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April 9, 2012

So when the woman flakes and says she's busy, be it washing her hair or filling in the san andreas fault with cement so california doesn't break off and sink into the ocean, it's because she doesn't want to hurt the guys feelings. BUT when the guy does it it's because he's rude?? Double standard IMO. A flake is a flake regardless of sex.

April 9, 2012

Wait a minute, this text is not calm?

"real mature for a woman your age, sad"

If that is not calm I'm going to the toilet

you don't know if she hung up or not. so you jumped the gun. even if she did so what? i'm on your side dude, but you have to not let things get to you. so what if she was being immature? it just didn't warrant a response actually.

April 9, 2012

@phillydude: I asked the last woman I dated for a date on a Tuesday earlier in the week and she told me she'd let me know Monday. Monday comes and goes and she contacts me Tuesday morning. What would you have done? Honest question. I didn't tell her "well you said you'd let me know yesterday" or anything along those lines. Anyway, she changed her mind after a few texts, I was livid. I made a thread about it here and the consensus was that being concerned about the weather made me come accross as wishy washy (not my intent). I guess I should of beat her to it and said never mind, you didn't get back to me yesterday lol.

April 9, 2012

Wait a minute, this text is not calm?

"real mature for a woman your age, sad"

No. If you were calm and not upset or bothered by her hanging up on you, you would have shrugged and gone back to watching sports games on TV.

April 9, 2012

phillydude, you will quickly find that if you aren't a dick to people, you will no longer have as much of this pesky problem of people being a dick back to you.

April 9, 2012

It's kind of arkward to reject someone on a "LIVE CALL"

Why? What is it about conflicts of interests that you're scared of? What's she going to do?

You get very defensive and angry over the tiniest things, especially when it comes to women and not living up to (what you think are) their expectations. From my experience, explaining I'm not feeling it or not ready or have a major op coming up or whatever is the real reason has always gone down well, especially if you're just recent acquaintances. And even if it doesn't, if they were to go ʇıɥsʇɐq mental, I'd have been honest and sincere and so not feel anywhere near as nervous as I would if I had blown smoke out of my ass over the whole deal. Their reaction is their business.

The problem with avoidance and lies is you have to remember the alternative reality you've created by lying or omitting or disappearing and that's stressful in itself. Additionally, if you hold sincerity and genuineness in high regard, you're probably going to be more pissed at yourself for falling below your own standards. Your nervous anger is masking fear, but you don't have to be like that. And the more you are a genuine, stand up guy, the more respect you will feel for yourself and others will too. Ad who knows? You might meet her much sexier best mate sometime, in which case, your reputation will precede you.

Give it a try.

Edited April 9, 2012 by betterdeal

April 9, 2012

Well it looks like I was wrong. Just got a text from her this morning saying her phone died and would never do anything like that and will call me later.

I told everyone that my last text wasn't rude or disrespectful because if it was she would have not text me back.

April 9, 2012

Well it looks like I was wrong. Just got a text from her this morning saying her phone died and would never do anything like that and will call me later.

I told everyone that my last text wasn't rude or disrespectful because if it was she would have not text me back.

kind of sounds like she's spineless

it was very rude, if a guy did that to me i would advise him to treat the next girl who has the misfortune of going on a date with him with more respect.

act more like a 30 yr old and less like a 16 yr old boy, I was so surprised when you said you were in your 30s

April 9, 2012

I called this girl on March 26th and said I wanted to go out before April. Then I changed my mind because i just didn't feel the chemistry anymore. So we haven't talked since March 26th and I deleted her number.

Tonight she send a text saying Hi, how are you? BTW, It's April. I'm like.."who the hell is April??-lol So I told her to call me and she did and I still didn't recognize her voice and then she said,,,,"you said you wanted to go out with me before April"

Then I said..."OMG, it's her" So I'm on the phone just lying saying I was busy and then all of a sudden the phone hangs up. I called back and she didn't answer. Then I sent a text asking..."Did you hang up on me?? She didn't reply

So I started to send a nasty text asking..."Can you suck my d*ck next Friday?-lol

But then I quickly realized she has my full name and didn't want to send anything nasty or disrespectful so I just sent this text below

"REAL MATURE FOR A WOMAN YOUR AGE", SAD"

I didn't want to be too disrespectful toward someone who has my full name. But I now know that if I get a text and don't know who it is, I have to clarify over text and not tell them to call me. It was a reason I didn't know who she was because I lost interest and deleted her number.

Says the guy who is 40 and whose post just screams of immature behavior.

You constantly display an utter lack of class, but that never impedes you from slamming women for perceived slights that most people consider to be normal behavior.

April 9, 2012

kind of sounds like she's spineless
it was very rude, if a guy did that to me i would advise him to treat the next girl who has the misfortune of going on a date with him with more respect.

act more like a 30 yr old and less like a 16 yr old boy, I was so surprised when you said you were in your 30s

I still would like to know what was rude about the text. I said her action was immature and followed it with sad. You act like I called her a immature bitch. Lol

April 9, 2012

Says the guy who is 40 and whose post just screams of immature behavior.

You constantly display an utter lack of class, but that never impedes you from slamming women for perceived slights that most people consider to be normal behavior.

I won't be 40 until 2017

April 9, 2012

Well it looks like I was wrong. Just got a text from her this morning saying her phone died and would never do anything like that and will call me later.

I told everyone that my last text wasn't rude or disrespectful because if it was she would have not text me back.

Oh God, that woman is too nice, really. I feel sorry for her. I'd never go out with someone who sent me a text message like that.

April 9, 2012

a true player

April 9, 2012

Well if I said i wanted to see her before April and it's April 8th and she havent heard from me since March 26th, then she is the fool. Why even bother??

Okay, so when you're not interested, you don't contact them. But based on your other thread, when you are interested, you...don't contact them and wait for them to contact you, writing them off if they don't read your mind and realize you want them to call you to officially set up the actual date.

Have fun playing games, I guess, but don't expect these types of situations to stop popping up. You play a role in creating them.

April 9, 2012

Oh God, that woman is too nice, really. I feel sorry for her. I'd never go out with someone who sent me a text message like that.

So saying someone's actons is immature is considered a rude message in 2012?

I figured a rude message would be saying she was a "immature bitch" in 2012

April 9, 2012

So saying someone's actons is immature is considered a rude message in 2012?

I figured a rude message would be saying she was a "immature bitch" in 2012

It's not exactly rude, but it tells me that you are the kind of person who would rather demean someone than take a closer look at what he does and assume responsibility. I have seen men do it to me and other women. It's such a good indicator for other character flaws that I'm not sure if I wouldn't break it off with someone if he ever talked to me like that.

Edited April 9, 2012 by PlumPrincess

April 9, 2012

a true player

Oh yeah, a real lady's man

April 9, 2012

So saying someone's actons is immature is considered a rude message in 2012?

I figured a rude message would be saying she was a "immature bitch" in 2012

What does the year have to do with the rudeness? I also think you're confusing rudeness with insensitivity or bad language. It's not that you just "phrased" it badly, but you actively wanted to be rude, vindictive, and ****ty to her in retaliation for the imagined slight. Yes, that's bad behavior, and it's rude. The intent was to harass her. The first text was not rude, if you were truly checking to see what had happened with the line, but the 2nd one was. The fact that you erased the more foul text (because of your own fear of her knowing your full name, not because you realized it was WRONG either) does not make it less rude.

April 9, 2012

I called this girl on March 26th and said I wanted to go out before April. Then I changed my mind because i just didn't feel the chemistry anymore. So we haven't talked since March 26th and I deleted her number.

Tonight she send a text saying Hi, how are you? BTW, It's April. I'm like.."who the hell is April??-lol So I told her to call me and she did and I still didn't recognize her voice and then she said,,,,"you said you wanted to go out with me before April"

Then I said..."OMG, it's her" So I'm on the phone just lying saying I was busy and then all of a sudden the phone hangs up. I called back and she didn't answer. Then I sent a text asking..."Did you hang up on me?? She didn't reply

So I started to send a nasty text asking..."Can you suck my d*ck next Friday?-lol

But then I quickly realized she has my full name and didn't want to send anything nasty or disrespectful so I just sent this text below

"REAL MATURE FOR A WOMAN YOUR AGE", SAD"

I didn't want to be too disrespectful toward someone who has my full name. But I now know that if I get a text and don't know who it is, I have to clarify over text and not tell them to call me. It was a reason I didn't know who she was because I lost interest and deleted her number.

Based on this post, you come across a bit psychotic...

April 9, 2012

Why? What is it about conflicts of interests that you're scared of? What's she going to do?

You get very defensive and angry over the tiniest things, especially when it comes to women and not living up to (what you think are) their expectations. From my experience, explaining I'm not feeling it or not ready or have a major op coming up or whatever is the real reason has always gone down well, especially if you're just recent acquaintances. And even if it doesn't, if they were to go ʇıɥsʇɐq mental, I'd have been honest and sincere and so not feel anywhere near as nervous as I would if I had blown smoke out of my ass over the whole deal. Their reaction is their business.

The problem with avoidance and lies is you have to remember the alternative reality you've created by lying or omitting or disappearing and that's stressful in itself. Additionally, if you hold sincerity and genuineness in high regard, you're probably going to be more pissed at yourself for falling below your own standards. Your nervous anger is masking fear, but you don't have to be like that. And the more you are a genuine, stand up guy, the more respect you will feel for yourself and others will too. Ad who knows? You might meet her much sexier best mate sometime, in which case, your reputation will precede you.

Give it a try.

It's hilarious how your post was completely ignored. He probably read it and went 'huh?'

Great post but a waste of effort unfortunately.

April 9, 2012

So saying someone's actons is immature is considered a rude message in 2012?

I figured a rude message would be saying she was a "immature bitch" in 2012

It's rude because you jumped to conclusions and called her actions 'rude, immature and sad' instead of giving her the benefit of the doubt. That's not the way a well-adjusted grown man in his mid thirties reacts.

If you had to say anything, you should have just made light of it. A simple, "Hey, not sure if we got disconnected or what...?" would have been perfect. But no, your first instinct is to be foul. You second is to call her names.

Why was she so quick to forgive? Who the heck knows. If I were in her position, I'd have told you to kick rocks. My guess would be she's desperate. Why else would she have reached out to you after you blew her off in the first place (re: not asking her out before April as you said you would).

I'm trying hard to understand your way of thinking PD, but omfg if you don't act like you're from another planet. At least when it comes to social skills.

April 9, 2012

Well if I said i wanted to see her before April and it's April 8th and she havent heard from me since March 26th, then she is the fool. Why even bother??

This won't happen to me anymore. In the text I will ask..."who is this?

Nothing will happen unless you make it happen. If the ball is in your court and you drop the ball, what do you expect? In other words...she was waiting to hear for you. When she called you, you gave her the cold shoulder. She got the message and hung up the phone. That should have been the end. I'm sure after she saw your reaction, she felt like she dodged a bullet.

April 9, 2012

Based on this post, you come across a bit psychotic...

wow if you thought that post was psychotic then I hate to think what you would have thought of me in 1999-lol In those days I was really wild

April 9, 2012

Why? What is it about conflicts of interests that you're scared of? What's she going to do?

You get very defensive and angry over the tiniest things, especially when it comes to women and not living up to (what you think are) their expectations. From my experience, explaining I'm not feeling it or not ready or have a major op coming up or whatever is the real reason has always gone down well, especially if you're just recent acquaintances. And even if it doesn't, if they were to go ʇıɥsʇɐq mental, I'd have been honest and sincere and so not feel anywhere near as nervous as I would if I had blown smoke out of my ass over the whole deal. Their reaction is their business.

The problem with avoidance and lies is you have to remember the alternative reality you've created by lying or omitting or disappearing and that's stressful in itself. Additionally, if you hold sincerity and genuineness in high regard, you're probably going to be more pissed at yourself for falling below your own standards. Your nervous anger is masking fear, but you don't have to be like that. And the more you are a genuine, stand up guy, the more respect you will feel for yourself and others will too. Ad who knows? You might meet her much sexier best mate sometime, in which case, your reputation will precede you.

Give it a try.

No one likes confrontation which is why when a man or woman is not interested, they avoid the person and move on.

April 9, 2012

It's rude because you jumped to conclusions and called her actions 'rude, immature and sad' instead of giving her the benefit of the doubt. That's not the way a well-adjusted grown man in his mid thirties reacts.

If you had to say anything, you should have just made light of it. A simple, "Hey, not sure if we got disconnected or what...?" would have been perfect. But no, your first instinct is to be foul. You second is to call her names.

Why was she so quick to forgive? Who the heck knows. If I were in her position, I'd have told you to kick rocks. My guess would be she's desperate. Why else would she have reached out to you after you blew her off in the first place (re: not asking her out before April as you said you would).

I'm trying hard to understand your way of thinking PD, but omfg if you don't act like you're from another planet. At least when it comes to social skills.

well give me some credit, 10 years ago I would have told her to suck my you know what but I didn't do that. So that shows growth

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