SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Most of our (failed) relationship seemed to involve defending, explaining and rationalizing incidents. On both our parts. I have a tendency to look back and analyze like this: If only I had done <x> on <date> If she had not done <x> then <y> would not have happened. If we both would have done <x> etc.... We had those conversations so often that it was exhausting, I felt like a hamster in the wheel. And it occurred to me; the details are not important. At all. The details could be replaced with practically anything and nothing would change. What brought us to a fiery end was not any one or two or even ten thousand "things". It was due to lack of maturity, personalities, trust issues and unhealthy patterns. In other words, it would have kept going on and on and on like a Broadway play that just keeps running. Maybe this will help someone out there getting a different perspective on things. I think it is helping me, not only to understand what happened but to learn and grow from it. 4
SSexySSadie Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I think that's a very healthy way of looking at it....bravo!
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