toofaraway Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 So to make this short this is what basically happened... i broke up with my boyfriend a couple of days ago and im starting to second guess my decision. we've been dating for a year and we saw each other almost everyday. i texted him a couple times implying that i want to see him or even just to talk through text but he says he feels its too soon and he wants his space. i dont have an issue giving him space but i just feel like if i do he may forget about me and just enjoy being single... we talked for a bit today and he tells me he still has alot of feelings for me but he thought the decision was right because we just werent working out. i guess my problem is when should i try to talk to him again?.... i know some of you might think until he talks to me but i dont want him to move on from me... i feel like because our relationship isnt working right now doesnt mean it wont later on.
TaraMaiden Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Well, you're the dumper, and if he were posting we would be telling him to cut everything off with you completely, go No Contact and not answer your texts, emails or messages, and take no notice of anything you try to do. You dumped him. He's told you what his view is - that he wants space, but that ulltimately, perhaps you're right, because it's not working. so what you have to do now - is to accept his decision, do as he asks, and give him the space you decided to give him - permanently - in the first place. Leave it completely alone for a month - then, when you contact him, there is only one thing you can say to him, that might work: "I am so sorry i hurt you. I realise now I have made the most stupid mistake of my life, and I really, bitterly regret ever having done it. I will do whatever it takes, to put this right between us - counselling, therapy, whatever. But please will you forgive me - and can we try again?" those who have been dumped are advised that anything else other than this message, is nothing but breadcrumbs. But there is no guarantee this will work, at all, and indeed, you may have well lost him. But that's the risk you take, when you dump someone. They'll take you at your word.
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