watermelonjuice Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 There's this guy that talks to me quite a bit. Usually he holds my gaze and looks away as any normal human being would every now and then. But the other day I noticed that when I looked up as he was talking, he averted his gaze like he was embarassed. I can't help but feel like there was more than just another looking away before looking back. Am I being sensitive or can any guy provide any guidance to that? Do interested guys always hold their gaze? What does it mean when they suddenly avert their gaze?
darkmoon Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 in the light of no men coming fwd, me a woman sees body language of he-needs-to-level-with-you but maybe wait in case this body languge passes and gets back to normal
Pierre Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 There's this guy that talks to me quite a bit. Usually he holds my gaze and looks away as any normal human being would every now and then. But the other day I noticed that when I looked up as he was talking, he averted his gaze like he was embarassed. I can't help but feel like there was more than just another looking away before looking back. Am I being sensitive or can any guy provide any guidance to that? Do interested guys always hold their gaze? What does it mean when they suddenly avert their gaze? Gazing at you means interest. Intense gazing from a stranger without turning the eyes away could be associated with a very intense MAN and this could be a sign of a pathologic personality. BTW, if a woman knows a man is gazing at her then it means she is also gazing at the man.:laugh:
wwwjd Posted April 7, 2012 Posted April 7, 2012 Intense gazing from a stranger without turning the eyes away could be associated with a very intense MAN and this could be a sign of a pathologic personality. I respect this perspective and understand its roots, but do not believe that is always the case. No dis on the poster, I'm focusing on this particular preception. In my art of communication I've learned to maintain solid eye contact for very long periods of time. Not talking creepy, weirdo pathologic gawking, just simple, casual keeping constant eye contact during conversation out of respect for the person and the discussion at hand. People that glance about during talks are usually not REALLY paying attention to the talker. Also, women love eye contact and it is a confident looking thing. So, people that are good at eye contact, are not always intense or pathological personality wise. Maybe just good listeners.
Author watermelonjuice Posted April 7, 2012 Author Posted April 7, 2012 Could be a "flinch". Most guys generally try to come across confidently when they're hunting for a woman, but sometimes they flinch due to a bit of nervousness or insecurity or shyness, because a guy can't be superman all the f*cking time. It could even depend on how he feels on that particular day. For example there are days a guy can feel more confident than others. You might have caught him on one of his "weaker" days. It's also that it doesn't have to mean anything, it could be general nervousness, social anxiety, shyness or just an odd twitch. Either way it was probably a flinch of some sort, but that doesn't necessarily have to indicate interest. I often look women straight in the eyes when they pass me by and I also hold my gaze for quite long, but again, that doesn't have to mean anything in my particular case. I sometimes just do that to see if they're looking and for how long they keep their gaze. Neither does it have to mean anything when I avert my gaze. The best way to gauge a regular guy's genuine interest is to allow for situations where an emotional connection or even emotional bond can be created. Once that is established, a guy will generally expose his interest or deny interest. At which point you quite likely know how he really feels about you. Now that you mentioned, it did seem to be just a flinch. I respect this perspective and understand its roots, but do not believe that is always the case. No dis on the poster, I'm focusing on this particular preception. In my art of communication I've learned to maintain solid eye contact for very long periods of time. Not talking creepy, weirdo pathologic gawking, just simple, casual keeping constant eye contact during conversation out of respect for the person and the discussion at hand. People that glance about during talks are usually not REALLY paying attention to the talker. Also, women love eye contact and it is a confident looking thing. So, people that are good at eye contact, are not always intense or pathological personality wise. Maybe just good listeners. I don't like constant eye contact. I can't say 100% that I lack confidence but I find long eye contact intense and I really don't like it. So I tend to look away at times.
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