IHaveNoWords Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I would really like to know if I'm reading too much into this, and get someone's perspective on it. I've known my friend for about 4 years now, and she's my best girlfriend. She wasn't attractive when I first met her, but as she got older, she got cuter and dressed better, and now she's very attractive. However, I feel like this has gone to her head a little bit...or maybe it hasn't. I don't know. But please tell me if this is normal for a frienship: When we're at the same party, or a function, she never comes up to me. I am ALWAYS the one that goes up to her, initiates the conversation, and hell, I'm the one that KEEPS the conversation going. Whenever she texts me, it's to tell me about a guy that hit on her, or to brag about getting a good grade in a course. (A course that we took together, but that I passed, and she didn't, so she's retaking it.) Additionally, after learning the stores that I get my clothes from, she suddenly started buying from there. After learning my makeup brand, she bought that makeup, too. All of my mannerisms, my facial expressions, my jokes and even my accent - for example, I say coffee with a Q, because of where I come from. She, however, is a country girl....and she talks with an accent...She's admitted to adopting my personality, and the way I talk. Furthermore, she likes my boyfriends friend. So the only time she asks to hang out, is to see this guy, and to use me to get to him. Her dad also pits her against me, and compares us all the time. I feel like she's jealous, or envious, or something. But I have no proof, it's just the way I feel. I decided I was gonna let her come to me. I've seen her three days in a row - yesterday she was at MY house for a party. And she didn't come up to me at all. Nothing. I decided that it's not me, it's her, and I need to widen out and make more girlfriends. But it just really hurts, because I know that I'm a good friend. Anyway, I'd like someone's thoughts or comments on the matter...maybe if someone has an similar issues with a friend...
TaraMaiden Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Read the NC caliguy link in my signature... much of it may well apply... They say that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, but when it comes to almost invading your persona but walking all over you while they do it - not healthy....
darkmoon Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 ppl change and the friend u once knew has been replaced by a pain in the butt, you'll find a new friend
Tayla Posted April 9, 2012 Posted April 9, 2012 If it means anything, I carried the Ugly duckling syndrome back in my teen years...so under-confident, so unsure. A New kid on the block arrived at school, and immediately a sisterly friendship arose. We were both "odd" girl out and somehow we balanced one another. She inspired me to be more confident and in my own quirky way..she became more of a lady in her fashion sense. We mimic'd for the longest time...til our college years, where we expanded our friendships and expanded our "own" identity. thank heavens she tolerated my insecurities til I found my way in life. Every so often when life turns a hardship into an opportunity ...take it. You may find that years down the road, your character and "gifts" of tolerance can make a positive impact to another. If this though seems to much to bear then definitely cut the ties, I though hope that you can find this as an opportunity to inspire.
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