new-girl Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 (edited) So guys, how long would you continue to date a girl if it was just for sex? like a number of weeks or months? Also would you stick around and continue to see her the week she has her periods? Edited April 9, 2012 by new-girl
Andy_K Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 There are two problems with your question 1) Very few guys here are going to admit they'll deliberately pursue a girl just for sex when clearly she wants more. At best you'll get second hand information. "I know a guy who says..." 2) If 'how long will a guy wait' is the only way you can think of to figure out if he just wants sex or more than that, you have some SERIOUS learning to do about character & personality assessment. I suggest you work on that.
Author new-girl Posted April 9, 2012 Author Posted April 9, 2012 I thought I was good at character assessment....but according to another male on here, I am not.
GetTheClou Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 a more pragmatic approach. If sex had already happened: he might well hang around until he found someone "better" or where he will be getting "more" from, depending on what he wants. Might be months. If no sex happened yet: (a case I'm currently dealing with) if he really likes and cares for you he will wait a certain amount (weeks I guess), I can't specifiy it though. If he just wants sex he will move on quickly. If he wants sex and doesnt have options he'll desperately stick to you and crawl after you indefinitely^^ 2nd question: sorry but clear no^^ probably not exactly what you'd like to hear, but meh
ThatDudeXO Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 1 date. Anything more means I'm interested in YOU!
wwwjd Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 I will try to answer this honestly. hmmmmmm..... probably as long as she was happy with that arrangement also, and we were both honestly exclusive. Having sadly done that in my past once, after a while my conscious gets to me and I gotta stop, although it was tough. Probably took a year if I recall. BUT, if she was not enjoying anything, then I would not be and it would stop instantly
Emilia Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 So guys, how long would you continue to date a girl if it was just for sex? like a number of weeks or months? Also would you stick around and continue to see her the week she has her periods? If you don't know someone very well, you are only in it for the sex initially. I really don't understand why so many women feel they need to be validated by some random guy. It's whether the two of you can build a bond medium to long term that matters. It may or may not happen. There is no way either of you can tell in a matter of weeks.
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 It depends on the man, and assuming he is not interested in anything more than sex he can act out in several ways...in which women can be like restaurants. Guy A - Likes to eat at a variety of restaurants, may not return to frequent the same places or after he's tried it once he's done with it and it was just for the experience/notch on his belt...It's not really intimacy he's after, more about sex and the excitement/thrill to bed someone new and give himself a little ego boost on top of it That may last a few weeks to a few months. Guy B - Doesn't like to eat at a lot of different restaurants, isn't interested in trying anything new and unreliable, he knows what he likes and he sticks with something he feels comfortable around and meets his general standards. He appreciates the intimacy more than guy A and might come off all around like a decent guy but his outlook and agenda Isn't for the long-term. This can last a few months to several years depending on confidence and ability to replace you. Understand that men like women also enjoy the companionship, the same reason you don't leave a guy you're in a relationship (because I'll be so alone and never find anyone else, maybe I'm not good enough!) for a guy is (maybe I won't find anyone else as good as her, maybe I shouldn't leave her....for now) Whether he'll stick around while you're on your period or not is also dependent on the guy, some care, some don't....doesn't have to be any more significant than that. If you're trying to judge a man by who he is and what he does or what not, how he treats you, his personality, that's all irrelevant If he IS NOT interested in you for a relationship. The guy could travel the world bringing sick puppies to full health, appear to be sincere and genuine, honest and trustworthy those are simply the attributes of his personal values or what he is trying to be (most of which you can't see through because you really don't know the person as well as you think you do) it doesn't represent how he "feels" towards you...the nicest guy in the world can use you or string you along...you cannot make this judgment or determination by his "character"...do you think all men who use women or string them along are "bad" people? They're regular guys at the mall, work in your office/company, get off and on airplanes...just anyone you see walking around, there is no classification of this character as the majority of men will either intentionally or unintentionally participate in this behavior...kind of how like women will stick around for a man hoping he'll develop emotions and needs that are equal to hers...for you it should be clear that he's just not that into you...but you continue anyway, and for a man he can claim "he doesn't know right now" and genuinely say it, even though deep down he realizes that he'd never settle down with you because he just merely doesn't feel the same way about you that you do with him. Bottom line: If you want to know what a man feels about you, then ask him and press him directly about it and be very clear and only settle for a very clear answer...be realistic with how he feels for you, dig until he gives up the truth and realize that the majority of men aren't going to be honest to your face, they're going to butter up in the most drama free, blame-something-else kinda way...in which you trust your gut feeling on how truthful he is, you'll know If he's skating around the real answer or being coy. If you wish to fool yourself and try to make excuses and believe in magic and hope....well, you need to take responsibility for not reading the writing on the wall when your brain is trying to tell you what's there, but your emotions and desires insist that you ignore them....in which most people do, which is why people should blame themselves because nobody holds a gun to your head, you make decisions as well. If you don't do anything to protect yourself and use your good judgment, then you're just playing the victim...and nobody is going to feel sorry for you for doing that when it's so clear.
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