am i a weak person for this?

[suchatrip]

ok, so heres the story. im 21 and i met my ex the day i turned 18. we were together for a year and a half and she broke up with me. i think about her literally every single day. ive been trying to move on but i really havent had any feelings for a girl since my ex. i kept talking to her and telling her how i felt about her and watched her start to care less and less about me. eventually i stopped talking to her. we hadn't spoken for about 4 months and i texted her on christmas just to wish her a happy one. then i ran into her on new years and we had the most awkward conversation ive ever had with another person. my birthday was a few days later and she texted me and i hadnt spoken to her since, until the other day, which was her birthday. i still love her with all my heart but i know she doesnt feel the same. ive dated other girls but not for more than a few weeks because on my end there is nothing there. should i just not talk to my ex? should i tell her how ive been feeling? how do i get over her? i need some advice. i cant really talk to my friends about this cuz i feel like this situation makes me a weak person

[Mr Scorpio]

Some people would say that this makes you a weak person. They would be wrong, but they still might say it. Except for people who abandon all their partners and never get dumped before marrying, heartbreak is universal. To paraphrase the great Richard Pryor, "a man cannot graduate until a woman breaks your heart, that is your diploma".

 

How to get over her? Realize that you are veryyoung. I don't say that to diminish your pain. However, the truth is that your entire life is ahead of you. Don't let one person out of six-billion dominate it. At your age you are just beginning to explore what you want out of a relationship and what kind of person works for you.

 

Worry about working on yourself, getting an education, and choosing a career path. Work on finding you. Then you may find "the one".

[perryb13]

Hey man, im also 21, and if you're a weak person for feeling like this, its safe to say we're all weak. Not having closure after a seemingly one sided break up sucks. Im going through the same thing. I ended it with my ex but she moved on to another guy after weeks. It's an awful feeling, but the best treatment i've found is to have a friend (I usually pick a friend that's female) talk on the phone with you and just listen to you rant. It picks you up and dusts you off. It'll help you realize that it's silly to waste your energy on someone you can't realistically have anymore. We're both young and wasting precious days feeling down seems just silly haha.