of how much shes matured as a person in our time together. It's so amazing thats she had the strength to ask me for this. I understand completely that what she is doing is going to make her happy and in the end she will just mature further. I love her so much it hurts to let her go, but I know making her stay is the wrong decision. When we broke up, I waited 2 days before I contacted her to talk about it. We recently spent 5 hours at the park talking about our relationship, her decision, reminiscing about our time together. We refused to call each other by our first name, continuing to call each other babe. Crying together that what we have together has come to an end. Saying thank you for helping each other mature greatly and then saying I love you one more time and kissing. Promising that the next time we meet and she has feelings for me still that to actually know that she is ready to pick up where we left off. (cont on post 2.)
Author SVDecode Posted April 9, 2012 Author Posted April 9, 2012 I know I cannot just sit here and wait for her to come around. Nor can I be so naive as to think 100% that she will come back to me. Maybe it's Grass is Greener syndrome, maybe its not, but one cannot dwell on wondering. The only thing I asked for in return is to give me some time of NC so that I can get over some of the hurt, before we face each other again. I just wanted to share my story. And if someone can give me tips, or any advice on my situation or just help me move on, I would love to hear it. -Andrew
Jadempk Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 Andrew that is the most lovely thing you could have done for her, you must truly love her. I am in the same situtaion. My ex and I were together for 7yrs since high school and were going to get married have kids, ect (his ideas btw). Then recently he told me he wasn't happy, he wasn't sure what he wanted in life and that he didn't love me. I could handle all these except the last. he wants to keep being intimate but it hurts. I am letting go because I LOVE him but I have never had to do something his hard in my life. He said he is sad, but not that sad and that hurst me so much because I knew we had something special. You will do great, you can still love someone without being with them - at least that's what I am telling myself
Author SVDecode Posted April 9, 2012 Author Posted April 9, 2012 It's like losing my best friend. She is the only girl, I've ever truly felt love for. I think what I'm really looking for is for someone to just say "GJ, Andrew you made the right decision." In my head I know I did, but the pain makes it so hard to think I did. She was so happy when I said I understood what she was saying. I do, it's just overwhelmingly hard.
69ways Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 It's like losing my best friend. She is the only girl, I've ever truly felt love for. I think what I'm really looking for is for someone to just say "GJ, Andrew you made the right decision." In my head I know I did, but the pain makes it so hard to think I did. She was so happy when I said I understood what she was saying. I do, it's just overwhelmingly hard. You know she is not worth it...best friends dont break hearts.... I lost my best friend/fiance but on the other hand , we might see them as our best friends and person of our life but obviously they do not feel the same.... To conclude , dont waste your time, let her go..... 1
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