Avarage Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 Alright lets just skip past the greetings and jump right into the meat and potatos of it shall we. Well, because of my work hours (second shift, six day workweeks) I decided to try online dating. Now I've never actually done dating before in my life, I was always a career oriented person. Never focused on women, always just treated them as friends and never went for anything more. As far as reading their signs of interest in me I'm probably about as daft as a plank of wood. Instead I focused on my future and getting where I wanted to go. I'm finally there (age 24) and that's the whole backstory concerning me. SO (This must be one hearty soup, right?), the problem is that I got a reply back from a women the other day and I find myself somewhat confused as to how I should respond. I mean I know things should progress, what with letting her know I'm interested in her but I'm utterly confused as to how I go about doing that. I find myself getting lost on what to write. I guess I never really expected to get a reply to any messages when I signed up.
Tayla Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 some how I didn't get served the meat and potatoes....Was her message (response) to you a socially acceptable response? Sorry but I am daft too when a thread such as this doesn't delve into the context of the matter. Without knowing the person and its an online response...remain civil and yet inquisitive. Basically did she perk your interest?
Author Avarage Posted April 9, 2012 Author Posted April 9, 2012 She absolutely peaks my interest and her response was civil. I was the one who had messaged her first, which I've done before but this was the first time anyone ever wrote back. My basic question is how do you flirt?
cerridwen Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 Yes, I only got a bit of skin of a potato and some gristle. More details please. What's preventing you from initiating more conversation in writing, to learn more about her, and if she'd like to meet up?
SmileFace Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 She absolutely peaks my interest and her response was civil. I was the one who had messaged her first, which I've done before but this was the first time anyone ever wrote back. My basic question is how do you flirt? Don't flirt !! Just write back. Flirting isn't needed yet.
cerridwen Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 She absolutely peaks my interest and her response was civil. I was the one who had messaged her first, which I've done before but this was the first time anyone ever wrote back. My basic question is how do you flirt? I woudn't flirt but instead, show genuine interest in learning more about her. Ask her questions. Offer some information about yourself. See if a greater rapport can be established then offer a meet up.
sid3 Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 Yeah I agree with the others, don't worry about flirting at this point. Build rapport first. Get to know a little about her and see if she is worth your time before suggesting a meeting.Too soon is never a good thing.
amantis Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 You can flirt a bit If she is cute tell her that at the end of the message If she likes something that you like tell her that in a (joking way) If she tell you that she likes potatoes , you can tell her that you can teach her how to cook them They like when we are funny .. dont be too much , but be funny You have nothing nothing to lose , so go for it and think that everything starts by being friends first
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