SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 and I am thinking....why should that bother me? Seriously, I have so much that I could be doing. Playing my guitar. Reading. Singing. Watching something I have been putting off. Meditating. Relaxing. Writing. Calling friends. Oh wait, they are all out with their SOs.... It's interesting to me that I allowed myself to get into such a routine with her, everything revolved around doing things with her that I somehow lost myself along the way. While it's good to share life with someone it's not good to lose yourself in the process. So. Lesson learned. Get up, dummy. DO something. 2
esteem-jam Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 While I have not been in a R where the person is part of my daily life, I think I can understand. The biggest motivation waking up and getting out of the bed in the morning is thought: "you know, that coffee wont prepare itself" =)
SSexySSadie Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 and I am thinking....why should that bother me? Seriously, I have so much that I could be doing. Playing my guitar. Reading. Singing. Watching something I have been putting off. Meditating. Relaxing. Writing. Calling friends. Oh wait, they are all out with their SOs.... It's interesting to me that I allowed myself to get into such a routine with her, everything revolved around doing things with her that I somehow lost myself along the way. While it's good to share life with someone it's not good to lose yourself in the process. So. Lesson learned. Get up, dummy. DO something. Awwwwww you are so sweet. You're not a dummy, what you're going through is normal doll. It's not easy to start over...........but it's important to try. I wish you luck;)
sweetheart5381 Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 and I am thinking....why should that bother me? Seriously, I have so much that I could be doing. Playing my guitar. Reading. Singing. Watching something I have been putting off. Meditating. Relaxing. Writing. Calling friends. Oh wait, they are all out with their SOs.... It's interesting to me that I allowed myself to get into such a routine with her, everything revolved around doing things with her that I somehow lost myself along the way. While it's good to share life with someone it's not good to lose yourself in the process. So. Lesson learned. Get up, dummy. DO something. Nice post It's funny, in one of my most recent conversations with my ex I said the same thing - he asked about my "love/hate" behaviours, it was the reason he broke up with me and he could not figure it out. I hadn't realized til after the breakup that I was acting that way because I feared "losing myself in a relationship". I also told him I "loved him deeply but hated myself for it too". We are talking now that he understands a little more. Getting lost in a relationship is not healthy for the mind or the body. Excellent advice to get up and do something YOU want to do.
Mr Scorpio Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 It does take a little while to adapt after you've lost a comfortable relationship. For me it was GIGS; when I was in the relationship I wanted a night to myself to do single-guy stuff. After I lost the relationship, I wanted the couples-routine, whether it was being dragged off to a family function or spending a night playing board games. Eventually, you reach an equilibrium. It sounds like you're there.
Author SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 Aw you guys are great. I have never been called Doll before It was actually a rough night, all of my plans fell through and I ended up going out by myself only to feel like "that guy" and abruptly went back home. It's an up and down process, I understand that. Good days and bad days. Just trying my best to put one foot in front of the other. 1
SSexySSadie Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Aw you guys are great. I have never been called Doll before It was actually a rough night, all of my plans fell through and I ended up going out by myself only to feel like "that guy" and abruptly went back home. It's an up and down process, I understand that. Good days and bad days. Just trying my best to put one foot in front of the other. That's all anybody can do ...doll..lol. It'll get easier with time, I promise:)
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