xpaperxcutx Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 So I cried half the morning 3/4 of which was getting too emotional from a move and 1/4 due to mrbaseball. We are at an impasse. We were doing so well up until two days where we gotinto a heated argument over the phone and in a moment of frustration he told we shouldn't have deeper feelings for each other. Then he tells me he's going away for baseball and still want too see me up until a point. While I like the fact wetio like each other I took offense to his proposition to not take things further. I countered he was being selfish because he was the one who pursued me and wanted to make things work. I told him if that was the case we might as well be **** buddies. The conversation ended and we did made up the next day yet he has already left me with lingering doubts. He still wants to see me and be with me yet at the same time he has refused to make further plans with me. I told him I have three days. Off from work ( obviously we are spending time with each others respective families) but given that I have Monday. And Tuesday off you'd think he'd bothered i nstead he came back at me saying I work too much during the week to see him and what did I want him to do. He's becoming passive aggressivwe and he even drunk texted me Friday night at 1 in the morning when he knew I had work in the morning. His reasoning was he was thinking abt me. I told him he was thinking about me he would bother to give me a call ( something he'd said he do but didn't) and he was extremely disrespectful. Even though he apologized I feel like his actions have said emough about him to make me reconsider being with him. I'm divided between ending things or continuing seeing him. I realize I need more than he has to offer, even though he constantly tells me he wants to make things works he does things which proves the exact opposite.
Star Gazer Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I've said it several times before, I'll say it again. Waaaaaaaaay too much drama for a relationship with someone you haven't even known 2 months. 12
Professor X Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Let's hear it everyone, tell her it's to much drama for such a short period of time! Then we'll eagerly wait as she comes back with the next episode next week. 1
eleanorhurting Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Let's hear it everyone, tell her it's to much drama for such a short period of time! Then we'll eagerly wait as she comes back with the next episode next week. It's entertaining 1
eleanorhurting Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I think you need someone who is stable emotionally to bring balance to your life and this guy does not sound like he is. What was the argument about again???
Professor X Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 It's entertaining I need to go copy/paste some replies from ES threads... BRB.
kaylan Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Let's hear it everyone, tell her it's to much drama for such a short period of time! Then we'll eagerly wait as she comes back with the next episode next week. Kindly pass the butter and salt brah.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 I'm glad you guys found this entertainin.....
eleanorhurting Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I need to go copy/paste some replies from ES threads... BRB. what does ES thread mean?
FitChick Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I'm so glad I'm not a lesbian. What men have to put up with is beyond me. 1
eleanorhurting Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I'm glad you guys found this entertainin..... do you find it entertaining?
SmileFace Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 what does ES thread mean? Haha it amusing how new you are. Es means eternal sunshine. Paper if this is as bad as it sounds/sounded you should truthfully end it. I mean you guys seem to keep having the same problem. I am sorry that you are so deep in this emotionally. 1
eleanorhurting Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 don't be FWB! Just step away from the whole situation. Do you feel like this is bringing anything positive to your life right now? 3
Professor X Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 what does ES thread mean? I referred to the user Eternal_Sunshine. She doesn't do it anymore though, so props for her, but she used to open weekly (almost daily) threads about her BF (ex' now), and they were all of similar fashion - lots of drama.
kaylan Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I'm glad you guys found this entertainin..... blah ... =/ Look girlie....you know we mean well. People here just expect this back and forth drama from you two now. You never listened to either of us from day one, so some of us have refrained from giving you real advice. It appears our advice will always fall on deaf ears. Its been the same "give and go" since you and joe baseball met.
veggirl Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Again? And you honestly think continuing this R is an idea that should even be entertained? You two have lots of contempt for one another. Just let it and him gooooo. Problem SOLVED. Why are you clinging to this trainwreck?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 don't be FWB! Just step away from the whole situation. Do you feel like this is bringing anything positive to your life right now? Trust me he and I are not fwbs I merely said it in anger. He never asked for a **** buddy he even said sex was a personal and intimate act yuu have with someone who you are in a relationship with. He makes so much excuses and expects me to be understanding... I'm not his mother. And he's a hypocrite for contradicting himself. He literally said he didn't want to lead me on but he already has if he tells me he wants to be with me yet doesn't want me to have feelings for him
Author xpaperxcutx Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 Again? And you honestly think continuing this R is an idea that should even be entertained? You two have lots of contempt for one another. Just let it and him gooooo. Problem SOLVED. Why are you clinging to this trainwreck? I'm not clinging on to him we were doing great until we had an argument and he totally gave the runaround. So yeah my contempt for him is him telling me not to start anything with him and keeping the status quo. He can't keep me around just because it suits him... whatg about my needs?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 I referred to the user Eternal_Sunshine. She doesn't do it anymore though, so props for her, but she used to open weekly (almost daily) threads about her BF (ex' now), and they were all of similar fashion - lots of drama. Please do not compare me to ES. Just the age difference alone separates me from her.
Kamille Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Paper, when I read your threads, even the ones before this guy, I often get the impression that you're really scared of men. It's almost like you expect them to disappoint you. This in turn, leads you to question your own instincts. I myself can't make out without you're on the ball about this guy leading you on (no pun intended), or if your fears are making you needlessly amp the drama in your relationship. But here's where it's start: with you. In the end, whether or not this guy is in your life isn't a matter of life or death. It doesn't change who you are and how you should feel about yourself. Sit down, and imagine the kind of relationship you want. The goal is for you to figure out where your boundaries are, so that you're able to express them with confidence and without anxiety. Because, right now, it reads like you panic every time he says something that displeases you. What would you need to change to ensure that relationship happens (with this guy or another)? Is your current guy the kind of guy who'll help you make that relationship happen? And remember, this guy cannot make you feel secure. That comes from within. 2
xxoo Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Consider taking a break for a week, just to find your center, and then revisit this relationship. Just take a week with no contact, doing things you enjoy, and see how you feel in 7 days.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 Consider taking a break for a week, just to find your center, and then revisit this relationship. Just take a week with no contact, doing things you enjoy, and see how you feel in 7 days. I haven't seen him since last Monday and we try nog to text each other so much especially at work. I don't know how much morem space we can give each other. If I cut off the phone calls... we' ll be in NC.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 Haha it amusing how new you are. Es means eternal sunshine. Paper if this is as bad as it sounds/sounded you should truthfully end it. I mean you guys seem to keep having the same problem. I am sorry that you are so deep in this emotionOTE] I'm frustrated with his lack of effort. I'm dating him and I try to give him what free time I have but he prefers to tell me that he's a busy person and I should just be understanding. How dors one progress a relationship if you don't bother to ' date'. I asked him from the very beginning if he didn't have time don't date. Everytime I want to end it, he would incessantly try to make excuses.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 @kamille you are right. I can't eexpect him to complete me. he makes me more sad than happy even he promised me he would never hurt me I'm already hurting. I can,t fall for a guy because being in love makes me weak anjd right now I feel like a mess. I send him a brief message thanking him but we,re just too different and we have different goals. Now I just have to build myself up.
SmileFace Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Haha it amusing how new you are. Es means eternal sunshine. Paper if this is as bad as it sounds/sounded you should truthfully end it. I mean you guys seem to keep having the same problem. I am sorry that you are so deep in this emotionOTE] I'm frustrated with his lack of effort. I'm dating him and I try to give him what free time I have but he prefers to tell me that he's a busy person and I should just be understanding. How dors one progress a relationship if you don't bother to ' date'. I asked him from the very beginning if he didn't have time don't date. Everytime I want to end it, he would incessantly try to make excuses. Big deal About what he is telling you, what he is showing you is what matters. Edit : read last message... Best of luck
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