Necromancer Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I always see women here comment...."you need more confidence", "it´s your bad aura that is unattractive", and so on.... I laugh at that answers like that!, because in reality there are VERY few people that have some unattractive vipe. Most guy´s don´t have a outstanding personality and never will. I have seen TOTAL LOSERS with pretty face get A LOT of girls....guy´s that have no personality and socially awkward. Female friend told me one time "if a guy´s face is unattractive there is nothing he can do". Face is 80% of the attraction. Btw guy´s that think they are friendzoned because they are to "nice" are total losers....it´s because there is a lack of a physical attraction.
Seneca Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I disagree. And the reason I disagree is because I know a guy that some would think would never get a girl... Honestly, I have a lot of respect for the guy because he knows he is not that great looking. He's a big guy, short, and has hair growing everywhere. But he just gets the ladies like it's nothing. Or how about Voltaire. He was considered an ugly man. But he was known for being a ladies man. His famous quote, “Give me but 5 minutes to talk away my ugly face and I will bed the Queen of France!”
Author Necromancer Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 I disagree. And the reason I disagree is because I know a guy that some would think would never get a girl... Honestly, I have a lot of respect for the guy because he knows he is not that great looking. He's a big guy, short, and has hair growing everywhere. But he just gets the ladies like it's nothing. Or how about Voltaire. He was considered an ugly man. But he was known for being a ladies man. His famous quote, “Give me but 5 minutes to talk away my ugly face and I will bed the Queen of France!” Maybe he is a exception......but what about the other 6342341213234 ugly guy´s that don´t get girls? You´r friend is still not pulling good looking girls....he may get average or slightly above that. famous people don´t count! i am talking about people without Money/fame/status. 1
Nikki Sahagin Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I do think it's tougher for guys because women have a gazillion and one things to use to make themselves more physically appealing, from make-up to underwear that holds them in to hair extensions and fake eye lashes (depending on your tastes...). But it means that an average girl can be more beautiful and a plain girl can be more noticable AT LEAST, and if you are skilled with a makeup brush you can make yourself a work of art. Men can't rely on any of those things so I think it is harder if a man doesn't have a naturally nice face. 1
EasyHeart Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 It depends on what you want. If you want a crowd of women hanging around you at a bar, then looks are pretty much the only thing that matters. If you want a girlfriend, then you need to offer more than just a pretty face. The average-looking guy with the super-hot wife or girlfriend is a cliche for a reason: it happens all the time. Most of my friends are average to dorky looking, but almost all of them have breath-takingly beautiful wives. I'm certainly not a great-looking guy, but I've always dated gorgeous women. I'm positive that when other guys see me with my girlfriend, a lot of them are thinking "What the hell is she doing with THAT guy?!?" Yup. I'm "That guy". And I like it that way.
gaius Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I've never seen a socially awkward guy get a ton of women no matter how good looking he was. I've seen some pretty boring and snooze worthy guys get a lot of women because they were attractive though. Girls would laugh at material like “why did the chicken cross the road” when it came from their mouths. They do need a minimum level of social competency. The real truth is that most guys who don't get women don't really want them. There are just as many hideous women out there as there are hideous guys, no excuse for not being with someone because of your looks.
darkmoon Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 nobody can be certain who will find who physically attractive
lso802 Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 so the average looking guy wants a beautiful woman? can't complain when the standards go both ways.
wwwjd Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 sure looks matter, but sometimes not. there is a mysterious SOMETHING that science can't predict between people sometimes. sometimes two people that may not LOOK perfect TO each other can see each other across the room and connect on some weird spiritual/metaphysical/emotional level where looks don't seem to play into it at all, and live happily ever after. I call it: SOUL MATING
udolipixie Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Looks tend to matter a lot if you're a gal as youth/beauty tends to be most important to many guys and what they approach based on. Looks tend to matter if you're a guy as women are less visual. From my experiences/observations guys generally tend to have a far easier time having relationships/marriages with gals more attractive than them. As well as ugly guys tend to have a far easier time than ugly guys concerning relationships/marriages finding it easier to get a more attractive partner. To me it tends to be that when talking about ugly guys dating prospects the norm is "I bet that ugly guy can get average and above average gals but not hotties". That tends to be the disbelief with ugly guys not that he can't get a gal or more attractive gal but that he can't get an extremely attractive gal.
Nikki Sahagin Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I think women are actually more visual than men personally. How many times do you hear of a woman noticing a womans change of hair or nail polish when it doesn't even register with a man? I personally find this a big misconception. I think women are VERY visual. 6
udolipixie Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I think women are actually more visual than men personally. How many times do you hear of a woman noticing a womans change of hair or nail polish when it doesn't even register with a man? I personally find this a big misconception. I think women are VERY visual. There's a difference to me between noticing details and being visual in regards to attraction. Research has shown the difference in visual attraction in gal and guy brains.
PJKino Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 (edited) Coludnt agree more while you need a personality to keep a relationship looks get you in the door and if you dont past that looks threshold you have little chance.. I love the magic confidence word thrown around as if its a magic potion..I make a thread how many good looking friend gets tons of women and they say i should ask him for tips when its his looks get his foot in the door.. Random women dont approach him because they sense something great about him he gets approached because hes good looking..Yeah u need more ten that to sustain something but he gets tons of opportunities with women because of his looks. Edited April 8, 2012 by PJKino
PJKino Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I think women are actually more visual than men personally. How many times do you hear of a woman noticing a womans change of hair or nail polish when it doesn't even register with a man? I personally find this a big misconception. I think women are VERY visual. Couldn't agree more how many celebrity crushes do women have? Women are extremely visual plus i think they have a less diverse taste in Men then vice versa i think women are even more picker then Men and have more strict requirements when it comes to looks then Men contrary to popular belief..
mesmerized Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Couldn't agree more how many celebrity crushes do women have? Women are extremely visual plus i think they have a less diverse taste in Men then vice versa i think women are even more picker then Men and have more strict requirements when it comes to looks then Men contrary to popular belief.. No, women definitely are more diverse in their taste. There are just some stuff that are almost universal. Like most women prefer taller men or broad shoulders. 1
NYC-BigKat Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 It depends on what you want. If you want a crowd of women hanging around you at a bar, then looks are pretty much the only thing that matters. If you want a girlfriend, then you need to offer more than just a pretty face. The average-looking guy with the super-hot wife or girlfriend is a cliche for a reason: it happens all the time. Most of my friends are average to dorky looking, but almost all of them have breath-takingly beautiful wives. I'm certainly not a great-looking guy, but I've always dated gorgeous women. I'm positive that when other guys see me with my girlfriend, a lot of them are thinking "What the hell is she doing with THAT guy?!?" Yup. I'm "That guy". And I like it that way. I'm avg with a little bit of weight on me & never can pull a pretty girl so I wanna see some pics of u & your gf or dorky friends with these pretty girls to know if this is true 'cause I doubt it.
NYC-BigKat Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 (edited) It depends on what you want. If you want a crowd of women hanging around you at a bar, then looks are pretty much the only thing that matters. If you want a girlfriend, then you need to offer more than just a pretty face. The average-looking guy with the super-hot wife or girlfriend is a cliche for a reason: it happens all the time. Most of my friends are average to dorky looking, but almost all of them have breath-takingly beautiful wives. I'm certainly not a great-looking guy, but I've always dated gorgeous women. I'm positive that when other guys see me with my girlfriend, a lot of them are thinking "What the hell is she doing with THAT guy?!?" Yup. I'm "That guy". And I like it that way. Lets see please. Edited April 8, 2012 by NYC-BigKat repeated posts.
sid3 Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 No, women definitely are more diverse in their taste. There are just some stuff that are almost universal. Like most women prefer taller men or broad shoulders. This is true much of the time. My friend brought a few of her single friends out with us last night.Only the most attractive men caught their attention. They were absolutely brutal criticizing all the other men, too short, too skinny, balding, blah, blah.... Shallow to say the least.
SteveC80 Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 This is true much of the time. My friend brought a few of her single friends out with us last night.Only the most attractive men caught their attention. They were absolutely brutal criticizing all the other men, too short, too skinny, balding, blah, blah.... Shallow to say the least. funny part is the ones criticizing were probably nothing special themselves I agree women can be quite vicious about looks but if you would say something equally as harsh to them theyd be jumping off a ledge
AD1980 Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Where did this notion that looks dont matter much to women come from? Couldn't be further from the truth Cant tell you how many times ive heard women ripping some random dude to shreds about his looks,or the dirty looks i get approaching women before i even say a word while my attractive friend gets the opposite reaction
Woggle Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Of course they do to most people in general and don't let anybody tell you different.
sid3 Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 funny part is the ones criticizing were probably nothing special themselves I agree women can be quite vicious about looks but if you would say something equally as harsh to them theyd be jumping off a ledge You're right, they weren't really. One was a bit chubby, the other two were thin and kinda cute. Guess which one was the most picky out of the three of them. Yeah, go figure.
Negative Nancy Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Female friend told me one time "if a guy´s face is unattractive there is nothing he can do". Face is 80% of the attraction. i agree with this to an extent. face is more important than body, but a handsome face or a good body cannot compensate a bad personality. 2
FitChick Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I have seen TOTAL LOSERS with pretty face get A LOT of girls....guy´s that have no personality and socially awkward. Female friend told me one time "if a guy´s face is unattractive there is nothing he can do". Face is 80% of the attraction. If you believe that, save your money and find a good plastic surgeon. Problem solved!
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