sweetheart5381 Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 I'm not here to minimize anyone's pain here, heartbreak is incredibly painful. I want everyone to keep it in perspective though. It's easy to let a heartbreak rule your life and dictate your behaviour and emotions. I was raped Monday night by a virtual stranger.. the ex suddenly disappeared from my thoughts in those minutes and has been replaced by atrocious thoughts and emotions, far worse than heartbreak. Keep the pain in perspective and take care of yourself. You will end up needing yourself and your own resources far more than an ex in a time of crisis.
lizardking8610 Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 I am so sorry for you!!!! If their is anything I or this forum could do for you please share. I will say a prayer for you! You are right it's always wise to keep things in perspective! I am sorry that this lesson came at such a high cost to you personally but I believe it was a courageous step to share with us on this thread about your ordeal! Keep your head up! Try to smile! Buy a kitten!
Author sweetheart5381 Posted April 7, 2012 Author Posted April 7, 2012 I am so sorry for you!!!! If their is anything I or this forum could do for you please share. I will say a prayer for you! You are right it's always wise to keep things in perspective! I am sorry that this lesson came at such a high cost to you personally but I believe it was a courageous step to share with us on this thread about your ordeal! Keep your head up! Try to smile! Buy a kitten! Thank you.. and yes it is an ordeal that I hope no else has to go thru. I don't see it as a lesson, rather an awakening that really, really bad things can happen and you literally need all of your individual resources to deal with it. No room for anyone else's emotions or needs, just my own in order to deal with such an aweful, disgusting act of violence. That's why it is imperative that we all take care of ourselves. In the end it is the individual who will have to face the worst parts of life - support is great but what you really need is yourself and faith that you are gonna make it. Personal strength is what gets you through all the tough parts of life. 5
ElizaV Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry to hear what happened to you. That has to be one of the hardest things to overcome in life. I hope you are surrounded by people who care about you, and if necessary, see a counsellor. I completely agree with your point though - there are much harder things in life than breakups. It can just be very difficult to see that when your heart is broken. Hopefully this thread will open some people's eyes though, and perhaps make them feel a little better about their problems.
TaraMaiden Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 sweetheart55381, i can have no idea how you must be feeling right now, but if it is any help - i can remember many years ago, when perhaps I felt exactly as you do now. nobody can share you feelings, and know precisely what is in your mind; all i will say is that you can either let such an experience destroy you, or use it to make you into a much stronger being. If you want to PM me - we can talk. Much metta and karuna to you. you're in my thoughts. XX
rejected_lost Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I'm really sorry to hear that... but it's good to see it has not made you think like it's the end of the world... continue to stay strong... you are in my prayers and thoughts... take care...
sid3 Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I hope they caught the guy. Why rapists don't get their dicks cut off is beyond me. Let the punishment fit the crime.
ThatDudeXO Posted April 8, 2012 Posted April 8, 2012 I'm so so so sorry to hear that. I can't imagine how damaging such an awful act is. I hope they catch that guy and he has to go through it a million times in jail. Still, I tried to keep a breakup in perspective, I had so much crap going on around me but still, nothing could keep the pain away. It's pathetic how we pine over a break up when there's so much worse happening in the world but we still can't help it.
Author sweetheart5381 Posted April 8, 2012 Author Posted April 8, 2012 Thank you everyone for all of your kind words. Like a breakup, the death of a loved one, a tragic accident, and the list goes on, you have to take emotional and physical trauma one day at a time. Yes, someone can attempt to steal your power and succeed temporarily but in the end we all have the choice to take it back and not let it control our lives. For me, it will be in having this bastard brought to justice, even if it is the more difficult thing to do. Healing comes in doing the "right" thing - most often this is the harder path. If I can prevent another woman from suffering such pain then the temporary discomfort of "reliving it" through the justice system will be well worth it.
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