Ghisop Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 So I am a little nutty- I admit. During a google search I found a website called loving from a distance that had ideas of things you can do to feel "more together". Some of them were a little cheesy and others were pretty cool. We do the talking/text/Skype thing -And I've made him play games on our phones with me, he humors me. We recently went to see a movie "together" and then called when it was done. Both of those were ideas from that website. Any ideas anyone has tried that seem to help out coping? One idea I saw that was really cool was ordering him a pizza - and paying for it after he's had a tough day, that's next on the list : ) 2
january2011 Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 send each other an item of clothing, a t-shirt or top that holds memories (works best if you're actually met)send care packages for birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, just becausetext links of funny articles, videos, websites, etc.email photos of something you saw during your daykeep Skype video running while you go about doing everyday chores, such as cooking, cleaning, etc.tell each other about your day and updates of anything that's ongoingleave Skype video running while you're asleepshare meals together over Skypeif your computer and internet connection can handle it, watch a movie together onlinekeep Skype running even if you have people over - introduce each other to friends and family The basic aim is to integrate your LDR into your everyday life so that he/she can be there and share your life, no matter how mundane or exciting. Just because you can't be there physically, doesn't mean that you can't be together virtually - and I don't mean 'in spirit'. 2
Author Ghisop Posted April 7, 2012 Author Posted April 7, 2012 I love love love the idea of eating dinner over Skype! Why didn't I think of that! My bf usually thinks mostbof my ideas are silly but he's a good sport and usually ends up liking them once I've made him do it. When we live together i used to always make a big deal about sunday dinner.. Had to be homemade and sit down at the table, even just typing that mad emebthink how fun it would be for us to pick a recipe the day before the cook and eat over skype Thank you for such an awesome idea! 1
LDR234 Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 i send my boyfriend random postcards when ever I go some place new. Like when I went to texas for an award ceremony with my mom and got a postcard and sent it to him. I moved to the west coast so I could be closer to him, so when ever I do touristy things like visit Hollywood or when friends visit me and we head out other places, I am sure to get the postcards. I went to a comic convention and they gave out cards so I sent one to him telling him how much I would have loved to spent the comic convention with him. There are also free 8x10 collage prints you can get at walgreens for free by checking the website from time to time. I order it for in-store pick up to where he is and he can go pick up the order with pictures from our previous trips to places when we last met up again! 1
Feelin Frisky Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 If you learn to master what is possible with Google Maps and Google Earth, you can both tour familiar places in each other's knowledge as well as explore other places together by following each other's path's. This isn't hard. Let's say, you LDR lover is someone you only know from a forum or other site and maybe have met but have to have this distance thing still between you. You can both go into Google Maps and put in addresses of places you'd like to show your partner (and vice versa) and then if a picture comes up, you click on it and the maps turns into you being on the real street in front of that address where you can turn around in day time and move through the streets. I thought of showing my friend Coney Island which I explored with Google Maps and I know intimately from living nearby for much of my life and historically what used to be on those sites. We didn't get to do that but perhaps we shall still. I think this technology is fantastic. 2
Author Ghisop Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 Post cards is a great idea- especially because he only gets bills and junk mail. I try to get a card in the mail every so often just so he has something fun. But I admit, we talk so much its kind of hard to fill out a whole card and find something interesting - post card... Problem solved! Plus he really encourages me to have a life here while we are separated - and I think that's a fun way to do it and still include him! Google maps will be tricky because I don't have any computer skill.. But I want to learn now because he is in the process of moving to our final destination and I have never been there...that would be a great way to explore together! I love hearing all these ideas : ) 1
Feelin Frisky Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Post cards is a great idea- especially because he only gets bills and junk mail. I try to get a card in the mail every so often just so he has something fun. But I admit, we talk so much its kind of hard to fill out a whole card and find something interesting - post card... Problem solved! Plus he really encourages me to have a life here while we are separated - and I think that's a fun way to do it and still include him! Google maps will be tricky because I don't have any computer skill.. But I want to learn now because he is in the process of moving to our final destination and I have never been there...that would be a great way to explore together! I love hearing all these ideas : ) When you get to street level, you can click on the circle on the ground to turn around (drag), and you click on the arrows on the streets to advance down that street. If you hold the mouse button down on an arrow, you start almost "driving" down that street. Arrows at corners let you go down other streets. You'll discover things the more you try ideas and look for ways to accomplish them. maps.google.com 1
quankanne Posted April 10, 2012 Posted April 10, 2012 he worked in my college town for the better part of a year, so he was familiar with some of the local gossip. When he went to work overseas, I'd clip out police reports or silly news items with comments peppered on the page, then send them to him. And I still do that ~ find odd or funny stuff to email him, simply because that's a part of our relationship all these years later!
Author Ghisop Posted April 11, 2012 Author Posted April 11, 2012 That will be a fun idea - seeing he just moved from the town we both used to live in ( i moved first, then him - and im going to join him in about 7 months if all goes well)! I'm going to start trolling the paper for corky stories. So I tried a huge step for him- I mailed him a book I finished reading. He hates reading but says he'll give it a try. My one complaint about him is he doesn't read so I'm hoping this gives him a kick in the butt. 1
quankanne Posted April 11, 2012 Posted April 11, 2012 book thing is a really good idea ... sometimes I'll read the funnier passages outloud to my husband, who seems to enjoy it
callmegee Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Is this the website Ghisop? @ Long Distance Relationships - Advice, Tips, Forum, Goodies, and More!
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