girlfriend breaks up with me out of no where.

[yellafella]

So, I met this girl online and we talked for on and off for 6 months before I met her in person. We had a FWB type thing going on for about a week before she says she likes me but isn't sure she was done being single. I told her i liked her too and for her to take her time. We started to see eachother almost everyday and she would always want me to stay a night with her. The problem was I didn't have a car at the time and she was the only one that does. Somehow it worked out she would always want to come get me after I get off of work and we would spend the night together. After about a month or so of doing this she just suddenly breaks up with me and tells me that we aren't good for eachother. I was totally shocked because our relationship was going so good. She would text me back and forth and i was just wondering why she broke it off.

 

After Some time she was asking me to go see her to go hang out. during the black friday shopping time. i declined her and throughout that whole night she was texting me. I told her that i missed her and she told me she missed me too and told me that she had sex with someone else when we weren't together. So i tried to tell her goodnight because it made me upset. told her that I still liked her. so we stopped texting for an hour or so then she started to text me again. so i responded back to her. I told her that i was hot and she said she was so cold outside waiting in those lines. So i told her i wish i was there holding her and that we never broke up. She said to me that i was a sweetheart and she would welcome me at that time. so the whole night we text back and forth up until around 5 when she went home to sleep.

 

After some time of just texting back and forth to see how eachother were doing. she text me and asked me if i would go to six flag with her as friends. I declined her advance and told her, no since I still had feelings. She wanted me to go with her and help with her youngest(shes a single mother of two and the youngest loved me at that point in time) she basically pulled out all stops on me saying she'll pay for everything (entrance to the park and hotel fees). I said i would love to but no.

the whole time she was there she was texting me telling me that she got free entrance and stuff. Then she text me that she was in a line and in front of her was a group of asian guys and it reminded her of me(I'm the first asian guy that she ever dated and had sex with at that point)So i was thinking to myself at that point maybe she wanted to be with me again.

 

On her way back she was still texting me. This time she said she was in a bind and needed someone to watch her 3 year old the next day. So the nice guy i am finally agreed to help her out.. She also asked me for another favor. She wanted to have sex with me. So we ended up having sex that night after going to a hockey game together with her 3 year old. the next day i watched her kid cleaned up the house because it was a mess and i don't like a messy house. She came home saw the house was clean and was happy. She then had to go in for a second shift and while she was at work she text me that she never had such strong feelings about me that if i wanted another chance with her. Ofcourse after thinking it over i told her sure i would love another chance... well that didnt last long a week and a half later we broke up again. This time she said i needed to improve that i needed to grow up. I just didn't get it because i was treating her so well and suddenly out of no where she broke up with me again.

 

After about a month of being apart. we would text once in awhile she would call me to ask how i was doing and whatnot. Well I had to go out of town about 2 hours from home to work and i had no signal out there just in certain locations. i told her that i was leaving for about 3 days that if i dindt answer that i was out there and had no signal.. she text me back she told me to be careful and said that she missed me.. when i got that text i lost signal so the whole entire time i was there that was sitting with me.. when i finally got signal i text her to her "I love you" then i lost signal again. when i finally was back on the road to go back home. I got her text msgs she sent me saying that she loves me to that me and her 3 year old was wearing down on her that it was hard to keep turning me away..

 

So on the way home she text me to ask me if i wanted to go out and eat with her. I agreed. When i got back in town around 12 noon i told her i was back in town so she told me she'll come by and come get me around 4ish to go eat. Since that day it was around january 30th somewhere around there when that happened we were together since. She finally changed her facebook status to in a relationship with me and told me to check my facebook when we were out shopping so i did confirmed her request of putting me in a relationship with her. then the next day while she was at work(i was at her place working on my work. landman) she text me if she was better that if shes more understanding and that if i can tell that she really loves me. I text her yes i can that i loved her too. she came home excited to see me and asked me what are the 3 things she can do better to improve our relationship. I told her just as long as shes faithful to me then i'm fine. She told me that was bullcrap that its a givin in a relationship. so i said for her to be more understanding and don't snap at me and talk about the problems she has with me so we can work it out. and i'll do the same with her. throughout the whole time we were together these guys would text her(guys she used to hook up with or date and one guy that supposed to be her friend and he's getting a divorce i always felt there was something more in between them)she wouldnt talk to them really because she would tell them that shes happy with me and whatever. throughout the next month she was learning how to say i love you, i need you and i want you in vietnamese to tell me. so i taught her and througout the last of our relationship she was telling everyone that i was an amazing man to her(i would watch her kids help her oldest do homework cook and clean) that she coudlnt ask for a better man because i do everything. that her ex husband wouldn't do anything remotely close to what i was to her.

 

then after that month her 6 year old started to say she loved me and wanted me to be her step dad and its weird because she doesn't like anyone(took her a whole year to even talk to my ex girlfriends manager)

 

so it went on everyone loved me and she was hinting for me to get her a ring so we can get married. that her last ring was only 300 she was just happy to get married. That i didn't have to get her an expensive ring or whatever. I would tell her i loved her but lets plan things out first. throughout the next month she was all over me saying how much shes in love with me that i treated her and her kids so well that she wouldnt want to lose me. then march 21st or so i finally asked her after we made love if she wanted to really marry me. she told me she didnt know(this was after we got done going to six flags the thursday before. then went to the childrens museum and the zoo which she paid for other than gas and food but mind you her old fwb text her while we were out at the childrens museum saying he broke up with his girlfriend)

the next day she text me saying honestly she coudlnt see herself marrying me. at least not right now anyway. so i txt her... saying i kinda sprung it on her and she txt me back that she knew that i had no other thoughts but her saying yes to me. but she said she was thinking alot the past couple of weeks. she came home from work that day and we talked about it. She started off by blaming me her 3 year old was having more frequent potty problems because she said i would pick on her.. Which i wasn't i was just parenting her. putting her in time out for her writing on the walls all the time. I told her sorry if she thought i was picking on her 3 year old that i would keep a more opened mind about it. I thought we made up because she grabbed me and we started to have sex. the next day. it was kind of off she didnt text me as much and then when she came home she told me she was gonna goto the hockey game with her 3 year old and her friend the guy that is getting a divorce. so i kinda felt off about that but she assured me that she loved me and held and kissed me. so that night when she came home from her second shift she text me asked me if i was cooking for her i didnt know she txt me but when she came home i grilled her a couple of hotdogs at around 10 that night. after she got done eatting she ask me if i was gonna goto bed after im done cleaning up. I told her that i needed to shower that i would be in bed after. she told me she was gonna lay down that she was tired. so i said ok. after my shower i tried to cuddle up with her and she would just push me away.. after about a couple of hours of trying i got fed up.. i sat up in bed grabbed my keys my wallet my phone and was about to leave.. she finally responded grabbed my hand and said "honey where are you going come back to bed) so i did then she finally cuddles up with me. so i thought it was blowing over. the next day i had to go do things and she had to work so we did our thing. she came home from work around 4ish was in such a hurry to head out the door again she didnt tell me she loved me. didnt hug me didnt even want to look at me and i was putting up clothes she said excuse me and didnt even want to touch me. she grabbed some clothes changed and was out the door. she left around 4:10pm the hockey game didnt start until 7 that night. So i was kinda off about that. at around 6:30 she txt me saying she got free tickets but i didnt respond to her text. Around 7:45 she text me saying that she thinks i want more than what she is able to give me in the long run. i responded back to her telling her i didnt know what to think or do. She text me back telling me to move back home and to learn to be single. I didnt know what to do because basically the girl im in love with just broke up with me. I packed up my stuff waited for her to come home to talk about it. when she came home it was 10pm.. the hockey game ended at 8pm. we talked about it some and she was so cold to me. Saying alot of hurtful things that little small things i would say would make her mad at me everyday. that i put her on a higher petastal that what she saw me at.. This was supposed to be our honeymoon state of course im gonna treat her really good.. I acknowledged that i may do some things that you get mad at me about but i informed her she did some stuff but i overlooked it to work out our small issues with eachother. she text me that she would rather hurt me now then more down in the future that she didn't want to end up like her friend and his wife. She also compared our relationship to her and her ex boyfriend. said she was absolutely in love with him but they had a couple of small problems and broke up over it. i said its not fair for her to compare our relationship to anyone else relationship that just because all these people had problems doesnt mean we are. (her old fwb text her and basically told her to break up with me)

It feels as if she ended our relationship prematurely and she was nitpicking at small things and really didnt want to resolve them she also said we shouldnt have any small problems like this that we should be completely happy. which is impossible.. everyone will get mad at eachtoher for some things its just whoever can work it out is whats different. I feel as if she let outside influences help her decision to break up with me and it basically came out of no where and she was making any excuse to break up with me.. It feels as if she was trying to make herself available also. I don't get it i was such a good boyfriend and father figure to her kids.. what more could i have done to show her that i loved her.(i also asked her what was these past 2 months about that why did she asked me to move in with her. She responded that she didnt ask me it just happened and the past 2 months is to see if she was really in love with me. and she also added that i didnt bring the best out in her that i dont push her to do better.. which is total bs because i do..)

Edited April 7, 2012 by yellafella

[yellafella]

i feel totally out of control in this situation. i completely fell in love with her at this point in time. i saw a bright future with her and suddenly she says she didn't see it with me anymore. I just don't get it. we get along so well together. we were so comfortable together. This time she deleted me from facebook. and we have been NC for a week and a half now and its killing me. the whole time she was telling me and showing me she was in love with me and suddenly it all changed and she changed her mind just like that. i don't get it i miss her so much and i know she loves me she just doesn't want to show me and i dont get it? what are your guys input in this matter?