Is love sweeter the second time around?

[black_shemer]

,so ok i hv dis guy our relationshp went on for about 2 years and believe it or not,no sex involve only necking.nweiz,hes been cold to me and so i calls it off.den i heard he has a new gf den from common friends also,after 3months they broke up.and now he wants me back.do i have to give him second chance?does he even worth it??ur answer is a big help!thanks in advance!

[TaraMaiden]

ln answer to your question, no.

 

Is English your mother tongue...?

The title is perfect. the post.... less so.....

[black_shemer]

im sorry if im not that good in english but im trying.

 

could u be more specific why no?

thank u so much!

[jennisfora]

you don't have to give him a second chance, the answer is do you want to, and why?

 

i would wonder about a two year relationship that never progressed physically as well. how old are you? as far as him being worth it, there isn't enough information to go on. i dont know him, i only know that he wasn't intimate, got even colder, then had a 3 month relationship, and now wants you back..did he ever treat you well? or was he always cold? have you had any other relationships to compare this one to?

[TaraMaiden]

because if it went wrong before, unless you two have addressed what incompatibilities existed before, there's nothing to stop it crashing again.

 

See, you had 2 years together, then you broke it off because he just went cold on you, then he found a new GF and now you just want to plunge back in and see whether it works or not?

 

2-year relationship and no sex? Why?

 

hmmm, really, i wouldn't risk it....

[black_shemer]

,to start with,we really had a great time having together.there are times dat he insist sex but i am afraid of doing it since we are only teenager and still studying.he respect my decision and leave it like that.

 

I forgot to tell u guys dat my mother does not like him its because dey were poor and so because we loved each other so much,i told my mother dat we broke up but not really.yes its a secret realtionshp on my side.on his part,his family accept me wide open.

 

Unfortunately,my mother caught us so she warned him not to see me again.from dat tym he began cold,and so i called it off. He said to me,that if we really made for each other,we will.. I cried day and nights remebering all the memories we had.

 

Until i heard from our common friend he has seeing someone else.that is his 3months relationship,i cant believe he could do such a thing.and so this last january up to now april,he contact me toatleast see each other and talk about our past relationshp.i dont know if its right thing to do.

 

Sigh.thanks for the response guys.

By d way,im only 19.i dont think sex is necessary to make relationhp last long.so there

[jennisfora]

okay, that makes sense why no sex, i agree that it isn't something you should do if you are still in school, could mess up alot of well laid plans. it could be that the family pressure was too much for him, he was respecting your mom's wishes, and trying to move on by dating this other girl.

 

i really don't know what you should do, because if your family doesn't like him, that problem will probably never go away. it is something you should think about too. is that something, that obstacle, something you are willing to deal with for the long term?

 

if you do ever have sex, make sure you use every precaution. but i think at your age, it was sensible not to.

[black_shemer]

,thank you for all your wonderful time you all supported to answer me.

 

I guess im so desperate finding the right move towards this situation.i feel pressured everytime he insist me to met and talk.

 

I just dont understand y am i given a family dat so strict.i hav high grades,academic scholar actually.im not into sex,no drinking and i dont like smoking.compared to other youths who are so wasted,they should have d one given wid a parents like mine.

[black_shemer]

,any updates??thank you for ur time!